Would you work for your spouse?

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My husband was fortunate enough to have been given the opportunity to purchase my uncle’s clinic. My uncle and his wife will be retiring at the end of next year. My Aunt does the insurance billing for the clinic so when the both retire I was asked if I would like to take over her position for as long as I want it.
The pay is good and I like the idea of being able to support my husbands growth in his career.

Would you consider working for your spouse in a situation like this?

Blackcupcake · Accepted Answer

no… I have my own career path and I’d like for him to have his own. I think it’d be the best if we had something that’s individual for us and that would be our careers… I mean, we’re spending so much time together, so do we really have to work together as well? lmfao

It’s like, I want to come home from a long day at work and see my man and I want for us to just enjoy each other, vent about work and stuff… but if we work together, then there’s the risk of bringing work home with us or getting the business mixed up with our private relationship and it just all gets complicated lol

Little_Bumblebee · Accepted Answer

I think it would depend on the relationship, would you be able to separate the two? And also I think it depends on whether he would be a good boss and I (you) would be a good employee.

If either one of you isn't a good boss or employee, it could bring trouble when you get back home.

I think it's important to really think about and talk about. Also to set up some ground rules.

FriendlyDrugDealer · Accepted Answer

Personally, no. I don’t think I can honestly do it even if she’s fantastic and intelligent. It’s kind of I like being independent and having my own life and I would want the same for her. I believe it’s healthy to have a specific space and time away from your partner. Some people would like to be completely attached to their lovers daily but I’m not that guy.

Working together can be an asset or a big problem that can derail things if you’re not careful. From experience of seeing couples working together, it tends to backfire more than help.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

sure... I sure would have liked to work for my ex, and her family business

and although I'm not married, I've been through a similar experience, started to work with my aunt and uncle, and eventually, I was able to work on my own branch of the business

and technically... my aunt is still my boss, funny thing is... I didn't get along with my uncle and my aunt wasn't my "biggest fan" because of that, but I ended working for them because of reasons, and ever since... we all get along just great

Diodoro · Answer

The only relationships that I have seen do it successfully in a way that didn't hurt the marriage of undue stress were when clear boundaries were set up.

Like you not answering to him directly, where you say work in a separate Department than he's in and you answer to that manager rather than him even if he is the final say in the overall business

Or you're in a position that you manage and you really only update him on whats going on. Like being a property manager for various properties in his real estate properties.

The tenants all answer to you, you make a 10% commission while doing all of that and you really just update him on the cost that go into it. Things like that where it's very hands-off as far as is dealing with your position I've seen function well

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

* is fortunate enough

If you both are positive goal oriented people, then it has a high probability of not only working, but it should better your marriage as well.
If you don’t already, I recommend really getting your diet as best as possible and exercising. It’s one of the best foundations to have when running any business.
That will help with the stressful situations & when things get tough, you and your hubby will argue less and instead use more of your critical thinking skills to overcome such.
Sounds like a great opportunity!

t-8900 · Answer

Yes and I have no qualms about working for a strong woman so long as I'm still getting the same respect I always would have otherwise. I dont really have "dream job" or career myself. So if I can help her realize her's then that's an amazing thing that I'd love to be a apart of. I'm deeply rooted to my SO and to my family/home life. Helping her dreams become reality while also having someone she knows will always have her back is really the best thing for both of us. Part of me wants to do some sort of business with dogs or something but dont think I'll ever do that. But I love the idea of like an online business from home where we can work on things together. I could always keep inventory and answer phones for her and help her package and ship out.

Prettygurl12 · Answer

No.

My father-in-law owns a law practice and my mother-in-law works there as his paralegal/secretary/scheduler/catch-all everything. They make good money (high 6-figures), but their marriage is... not great.

I don't care how good the money is or how much I think I love my spouse, I don't want to work with or for him lol

His parents are not nice to each other and a big part of why is because they have no separation during the day.

Lockey_ · Answer

This is a very personal thing, it can work out for one couple but also directly cause a serious issue for another.
Personally i tend to keep my girl away from my business. The reason for it is that i like to avoid that business throws additional problems to our relationship which we would not have when just not doing business together.

Again, it depends on the relationship and how you work together.

NetSapien · Answer

If it's for a 'family business', then yes as this would benefit the family as a whole and typically the married couple are partners in the endeavor.

Otherwise no, I'm not one to ever mix my personal life with my work life. Too many things can go wrong and one inevitably will influence and/or carry over to the other.

ohshee · Answer

Yeah I think that's cool and some reason in a lot of different ways but at the same time I don't know I haven't been in a relationship for about a year-and-a-half now and I think I forgot everything
I have always called going to work my time because it is it's my time to think about everything I call it
My time

shaysh87 · Answer

so you're planning on seeing your husband at home, and then all day at work? unless you both are super compatible and passionate about each other, the marriage will one day crumble. Because eventually you will both grow sick of seeing each other.

jforn02 · Answer

My mum and dad have been doing this for years so I don't see why not, especially if the pay is good too.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Aside from the working together part, how much does your husband know about this particular business, to where he wants to purchase it? Not only this business, but the industry that it is in?

madgoat · Answer

No. I accept that the theory is marital bliss translating to office bliss but I suspect it generally falls short of this with grievances passing from the bedroom to the office and back again. Scary stuff and a major risk to both areas of your life.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Yeah I would. my ex wife sort of works for me, she handles some of the property management side of things for me. it’s fine as long as you can separate our personal from professional stuff.

