Did I do something wrong by telling this girl I like her?

[michael3478]

I told this girl l like her and she said thank you and walked away. The other day i saw her again and she seemed to be scared of me so i kept my distance. I've been sad because im not sure what i did wrong we seemed to talk a little she even introduced herself to me and know all of a sudden, it's like we are complete strangers. If she never liked me, why would she even bother introducing herself to me?

[MrOracle]

You are making the mistake of getting too invested in someone you don't really know and whose feelings about you you don't really know. That's how you get hurt.

Unless you are Hollywood handsome, tall, wealthy, and very good with women socially (in other words, in the top 1% of all men), your success rate with women is going to be 1-2% on average. That means for every hundred women you approach as a stranger, 1 or maybe 2 will accept a date offer. If you get really good with years of practice talking to 250+ woman per year, and improving your looks/style, you might be able to grow that number to 5%, which means you will only strike out 19 out of 20 tries on average. That's all normal and common, and anyone who told you otherwise is a fool.

It's a numbers game, a game that rewards experience and guys who learn from every interaction and strive to do better every time. But you will always fail most of the time, so you should not invest yourself emotionally before you are sure she at least has some real interest in you - and even then, much of the time, that initial interest won't last. It's a numbers game.

When you approach a woman, EXPECT to be denied, but still have a bit of hope for interest. Most of the time, the answer will be No. Be nice, say "thanks for your time" and keep it rolling, and don't look back. If you still care the next day, you are getting too involved too fast. You should forget the "no" girls before you leave the room. There are millions more, and most of them will be "no" too - but there will be some "yes" answers too.

Don't let yourself get fixated on one girl who hasn't expressed real interest in you - that's a HUGE mistake. An introduction means interest is POSSIBLE, but still not likely until there are additional signs. And you should not be sharing your feelings directly before the third date at least. Most girls will be overwhelmed and get the ick. Let your actions speak for you, and be careful not to overdo those either.

[HollyK21]

“ If she never liked me, why would she even bother introducing herself to me?”


I’m not sure why you think a woman must be romantic interested in order to engage with you, like can we not be friendly? In any case, she may be keeping her distance now as not to send the wrong message.

[exitseven]

No, I had a friend that uses to ask out every girl that looked interesting. He got shot down a lot but he did go out with quite a few women. He told me that the worst thing that they can do is say no.

[Nikki1989]

You are 30, right?

Stop with the young-teenager mindset.