My boss smacked my butt and I'm confused Was she hitting on me or just giving me the good ol "atta girl"?

[Sour-rose]

So i think one time I was just cleaning the rooms of some office and my boss was just talking to me, praising me while I was vacuuming. I wasn't really listening and I heard her ask me a question and I just said "Yup, sure." I suddenly feel like a good firm pat on my ass and I was shocked and just took a glance. "Keep up the good work, Sour-Rose! You're doing god's work." and it never came up. I didn't know what to say or do at the time. I kept my eye on her and she was always friendly as usual. I expected she smack my butt with good intention again buuut...

So what y'all think? I still work with said company but i barely see her now a days.

[gabby100]

Yes we get this similar stuff. where i work. You tend steer away from the one are a little touchy feely. Its usually the older ones and senior in authority. There is one that is always smacking my ass, its not hard , but he's like a stelth bomber, you cannot hear him coming..

[Sour-rose]

Dude, that's horrifying.

[gabby100]

Sadly that is what it is like at work. With guys who think they can get away with it..

[SecretsofKB]

I don't care what their intentions were... they SHOULD NOT be touching you or any employee that way...

You need to speak to HR about this.

[HighlyVolatile]

I don't see what's the big deal unless you think it's a big deal. This is navigating how people feel as I see it which I've known how to do reasonably well. If she's clueless and can't take a hint, then maybe report her. If you think it's funny, what's the big deal?

[HighlyVolatile]

At the very least I think if we want to go to extremes, let's go extremes. We can dress in a unisex dress code, have strict rules -- no jokes, no touching, no make-up, no banter, no talking about what you did last weekend -- do your job! You are a robot! Or we can navigate the complexities of human interaction. There are clueless people out there as far as social interactions and they need to be rehabilitated. But there are also people who have a great sense of how other people feel, and how they make them feel, that don't. I tend to think those latter types are the majority. But you know, I want people to pick one or the other. We can either be the most formal and robotic in our jobs with objective rules or we can navigate this stuff with subjective criteria. What doesn't work as I see it is some awkward mix of the two.

[HighlyVolatile]

... because if we're designing society around people who can't take a hint, we need iron-fisted rules. And if we're not, we need a great deal of flexibility.

[HighlyVolatile]

If we're designing society around people who can't take hints, then I've seen the worst. If we're designing society for them, we don't just need the most intricate rulebooks rendering us into robots. We need people monitoring 24/7 ready to blow a whistle on the slightest offense.

[HighlyVolatile]

Would the person who downvoted me want to talk about it or are you a fucking antisocial coward who can't take hints and can't navigate a society without rules and guardians?

[SamIam96]

Or, C: she's touching you inappropriately. Probably, no-one else saw. Still, you should contact your HR department. If she's done it before, they may already know. In all likelihood, you're not the first and won't be the last.

[SamIam96]

Sorry for the bizarre auto-correct. I did not type that smily face.

[Sour-rose]

Very good... because that was bizzare there for a sec. Although to anyone else who reads this, thank you for your suggestion. I think i'll bring this to HR. She's outta my sight and never seen but still kinda uneasy knowing she's just gonna butt pat me as a compliment outta nowhere.

[omnivert]

Tell her not to do it again.
Because you feel uncomfortable.
Then she will explain all this to you.
Be an individual with questions to your boss, employees have the right to ask.

So be it.

[Still-alive]

it's time to unleash your secret weapon on her.

Lazer eyes charging!

[ArtemisSilver]

It's your lucky day, time for a sexual harrassment lawsuit,🤑

[Wise4myage]

That's sexual harassment, if she does it again make sure she knows you don't like it.

[Yucy_Gluttony]

If you have to ask it is probably not the atta girl

[UniquelyBasic]

Is this for one of your erotic stories you're writing?

[Xtendable]

How did it make you feel? Assaulted? Praised? Was it welcome or something you didn’t want to happen again?

[Sour-rose]

Confused. If a man did it, I'd probably react with a slap. A woman doing it... is confusing... and felt nice? But still don't think I want that without warning

[Xtendable]

So, a follow up slap would be okay?

[QT933]

That is super weird... your boss shouldn't be touching you :/

[red_knight]

You had an ass he wanted to spank, and he did just that, the end

[Sour-rose]

You misread. :)

[red_knight]

Yet a line was indirectly crossed