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That sounds like me. Really.
What should we do? All we can do is wait and hope until the right guy comes around.
In the meantime, we should be active. Go out, meet new people, have a hobby... You'll never know when someone nice comes around!
i thought the same way when I was 19/ 20 as well when I didn't really date-i had like 1 boyfriend and he didn't , he wasn't even good enough to be my boyfriend and he hurt me (abused) and wasn't a good person
just take it slow. don't rush yourself
I must ask, how did you even get into that relationship in the first place anyway?
I'm 20 and have only had one girlfriend for about 2 months, so I know your pain. It sucks. If you ever want to chat sometime, send me a message. It'd be fun to talk to you!
At least you know you're capable of attracting the opposite sez. Can't say the same for myself.
I guess, but we met on myspace first, then started dating in person. So, I've yet to meet someone and ask them out face to face and I refuse to do online dating again.
Why? what's wrong with online dating? I've never done online dating, it's reserved for when I get really desperate.
Cuz the people on those sites are a little weird and desperate. Also its really awkward when you first meet them in person after talking to them on the computer and over the phone for so long.
Yeah, I would assume they're weird and desperate, especially if they're like me (i.e. socially awkward and are desperate because they've never had a boyfriend). One of my friends met her boyfriend online and their relationship seems pretty successful, so I guess online dating only works out for a handful of people.
Clubs suck. Why not hang out at your local library? I'm sure you'll see a cute guy there if you pick the right time of day. Lord knows I've gone there countless times and seen an interesting girl or two. :)
Hahahaha Dude I was there yesterday...man the librarians are hot! Awesome! -j
I don't have much to offer by way of advice...except keep your head up. I'm almost 22 and I am in in the same boat! I also have at least four or five friends I can think of that are in similar positions. So I just want to let you know you aren't alone and to reassure that there's nothing 'wrong' with you at all. A big plus about being single is that you have the time to devote to YOU. So spend some quality time with yourself and learn about how awesome you are. :)
You're in the same boat eh?
Why don't guys like us enough to make us their girlfriends?
The male species is so confusing.
Being single gets old eventually, especially when you have your friends from all sides talking and bragging about their boyfriends. Too much "quality time" with myself is enough to drive me insane. Which is what's going on right now XD
Anyway, thanks for the answer. I wish I could be as positive as you are about it.
Now there's a smart girl with some good advice ;) Plus her attitude is confident and positive which makes her attractive!! Sorry anonymous user just using you to make a point lol :P
Girl I no what you mean! I have nt had a bf. N it does suk that all ur friends had experience all them things.because they all go out with their couple. Ya I had guy friends that dnt see me in that way but I always tell my self some 1 better will come. N dnt be deppresse. Try to come out ur selve, sometimes it works! Jux keep ur head up..
ill be 20 in march (6 weeks from this past thursday) I've had gf's, but none were worth it, too feel bad you haven't a a boyfriend yet... don't rush it... take your time and be more outgoing etc...
be friendly and warm to guys, never cold or awkward. also, look ur best. if you want advice 4 your looks ask me and I'll msg u. just send me a pic and I can tell you everything that can be improve with ur style & looks. (im kinda an expert haha)
I'm very awkward around guys. I can't help it...I'm actually awkward in general, but hey at least I have character. I'm friendly but also awkward. So my awkwardness cancels out my friendliness?
Thats probably what you have to get over. I don't mean to be harsh and mean, I'm really sorry to say it, but here it is: life isn't a romantic comedy (or a book). guys aren't going to fall for the strange girl in real life because there is no script, and real strange acting girls don't have the looks or natural non-awkwardness of the actresses in the movie. girls think guys are just gonna fall for them 4 awkwardness & think its special, but there's a huge difference between uniqueness and akwardness.
Again I'm really sorry for the harsh comment- but you deserve to know! like think of guys who are just really awkward and how no matter how cool they may otherwise be, they just repel you. you can definitely change it if you work at it! I used to be pretty awkward and I learned to leave that unwanted part of me behind. if you need any tips id be glad to help!!
Well your comment wasn't really harsh.
My awkwardness has more to do with lack of social skills. Like I say some pretty ridiculous stuff and people are like O_o. My sense of humor is...different. Kinda dry and sarcastic.
Actually I'd be interested in a guy that was a little awkward like me. That's cute! Then we could be awkward together! :D
The only tip I need now is, if awkwardness is so impairing, what do I need to do to get rid of it?
If its ur sense of humor mostly and ur into a guy like that then ur fine! if you want to find guys like that check out guys at art colleges haha. trust me, I go to one, there's lots of guys with quirky senses of humor. but if ur akwardness is in other ways, try to be aware of it when it happens and immediately change it. like if you realize ur walking all bouncy and hunched over and looking tensed up, immediately make yourself relax, unscrunch your face, stand tall, and walk smoothly.
