Do you think that it is a good idea to work for your spouse?

[Subarugirl]

In the next few years I may have the opportunity to get a job as a CA for my husband. The idea inspired this question.

What are your thoughts?

[loves2learn]

Ooooh, tricky. There are ups and downs. Home fights can end up at work. But man you save on the commute and you get to spend more time together. Tough one. I worked for a company where a husband was his wife’s manager. I side-eyed that one. Family businesses are a thing! I worked for another company who the president employed his two sons.

[ArrowheadSW]

Depends on the couple really. Some can handle it some can't. Depends if you want to be with your spouse all day at work and then at home.

I know a guy who, along with his wife, worked at the wife's dad's business together. It put a lot of strain on the marriage. (There were some other issues also.) But he said that working together was a major contributing factor to them divorcing.

I'm sure others might not have issues with it. So it depends on the couple.

[Adam1978]

I would say no, working with family usually end up bad. First of all no time apart. Him most likely exploiting you for cheap work. And you have no career opportunities. That together with no time apart is a recipe for you ending up fighting and he walking out with all the effort you been working together to build.

[Dnc873]

The no time apart makes sense, but why would you assume he would exploit her for cheap work? lol
It's definitely not most likely, most people would not do that. Especially considering they probably share money...
And the career opportunities are probably better considering he is above her and would probably push for better opportunities. The only downfall would be spending too much time together

[Subarugirl]

Why would he exploit me for cheep work considering at the end of the day we share finances? That makes no sense.

[TrueConfection]

Go for it!

I've been helping my husband with his business for 19 years, but I'm not an official employee. We enjoyed working together all the time for the first half of that, now we work apart a little more.

[cloudspy]

I guess good in the sense you are building something together. But I think will be impossible to keep professional and will cause arguments in the long run.

[cryscrys1]

Yes why not!!
But make sure while working you are a coworkers that’s all also don’t be jealous you and him know that with clients you gotta be sweet to hat that $$ lol

[cryscrys1]

To get*

[Anonymous]

I did work for my wife and she was the most demanding boss I have ever worked for. If I made the slightest mistake in my work, I would have to give her sex that very night right after work. Sometimes we would have sex multiple times a day depending on how careless I was at work. It was just torture. Eventually, she did fire me when she realized I was just making the mistakes at work just to get sex. Once she found that out, my career was completely over.

[m33lad]

Women are fkin annoying!! The most distance from them the better.
Look at a guy before and after marriage he turns into a rotten egg after marriage.

[cloudspy]

😂 You should have sued her for sexual harassment.

[Dnc873]

What the fuck lol

[sattii2607]

I would say it's got positive and negative. Positives include going together and spending more time together.
The negatives are also on the same lines, you don't get to be yourself and feel a bit out of place at times I feel.

[Dennisjf12]

Working for my wife, I think, would cause too many problems. working at the same company could go both ways

[Danish87]

CA? Chartered accountant? Great to work together as it helps both of partner.

[Subarugirl]

Certified chiropractic assistant

[Danish87]

Ohh ok

[Friendlybro79]

If you do it make sure to fully understand the rules and expectations you will both have for each other.

[KrakenAttackin]

Sounds like you want a cake job, where you get laid, and can dictate your raises by withholding sex.

Your husband would be a fool to hire you.

[Subarugirl]

That is an interesting perspective, totally wrong, but thanks for sharing :)

[KrakenAttackin]

Seriously, do you think working FOR your husband is a good idea? Running a business is hard fucking work and he needs employees to produce. Sometimes you have to light a fire under the asses of people who work for you. How would you respond to that?

[Subarugirl]

At the end of the day wouldn't be in both of our interest for the business to do well and be profitable? If he wanted my help, why shouldn't I give it to him? Right now there is a huge shortage of LMT's and people qualified to do massage therapy. Becoming a CA and working under his scope of practice would give the ability to fill a spot that has been very difficult to fill, while supporting my husbands business as well as out family financially. The more the business makes, the more he makes, the more we would make. Make sense?

[KrakenAttackin]

@Subarugirl. It makes sense if you are willing to do the hard part of the job, which is going out and generating business. Just getting certifications and having a website won't cut it. You need to work very, very, hard to create a client list... than work to retain those clients. You will need at least one full year of cash on hand. No shit, starting a business is very challenging.

[Subarugirl]

Actually he is in the process of buying my uncles business, who is retiring, which has an established patient base. Okay what is actually needed is someone who would be able to do massages, which if I became a CA, I would be able to do.

[YollyM]

No ma'am , I don't need my boo to boss me around. I'd take it personally and be miserable 😭

[Tunasub]

Nope because fucking the boss only takes you but so far..

[Subarugirl]

Hahaha that’s a good one

[Tunasub]

I was hoping you'd like that😉

[Tunasub]

@Subarugirl You look delicious in the profile photo

[m33lad]

Hell no!! I’d shoot myself.
Women will find more ways to nag the guy to death

[Subarugirl]

I don’t nag, also it was his idea

[m33lad]

All women say they don’t nag but they all nag

[Subarugirl]

Lol is that so?

[m33lad]

See.. now we’re starting to see how Naggy all women are. Women don’t admit to anything that’s their sickness.

[Subarugirl]

Oh honey.. who hurt you?

[m33lad]

When women have nothing which usually they don’t. They go to stupid shit. You’ve got no logical reasoning. If you don’t get hurt means you’ve never grown. Anything childish bull shit tactics you’ve got up your sleeves?

[Subarugirl]

Actually I don't accuse about 50% of the population of being guilty of something that a few people did too me. That's like saying, "oh I was abused by a man, so now all men are abusive." see how that sounds?

[m33lad]

You’re the one that decided to use buzzwords to try and shut me up. Since you can logically dismiss my reasonings. Since you’ve got no brain to debate.

