My husband was fortunate enough to have been given the opportunity to purchase my uncle’s clinic. My uncle and his wife will be retiring at the end of next year. My Aunt does the insurance billing for the clinic so when the both retire I was asked if I would like to take over her position for as long as I want it. The pay is good and I like the idea of being able to support my husbands growth in his career.
Would you consider working for your spouse in a situation like this?
Personally, no. I don’t think I can honestly do it even if she’s fantastic and intelligent. It’s kind of I like being independent and having my own life and I would want the same for her. I believe it’s healthy to have a specific space and time away from your partner. Some people would like to be completely attached to their lovers daily but I’m not that guy.
Working together can be an asset or a big problem that can derail things if you’re not careful. From experience of seeing couples working together, it tends to backfire more than help.
no… I have my own career path and I’d like for him to have his own. I think it’d be the best if we had something that’s individual for us and that would be our careers… I mean, we’re spending so much time together, so do we really have to work together as well? lmfao
It’s like, I want to come home from a long day at work and see my man and I want for us to just enjoy each other, vent about work and stuff… but if we work together, then there’s the risk of bringing work home with us or getting the business mixed up with our private relationship and it just all gets complicated lol
I think it would depend on the relationship, would you be able to separate the two? And also I think it depends on whether he would be a good boss and I (you) would be a good employee.
If either one of you isn't a good boss or employee, it could bring trouble when you get back home.
I think it's important to really think about and talk about. Also to set up some ground rules.
sure... I sure would have liked to work for my ex, and her family business
and although I'm not married, I've been through a similar experience, started to work with my aunt and uncle, and eventually, I was able to work on my own branch of the business
and technically... my aunt is still my boss, funny thing is... I didn't get along with my uncle and my aunt wasn't my "biggest fan" because of that, but I ended working for them because of reasons, and ever since... we all get along just great
The only relationships that I have seen do it successfully in a way that didn't hurt the marriage of undue stress were when clear boundaries were set up.
Like you not answering to him directly, where you say work in a separate Department than he's in and you answer to that manager rather than him even if he is the final say in the overall business
Or you're in a position that you manage and you really only update him on whats going on. Like being a property manager for various properties in his real estate properties.
The tenants all answer to you, you make a 10% commission while doing all of that and you really just update him on the cost that go into it. Things like that where it's very hands-off as far as is dealing with your position I've seen function well
If you both are positive goal oriented people, then it has a high probability of not only working, but it should better your marriage as well. If you don’t already, I recommend really getting your diet as best as possible and exercising. It’s one of the best foundations to have when running any business. That will help with the stressful situations & when things get tough, you and your hubby will argue less and instead use more of your critical thinking skills to overcome such. Sounds like a great opportunity!
Yes and I have no qualms about working for a strong woman so long as I'm still getting the same respect I always would have otherwise. I dont really have "dream job" or career myself. So if I can help her realize her's then that's an amazing thing that I'd love to be a apart of. I'm deeply rooted to my SO and to my family/home life. Helping her dreams become reality while also having someone she knows will always have her back is really the best thing for both of us. Part of me wants to do some sort of business with dogs or something but dont think I'll ever do that. But I love the idea of like an online business from home where we can work on things together. I could always keep inventory and answer phones for her and help her package and ship out.
My father-in-law owns a law practice and my mother-in-law works there as his paralegal/secretary/scheduler/catch-all everything. They make good money (high 6-figures), but their marriage is... not great.
I don't care how good the money is or how much I think I love my spouse, I don't want to work with or for him lol
His parents are not nice to each other and a big part of why is because they have no separation during the day.
This is a very personal thing, it can work out for one couple but also directly cause a serious issue for another. Personally i tend to keep my girl away from my business. The reason for it is that i like to avoid that business throws additional problems to our relationship which we would not have when just not doing business together.
Again, it depends on the relationship and how you work together.
If it's for a 'family business', then yes as this would benefit the family as a whole and typically the married couple are partners in the endeavor.
Otherwise no, I'm not one to ever mix my personal life with my work life. Too many things can go wrong and one inevitably will influence and/or carry over to the other.
Yeah I think that's cool and some reason in a lot of different ways but at the same time I don't know I haven't been in a relationship for about a year-and-a-half now and I think I forgot everything I have always called going to work my time because it is it's my time to think about everything I call it My time
so you're planning on seeing your husband at home, and then all day at work? unless you both are super compatible and passionate about each other, the marriage will one day crumble. Because eventually you will both grow sick of seeing each other.
No. I accept that the theory is marital bliss translating to office bliss but I suspect it generally falls short of this with grievances passing from the bedroom to the office and back again. Scary stuff and a major risk to both areas of your life.
Aside from the working together part, how much does your husband know about this particular business, to where he wants to purchase it? Not only this business, but the industry that it is in?
Ah OK. So he knows the biz. Of course there are business considerations to take into account, such as how well the business is doing, what the debts are, all all of that. Not to mention how your uncle wants to be paid. I'm just putting these things out there. 😎
Yes we are aware, the business is doing well, no outstanding debts and my uncle owns the property that the clinic is on. They are currently working on a buy sell agreement and there will be a 6 to 8 month transition period.
Yes its a good situation, the plan is 300K down and then 6% of gross until the business is payed off. After 8 years he will also be given to by the property management company.
If that's a family business, then sure. In pretty much any other context it's not a good idea for family members to be coworkers or subordinates to each other.
We worked with ea other … even after we divorced. All good. Communications and expectations… etc… we sold our business last yr. it’s fine. enjoy the journey
There are a lot of couples who work together. I tried getting my wife to help me with the business but she turned it down. You would not be working "for" him, you will be working "with " him.
Not unless times were desperate. A healthy relationship involves having time apart, which is almost impossible if you share work and personal time together all the time.
I would greatly prefer it to working for a corporation that talks the usual BS about being a “family” but would have no qualms about laying me off when it is convenient for them.
Sounds like a win-win to me. There is an old saying that I think is true that says that a dollar you make for yourself is worth two working for somebody else.
I'll never work for my spouse cause she won't be even working, she will be a housewife but in case i opened a shop and she wanted to help, than she's always welcomed cause my shop will be her shop too but i don't want her to be exhausted...
That's the thing about you modern women.. you would do everything for a random guy who's your boss - even stuff you're not paid to do -- at an office job, but to do the same for your own man/husband when he's PAYING YOU TO DO IT is some kind of offense.
@hahahmm i would stay professional thank you very much. However, i cannot separate work from home. I would snap at his ass off shift, so its best i dont work for the mf. If you can't handle hearing that, stick to the old school ladies
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