What art college do you go to? O_O
I'm seriously transferring to one next year. Guys at art colleges are like that?
I thought there were like zero straight guys at art colleges. XD
Thats so cool! I don't want to say on the internet but I'll tell you its one of the really good ones (but not as well known as others since they don't advertise). but omgg yeah. you will fit in great in art school. evvvvveryone in my school pretty much is really quirky. and yeah there are tons of gay guys, but the straight ones are often really quirky too. :)
sounds like to me you're trying too hard...of course take it from the guy who is also 20 and never had a gf. my biggest advice to you is to not worry about it and have fun being single...look at is as a good thing
Cam you explain what you mean by trying too hard?
I've had my fun as well as misery being single. I don't want to be single anymore.
Yea how is she trying to hard?
just live life, and love. have your fun. life is too short to worry about this. cheer up and before you know it you will be up and about in love
oh fogot to mention; I'm 24 and never had a girlfriend before. So what?
you are not alone and you are not the only person who doesn't like pubs and clubs.
Do you have any hobby's where there may be boys around? Try and meet people similar to yourself with the same interests.
I would find a girl like yourself more attractive than a girls who has 'been round the block!'
hope this helps your confidence a little. x
Hey I know you're anonymous but send me a message...I'd love to talk...Sort of in the same boat
DONT LOOK FOR THE PERFECT GUY THEY WILL FIND YOU WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT
im turning 20 in half a year. never had a gf. join da club :(
Trudat homie.. but yo I'm close.. I think.. but check out my new question.. and see for yourself hahahah
Hey what is your username again? you didn't delete me as a friend did you? because I'm 21, never had a girlfriend, I know how you feel.
I'll tell you waht to do, wait until you are 30, then panic.
Why would I want to do that?
If in 10 years I still haven't had a first boyfriend I would probably give up all hope and start collecting cats.
Don't make fun of me! I'm knocking on 30's door and still don't have a date. I used to be able to pick up girls but since about 22 girls stopped talking to me.
Hey, I'm not making fun of you, I was making fun of potentially future self.
At least you "used" to be able to pick up girls at one point in your life.
Guys just have never been crazy about me.
You probably don't even know who's crazy about you.Most girl seem to ignore guys when they are trying ti send signals when they like them. You might want to pay more attention what is going on around you. Also you might want to make an effort to talk to guys first.
At least you haven't had to deal with what I've had to deal with. Women treat me very poorly.
What signals? I'm clueless! I don't understand these things!
I am a 21 year old guy who has never had a girlfriend, so I feel your sadness and frustration.
Ah, I hope you find a girlfriend soon.
I know me too, it's tougher for me since I am a guy, and us guys have to pursue and chase the girl, take the initiative, make the first move and start a conversation, and ask her out. That means us guys have to face possible rejection. I usually have a hard time starting a conversation and keeping one going. I have a hard time breaking the ice.
Well for the most part, I have heard of some girls do chase and pursue guys, and ask them out, but it is very rare. I doubt that you will ask a guy out right?
I see. I definitely can't handle rejection, so if it were the other way around and the girls had to pursue the guy, I would probably end up alone for the rest of my life. Guys have it harder and here I am complaining. Even if a guy starts a conversation with me I'm so socially awkward that it's probably frustrating for guys to talk to me. Once they find out how awkward I am, they want nothing to do with me. I've had a guy talk to me one day and then the next day act like he doesn't even know me.
In order for me to ask the guy out he'd have to really show that that he's interested in me BIG TIME and be someone that I really like. Otherwise I wouldn't think the rejection is worth it. I'm very sensitive so rejection will make me go further into my shell, and that's something I don't need because I'm already so shy.
Has a guy ever asked you out before? Also I am not very outgoing, I don't have a lot of friends, so I have a hard time meeting new people.
A guy has never asked me out before (yeah, pathetic I know). Well I don't have any guy friends, just girl friends. It's much easier for me to befriend girls.
Same here, it is easier for me to befriend guys than it is with girls, not because I am gay, it's because even if I just want to be friends, I don't want the girl to think I am interested as being more than friends.
Hmm...I guess I just don't appeal to guys. I don't know what it is. Maybe it's my innocence, maybe it's my bland personality, maybe it's my social awkwardness, or maybe it's my looks. I'm not sure what it is. How do I find out? Yeah, I don't want the guy to think I'm interesting in being more than just friends either. Plus guys just seem more harsh than girls. They kind of scare me.
I just have a hard time starting a conversation, and keeping one going, I seem better at asking questions the result in one answer, or maybe it is my looks as well.
Since you have always been single like me, would you like to be friends and chat online? what is your Username? I don't know it since you asked this question anonymously, I just want to be friends because since we are in the same situation, is that okay with you?
Okay I'll just add you as a friend.
You should go out clubbing with your friends and you might see a guy there.
you need to be cooler go to parties drink some have fun
Drinking and going to parties will make guys like me?