[m33lad]

You can’t*

[Subarugirl]

I don't under stand why you feel so strongly about this. My husband would be the first to tell that I don't nag, but that's besides the point. I applied your same logic to a different topic... how is that different. Lets try this again. So lets say, that I think that ALL men are into cars and football because that's has been my experience. That doesn't make me right though.

[m33lad]

If he say something that’s another 14 hour of argument.

[Subarugirl]

Okay well, all men nag. If I gave men the chance they would nag me to death.

[m33lad]

Men don’t nag. That shows you little you know. Men want peace. We do debate so we can get is solution. Women don’t wanna solve anything. They just wanna bitch 24/7 and for the guy to go oh yaaah wow amazing and etc.. anyways you’re too annoying this conversation is done.

[Subarugirl]

That is exactly my point, just because you feel a certain way, doesn't make it true.

[Subarugirl]

I am glad that we could come to a resolution :)

[m33lad]

I’m not a woman, we don’t go based on your emotions. We debate based on logic. And your duty as a woman just like everyone other women is to disagree with pure horse shit out of control emotions.

[m33lad]

Based on our emotions*

[Subarugirl]

I’ve seen a lot of men act or argue on emotion. They just tend to act out more violently.

[m33lad]

Wait till one day some guy who doesn’t give a fk about your woman card. See what happens. He’ll Mike Tyson you. And you’ll learn to shut your trap. For now you keep yaaaping pure horse shit.

[Subarugirl]

I don't know man… that seemed like a pretty emotional response to me.. just saying.

[m33lad]

You keep talking. Coming from a guy who hides her picture and keeps yapping. Get lost! You miserable cunt. Just keep ignoring everything I say and keep talking

[Subarugirl]

Just because I disagree with certain things that you say doesn’t mean that I am ignoring you. I am just applying the same logic that you are but for some reason you don’t like that… and by the way this is my question.. if the way I interact in my post bothers you, I would suggest you leave, because I am not going anywhere.

[AydenHazor]

I personally do not consider this a good idea. Some time away from each other is healthy

[crmoore]

I think it should be avoided if reasonably possible.

[Hillary86]

No work should be a TO from your spouse. Plus I seen what happens when couple work together they tend to cause most drama at work.

[Anonymous]

I think it's good for many reasons. One is that you're adding value to the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Nope, relationships are too fickle to stake your career on.

[IcedLemonade]

If you are fickle you dont have a career. You dont have the mindset.

[PurpleRainMom37]

Yes I have before it's very comfortable if you have the right partner

[SwitchGirl]

Only if he is totally completely professional!

[2ndTryatThis]

CA? Casting assistant?

[Subarugirl]

certified clinical chiropractic assistant

[2ndTryatThis]

That sounds awesome! Go for it.

[pink_and_inlove]

It’s a better opportunity to get even closer

[Tstrbrainer]

CA means?

Anyway go for it.

[Subarugirl]

Chiropractic assistant

[KrakenAttackin]

Secretary.

[Subarugirl]

@KrakenAttackin No not really, Chiropractic assistants work with patients in routine functions such as sign-in and obtaining insurance information, as well as more “hands-on” work. This may include taking X-rays, explaining certain procedures to patients and any necessary preparation, take vital signs and maintain medical records. That means they must learn basic medical terminology as well as how the insurance billing and payment process works. Experienced chiropractic assistants will oversee the work of newer chiropractic assistants in the practice. While every chiropractic assistant functions to some degree as a liaison between patients and the chiropractic, most will also serve as liaison between the chiropractor and insurance companies, computer and software tech advisors, state licensing boards and other entities.

[KrakenAttackin]

How can you take X-Rays of a human without having proper certifications? The rest you describe is all admin.

[Subarugirl]

@KrakenAttackin Having your CA is considered popper certification according to the chiropractic board, and long as the CA is operating under the doctor's scope of practice. You can also do massage and other procedures not listed.

[KrakenAttackin]

Interesting, is this a US certification?

[Subarugirl]

@KrakenAttackin yes it is, feel free to look it up.

[Tstrbrainer]

That's cool. Thanks for explaining

[Anonymous]

No, I personally think that be a bad idea

[IcedLemonade]

Yeah you should go out and work for someone else and get paid from their scraps.

[Anonymous]

bad idea never mix business with pleasure

[Subarugirl]

I’m not really sure that working for your spouse that you have been married to for a significant amount of time would be considered mixing business with pleasure

[Opinion Owner]

it's not a good idea because if you have a disagreement or argument at work or something goes wrong at work you or him are likely to bring those problems home with you in your marriage instead of keeping it seperated

[Subarugirl]

Well it’s not like that would be something entirely new. My husband is already working for my father and is in the works of buying out uncle’s practive

[Opinion Owner]

so why would you want to bring that into your marriage for? if anything it's a recipe for disaster unless that's what you're aiming for?

[Subarugirl]

Lol it’s called a family business, many many people have been able to do that successfully. When my dad first started his own practice, my mother worked as his office manager I until she had me. They are still married today’s 26 years later

[Opinion Owner]

oh i know family businesses have succeeded it's just rare and hard to pull off. just be prepared for any possible outcome though that's my advice to you

[bannacookies]

Definitely not

[Subarugirl]

why not?

[bannacookies]

It can depend on playing favoritism, affect the whole business, and sometimes working with someone who you are with is almost too much time that you can view them or more as a business partner than a romantic partner.

[Subarugirl]

There are lots of family businesses out there where spouses and even their children work together. There can be issues with any dynamic between couples.

[Fuentes]

Nope

[Subarugirl]

Why?

[Fuentes]

So we can get annoyed by eachother lol

[roy_ricky09]

Nah!!!

[liam741]

No I don't