Women, would you date a nerdy, non-clubbing scientist like me?

[Anonymous]

I am a Physicist/Mathematcian from the UK and have been struggling to find a relationship forever. I am generally physically active, run in marathons and parkruns, and do bouldering and mountain biking in my spare time.

I am not into clubbing, which makes it difficult to meet women of my age. Earlier, I was more shy and mostly focused on academia and hobbies. Popular nerdy activities like board and card games, anime/video gaming aren't my interests either. I like cooking, painting, crafting, reading, and collecting books.

I did a lot of volunteering in different aspects and tried to meet similar-minded people, but barely ever met women in their twenties in such. I kinda look much younger though; most people assume I am 21-22 years old (just turned 30). I have been single my whole life, and lately having this feeling that most likely I will end up alone forever.

[HollyK21]

Honestly you may have an easier time finding women now that you’ve hit your 30s. I can’t speak for every 30-something person, but a lot of us aren’t really “clubbing” anymore in the sense that you go to some loud, crowded, sweaty place where everyone’s plastered and it smells like throw up and ass. We are in lounges, aesthetic bars, engaging our hobbies, and/or staying inside for the most part. You will surely find a woman who appreciates your laid back personality.

[jennifer_bloom]

I do not like guys that are too athletic, I feel many of them blow the idea of beauty and fitness out of proportion and turn it into a God that they worship, instead of viewing it healthily, as just another minor trait that encodes your relative fitness to be a partner and parent to bystanders with no knowledge or familiarity about you.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

I'm older than you, but yeah, I mean I love board and video games so that would be a win in my book. I would just worry not being able to keep up with you academically/mentally. You might grow bored with someone who lacks confidence in herself too.

I would say I would prefer someone more like yourself though, over some guy who spends every waking moment at the gym. Those kinds of guys are just not for me.

[WhitneySnow]

Try joining a club based on one of your interests