Did I do something wrong by telling this girl I like her?

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I told this girl l like her and she said thank you and walked away. The other day i saw her again and she seemed to be scared of me so i kept my distance. I've been sad because im not sure what i did wrong we seemed to talk a little she even introduced herself to me and know all of a sudden, it's like we are complete strangers. If she never liked me, why would she even bother introducing herself to me?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

You are making the mistake of getting too invested in someone you don't really know and whose feelings about you you don't really know. That's how you get hurt.

Unless you are Hollywood handsome, tall, wealthy, and very good with women socially (in other words, in the top 1% of all men), your success rate with women is going to be 1-2% on average. That means for every hundred women you approach as a stranger, 1 or maybe 2 will accept a date offer. If you get really good with years of practice talking to 250+ woman per year, and improving your looks/style, you might be able to grow that number to 5%, which means you will only strike out 19 out of 20 tries on average. That's all normal and common, and anyone who told you otherwise is a fool.

It's a numbers game, a game that rewards experience and guys who learn from every interaction and strive to do better every time. But you will always fail most of the time, so you should not invest yourself emotionally before you are sure she at least has some real interest in you - and even then, much of the time, that initial interest won't last. It's a numbers game.

When you approach a woman, EXPECT to be denied, but still have a bit of hope for interest. Most of the time, the answer will be No. Be nice, say "thanks for your time" and keep it rolling, and don't look back. If you still care the next day, you are getting too involved too fast. You should forget the "no" girls before you leave the room. There are millions more, and most of them will be "no" too - but there will be some "yes" answers too.

Don't let yourself get fixated on one girl who hasn't expressed real interest in you - that's a HUGE mistake. An introduction means interest is POSSIBLE, but still not likely until there are additional signs. And you should not be sharing your feelings directly before the third date at least. Most girls will be overwhelmed and get the ick. Let your actions speak for you, and be careful not to overdo those either.

fluffydevilxx · Accepted Answer

No, I don’t think you did anything wrong by telling her you liked her. Expressing your feelings respectfully is a normal part of life, and it takes courage to be honest instead of wondering “what if.”

That said, she also has the right not to feel the same way. Her saying “thank you” instead of reciprocating was likely her way of letting you down gently. If she seemed distant afterward, it’s impossible to know exactly why. She may have felt awkward, worried about leading you on, or simply wasn’t interested romantically. None of those necessarily mean you did something wrong.

As for her introducing herself and talking to you before, people can enjoy someone’s company without wanting a romantic relationship. Friendliness isn’t a promise of attraction but just as attraction isn’t a guarantee of a relationship.

I actually think you handled the next encounter well by giving her space instead of pushing for answers. That’s respectful.

Rejection hurts, especially when you thought there might be potential. Don’t let this convince you that being honest about your feelings was a mistake. The right person won’t make you regret respectfully expressing interest.

Be proud that you took your shot. Most people spend years wondering “what if?” You have your answer now, even if it wasn’t the one you hoped for. The healthiest thing you can do is accept it gracefully, keep your distance, and move forward. Someone else will appreciate the courage and sincerity you showed here.

HollyK21 · Accepted Answer

“ If she never liked me, why would she even bother introducing herself to me?”

I’m not sure why you think a woman must be romantic interested in order to engage with you, like can we not be friendly? In any case, she may be keeping her distance now as not to send the wrong message.

Smileygirl2000 · Accepted Answer

She was being nice. You took it the wrong way, got desperate and ran her off. I mean come on what normal person assumes just because someone is polite that they have a crush on them? It's weird

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Well, your profile says that you’re 30. So let’s start with your use of the term “girl” in this context. If you’re hitting on girls, knock it off.
If you meant to say ‘woman’, then any of a number of issues are in play. I strongly suggest that you forget about her. You didn’t necessarily do anything wrong, as long as she is appropriately aged, but pursuing her when she has not clearly demonstrated that she feels the same about you is a huge risk.
I haven’t dated in years, but it seems to me that some women prefer to be stalked on social media and then asked out through DMs. 😂😂😂😂
The face to face stuff is going the way of the dinosaur. Good luck with the NEXT one, but stay away from girls.

Finchie40 · Answer

She doesn’t like you the same , so that’s why she is acting creeped out by you , just ignore her and move onto someone else , and look at it as you at least you tried , instead of not trying at all , I know rejection sucks , but at least You got an answer instead of no answer at all. She isn’t interested and it’s not the end of the world , there are plenty of fish on the sea , so don’t give up and eventually you will find someone that likes you the same way you like them.

Screenwriter · Answer

Someone introducing themselves to you is simply being polite. They are not expressing interest beyond a "party" introduction: light, superficial, indicating nothing more than a "hello."

She didn't talk further to you because she didn't want you mistakenly thinking she was interested.

If you talk to a woman casually, then she re-apporaches you later, THAT indicates interest. Read body languange, Leaning in, asking you questions, laughing at things yu say. Ask males friends for help with this.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Based on what you’ve described, it doesn’t sound like you did anything wrong. You told her how you felt, she didn’t reciprocate, and that’s something that can happen even when two people have had friendly conversations.

Someone introducing themselves or being friendly isn’t necessarily a sign of romantic interest. It usually just means they’re being sociable and open to getting to know someone.

Her saying “thank you” and walking away was likely her way of acknowledging what you said without encouraging anything further. If she seems distant now, the best thing you can do is respect that space and avoid reading too much into it.

Rejection hurts, especially when you felt there was a connection, but it doesn’t mean you made a mistake by being honest about your feelings. It just means your feelings weren’t matched, and that’s nobody’s fault.

slatyb · Answer

Yes, that's fucking weird for an adult. It makes you sound like a teenager. If you are acquainted with her, make some small talk and if she engages, invite her on a date. It could be coffee or lunch or dinner or more depending on how well you know her.

melnc · Answer

Dude, even cars experts recommend warming up the engine before you drive, and you did the exact opposite 😂 I bet you thought she was a Tesla or something 😂
You should've asked her out for coffee or something and gotten to know her first. Anyway, you totally botched this one, but just chill and don't rush things next time. No need to go full throttle.

exitseven · Answer

No, I had a friend that uses to ask out every girl that looked interesting. He got shot down a lot but he did go out with quite a few women. He told me that the worst thing that they can do is say no.

Nikki1989 · Answer

You are 30, right? Stop with the young-teenager mindset.

WhitneySnow · Answer

You didn’t do anything wrong, but she’s definitely not interested. Sorry.

Micheal6918 · Answer

You didn't because you only expressed how you felt about her

Pretendingtobesweet · Answer

You are just one out of 100 men who ask her the same thing everyday

AngryCarl3 · Answer

Some girls friendzone you, some take out a restraining order. Luck of the draw.

ThisSiteSux · Answer

Yes. Never ever give a shit about a female. If you fuck up and do, don't ever ever tell a bitch you give a shit about a female.

In_Trance · Answer

Clearly it was wrong.  You didn't follow through  What's she suppose to do with that?

imemma12 · Answer

She is not for you so move on

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

No..

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