BCA6010 · Answer

If that's a family business, then sure. In pretty much any other context it's not a good idea for family members to be coworkers or subordinates to each other.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

We worked with ea other … even after we divorced. All good. Communications and expectations… etc…  we sold our business last yr. it’s fine. enjoy the journey

Wiredone · Answer

There are a lot of couples who work together. I tried getting my wife to help me with the business but she turned it down.  You would not be working "for" him, you will be working "with " him.

libsaretards · Answer

Not unless times were desperate. A healthy relationship involves having time apart, which is almost impossible if you share work and personal time together all the time.

RealMarek · Answer

I would greatly prefer it to working for a corporation that talks the usual BS about being a “family” but would have no qualms about laying me off when it is convenient for them.

exitseven · Answer

Sounds like a win-win to me. There is an old saying that I think is true that says that a dollar you make for yourself is worth two working for somebody else.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I'll never work for my spouse cause she won't be even working, she will be a housewife but in case i opened a shop and she wanted to help, than she's always welcomed cause my shop will be her shop too but i don't want her to be exhausted...

DizzyDesii · Answer

Nah cause we’d likely get into an argument about his overdominance.

anon171999 · Answer

I do already. It's never an issue. It only becomes issues if you're in an unhealthy relationship.

AviatorTom · Answer

Only if she pays well. That might be too much togetherness. Sometimes, it's good to have some me-alone time.

RebeccaBI2000 · Answer

Most places will notable Allow this. When I was interviewing people for a role and learned that people were family members, that was the end of it.

Andres77 · Answer

I think it would be awesome. As long as the job specifics didn't overlap. I'd do my specialty and she'd do hers so we can do it as best as we see fit.

Agape93 · Answer

Nope. I don't like being financially beholden to someone I have to go home to.

AydenHazor · Answer

I don't currently have a spouse, but if I do remarry at some point I hope I have the sense to may sometime I would have no problem working with or for.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Only if it's in a separate building from the main house. I want the work day to close once we leave that door.

adamjanovic · Answer

Nope, we would drive each other crazy and probably end up getting divorced.

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

If the place catches fire or goes out of business you both are out of a job. If your personal life gets messy it could carry over to work.

Honestguyopen · Answer

My wife and I would have our challenges. Ultimately I would work with her because we each give what the other person lacks. She gets to be the boss because she has stronger business ability than I do.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Depends how much day to day interaction there was. But I'd struggle to work for my OH.

humanearth · Answer

I done it many times. We are a farming family. We work as a team

Surely · Answer

Good only if you can separate home life from work life. Don’t take your work, home with you and don’t bring your home life to work!

Mangospacho · Answer

That would be fun, actually. Neither one of us are confrontational or lazy so it would probably work out well.

angry_little_kitty · Answer

I work with my girlfriend and it has only made our relationship stronger

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

If I had to than yes I would gladly love to work for my spouse.

Hannahbananaaaaa · Answer

I won’t even work with someone I’m dating, so certainly not

TallAnon · Answer

Depends on your relationship, really, some people would be ok, others won't. With my job it would be fine.

Nickoli42 · Answer

Only if she lets me live out my fantasy of banging in an office setting. Lawl

crazy8000 · Answer

Depends on her as a person. Some becomes shitheads towards their partner when in that settings.

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

Working together in the same job sounds like a great idea but it probably isn't

Neilbud · Answer

I don't have a spouse. If I did tho , maybe a part time side job, but not a full time job.

Jouth · Answer

I feel like I would try to avoid this. It could create unhealthy power dynamics in the relationship.

Carolmille · Answer

Sure, if he’s opened to the idea.

roy_ricky09 · Answer

Absolutely not. And vice versa

Fuentes · Answer

Work together not work for

RichSD · Answer

Be partners, like you should be in everything.

Visionary7 · Answer

Nah I need a break from them at least

lovedejj_xo · Answer

No I wouldn’t I have my own career field

ChiTown33 · Answer

If the benefits are good.

MrReliable12 · Answer

What kind of clinic is it?

sungie28 · Answer

So long as money is involved then why not? 😂

WowwGirl · Answer

I would but he wouldn't allow it.

Grubhub · Answer

Sure I’ve seen plenty who did at my job

OddBeMe · Answer

We can’t work together. We’re too different.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Work together but not work for her.

legalboxers · Answer

if she and I had the same line of work sure.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

That sounds like a mess

Barlow_9 · Answer

Nope! Cos I won't focus on work.

CubaPirate · Answer

Only in the bedroom lol

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