My boyfriend sexted another girl.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year. I recently found some fb messages between him and a girl that he previously hooked up with that were sexual in nature. I confronted him and he was ashamed and begged me not to leave him because he is a better person and wants to show me that he is. He claims he has never met up with her and that he will work on rebuilding the trust. Before this incident, I had no reason not to trust him. Not sure if I should give him half à chance or just walk. Ever experienced this and if so, what was the outcome?


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  • Actually the truth is, Many girls somehow believe that if they put up with a guy's bad behavior long enough, that he will eventually see how much she loves him, and will love and respect her equally in return. Unfortunately, this is a totally misguided notion.

    Most guys want a fun, self-confident girl, who respects herself, and who doesn't need him to have a good time. Once a guy knows you can't live without him, and will put up with any selfish or bad behavior he dishes out, your chances of keeping him challenged and interested in you goes right out the window.

    Not only should you respect other people, but you should demand the same degree of respect for yourself. You should never put up with any kind disrespect from anyone, especially a person you are in a relationship with. You will have a much better chance of keeping a guy interested in you if you stand up yourself, than if you allow him to walk all over you.

    Just remember that there are 4 billion guys on the planet. If the guy you are with starts displaying negative, or disrespective behavior towards you, be willing to walk away. If you do, it's very possible he will chase after you with new found respect. A respect he will never have for you if you can't respect yourself enough to leave.

    hope this helps :)


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  • I honestly think you should just walk away. Staying with him will not make him change, only he can make himself change and usually, guys like that don't change.

    Think about it, now that this has happened, you will constantly be doubting him and your relationship, wondering if he's still doing that, wondering how he truly feels about you, etc. It's just not a healthy relationship and not a good situation to continue putting yourself in. Trust is very important and once that trust is gone, it is extremely difficult to get back.

  • Yea I gave my now ex husband a 2nd chance after some flirting messages. A year later after he refused marriage counseling a 3rd women approached me. She told me they had been sleeping together. I kicked him out but it still took me 6 months to file for divorce. THEN he wanted to go to marriage counseling LOL, too late.

    That's my story. You have to decide what's best for you. I don't think I will ever be able to give someone a 2nd chance after something like again.

    You have some tuff decisions good luck. Sorry I don't have better advice.

  • i myself would walk nt worth loosing your self respect. If he is sexting what makes you think he wouldn't just sleep with her again. Are you gonna be okay always thinking in the back of your mind where is he? my boyfriend once told me that his ex sexted someone else and it was as big of a betrayel as actually doing the act ( he is pretty sure she did sleep with the guy she was sexting also) he always tells me leaving her for that was the best choice he could make because he met me SO MAYBE LETTING HIM GO YOU WILL ALLOW you to find someone who actually loves and respects your relationship.