How do I get him to stop texting me in the middle of the night?

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I just started dating this guy and instead of calling or texting me during normal hours, he sends me one liners in the middle of the night.  We had a little tiff about something unrelated and last night he sent me a one word text in the middel of the night.   No warm and fuzzy here.  Usually I would respond to his text the next morning, but today I didn't.   I don't know if I should just keep ignoring hime until he contacts me at a normal hour, or respond and ask him why he doesn't contact me during normal hours.

Shudder · Accepted Answer

If you know him pretty well and he seems the sort to take it well, you could explain your problem to him. I personally wouldn't take it amiss if somebody casually (and in a non-accusing way) asked me to text them earlier. If you did that, I'd make a point to send him quite a few texts at the desired hours afterwards to make it clear you want him to keep texting you.

If you keep ignoring every text he sends at night, but immediately respond to any during the day, he might get the idea eventually. That would be a much safer way of going about it, but depends a bit on his powers of observation.

A third way to handle it might be to send him a text before you're going to bed. You know, wish him good night or something, but make it clear you're going to sleep. He'd have to be pretty clueless not to pick up on a hint like that.

Mayor-of-ESL · Accepted Answer

you need to just tell him...he can't read your mind...just do him the respect.

Some people are just thick-headed...like me.

I've been texting this dame I was seeing, until I found out she was still screwing her ex. I got pissed, and said some things I shouldn't have...Then I apologized...with no response...I finally sent her flowers today at her work...2 hrs later, she came screaming back at me on text...telling me to leave her alone...Now I definitely will...I've already deleted her from my contact list...but she was the one who was deceptive...playing come here, come here, get away, get away...I was just trying to be respectful, and show her I cared...by ignoring me, she was just being nasty and cruel.

30sGal · Accepted Answer

Texting is by far the worst form of contact. I would be straight with him and let him know that you just won't respond to it (I did this and he started calling everyday). You said that he doesn't call either...come on, how old is this guy? He needs to make contact with you. You cannot get to know a person through text. Women need an emotional connection to move forward...you're not going to get that from 2AM text messages. He sounds a little disrespectful of your time. Never be afraid to put your foot down - who cares what he thinks. If he's the right guy for you, he'll be a mature adult and understand and be more considerate. Generally guys like it when a woman stands up for herself. Good luck.

Sassafras · Accepted Answer

Okay honestly...don't play games, like ignoring, then waiting until he contacts you at a normal hour, etc. He isn't a mind reader! You have to be black and white. There's nothing wrong with just being honest and forthright.

It's as easy as saying: "I don't mind you texting me, but could you avoid doing it late at night when I'm sleeping? Unless it's an emergency, I'd really appreciate it if you waited until the following day to get in touch with me."

If he doesn't get the picture, TURN OFF your cell phone when you're sleeping. Easy.

Ryu-son · Accepted Answer

Ask him to stop! If it's a Saturday or something I think it's a little sweet when my beau texts me at 3 because he felt he needed to tell me how much he loves me but... One word?! Tell him!

xoxobean · Accepted Answer

Best Ways to Get Someone to Stop Texting You

If you're someone who is constantly being bombarded with unwanted texts, you know how frustrating it can be. Whether it's a random person you met once or an ex who just won't let go, there are certain people who just don't know when to quit.

If you're looking for ways to get someone to stop texting you, here are a few tips:

1. Be direct and to the point.

Sometimes people just need to be told outright that you don't want to talk to them. If you're getting texts from someone you don't know, simply say "Who is this?" and see if they get the hint. If it's someone you do know, you can be a bit more blunt and say something like "I don't appreciate being texted all the time, please stop."

2. Ignore them.

This may seem a bit passive-aggressive, but sometimes people just need to be ignored in order to get the message. If someone is texting you constantly and you're not responding, eventually they'll get the hint that you're not interested and they'll stop.

3. Change your number.

This may seem like a drastic measure, but if someone is truly harassment text messaging you, it may be the only way to get them to stop. Once you change your number, they'll no longer be able to reach you and you can have some peace.

4. Block their number.

This is another measure that may seem a bit extreme, but it's definitely effective. If you block someone's number, they'll no longer be able to reach you and you won't have to worry about them anymore.

5. Report them to the authorities.

If someone is texting you constantly and it's truly becoming a problem, you can report them to the authorities. This will likely only be necessary if the person is harassing you or making threats, but it's an option to keep in mind.

Hopefully these tips will help you get rid of that pesky texter once and for all. Just remember, be direct, ignore them, or block their number if necessary.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Put your phone on dnd. Don’t entertain him. A man who texts you after 10 pm wants some booty not because he is in love 😂

ShadezMcgee · Answer

So if him texting you that late bothers you and you guys are dating, just tell him straight up that you don't like late night texting. Tell him to save it for tomorrow during your desired hours.

Shudder gave good additional options as well.

Staximus · Answer

You select your favorite contacts in your phone that can call or text you any time and mute everybody else when you go to sleep by turning your phone on "do not disturb". Welcome to the 21st century. Now you will not be woke up in the middle of the night by idiots and you can just answer when you wake up in the morning.

Anonymous · Answer

Turn your phone off. Problem solved!

Or block him after a certain hr. Then unblock him after you get up. If you're worried it'll offend him then let him know you're doing it. If you don't want to communicate this then you have a bigger problem.

Anonymous · Answer

It's his way of saying he's thinking of you and he misses you and wishes you were there. I do that sometimes with the woman I love message her in the middle of the night even when I can't sleep It's sort of a way for me to stay close to her even when she isn't here

Bacon · Answer

I would just block his phone number if it bothered me that much

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Just tell him directly that you don't want him texting you at night?

Anonymous · Answer

Talk to him  it’s all about communication dear

AndrésC64 · Answer

Put your phone on silent, or do not disturb.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Set your phones restricted hours and just reply when it works for you.

bncnagl · Answer

why don't you flat out  ask why he is texting you in the middle of the night instead of during the day and tell him how much it bothers you

Gooddaze · Answer

You ask him nicely. If that doesn’t work block him

110percentman · Answer

turn off your phone... duhh

douride2 · Answer

Turn your phone off at night.

Googlemyahoo · Answer

Airplane mode  Put phone down

TacosRAwesome · Answer

You can mute him when you're sleeping.

_Just_A_girl_ · Answer

Block em till morning

Mayor-of-ESL · Answer

is your name Leah?

dustybiker · Answer

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