Why do people NOW want to date me?

[Twalli]

Before I got a girlfriend nobody online expressed interest in me, and I was actually on a dating site (which is designed for finding people for dates). Now that I have a girlfriend (and deleted or deactivated the dating profile), 3 people have wanted to date me. Two expressed interest, but one wanted money and the other wanted to sext with me if I was a girl, so I don't count them. Yet 3 people asked me to date them. Why did this only happen after I couldn't date them? Granted I wouldn't have dated the guy, but I would have dated either girl if they asked while I was single.

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I should mention, none of them knew me, none had even seen me. They knew my username and my profile picture, that's it.

[YourFavoriteFriend]

I have heard somewhere that women value the opinion of others more than they value themselves. For example, if they see you with a girl, they're gonna think that if this girls like you, then you must have something good even if they can't see it.

Personally, I believe that this is probably a bias we all have but girls have it even more.

[Guy13]

I know…. it’s craziness when that happens. I swear girls can smell it…

[peacesncream]

I don't know why but if seems when u find someone everyone wants to date u then and sometimes certain ones will try to flirt with u

[misogynistic_pig]

I have already answered this very question several times, women are more attracted to men who are already in a relationship than single men. Thus, there is evidence that copy mate choice applies to humans, as well as being a widely observed phenomenon throughout the animal world.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mate_choice_copying

[Twalli]

They don't know beforehand, it's only after I reject them. They don't actually know me.

[SnowedIn]

I wonder if it's that the actual girlfriend lent you legitimacy. Like, it's a sort of vetting? So the other girls say, "Oh, she's willing to date him? He must be okay."

[exitseven]

I have asked this very same question. Right after I got married I was hit on by 3 girls. One of them was really hot and she really put some effort into tracking me down.

[poneglyphs]

Something about when a woman sees with somebody else they start wondering what makes you so special. It's freaking dumb

[moviedude714]

Pre-selection seems to affect women's minds more than men's minds