I never slept around but is focusing too much on college and success a mistake we make?

[Anonymous]

I still graduated from college without ever scoring a high ACT or SAT score. In fact I was never good at them. My good GPA and a well written recommendation letter from my counselor (whom was always friendly with me) was enough. In the end, even college ended up being a waste of time. I'm not even working in my major (hotel management) and I'm still childless.

Those are years I'll never get back (so much for listening to BS about how I can do whatever I want in life and that college is everything, that I'll be successful in life, don't rely on someone else, etc) and now if this current relationship (things are going good for far) were to fail, I'm screwed.

Is that also a mistake some of us make? Focusing too much on college and success and wasting more time on it... only to not even work on your major?

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I'd rather be without those worthless degrees and instead live the life of the common stay at home mother and have kids who would've already been 10-13 year-olds by now.

[Googlemyahoo]

See I say the exact thing. All these people who marry right out of high school or people who focus entirely on their career get into their 30s and they never got their slut out.

You HAVE to get your slut out in your late teens to 20s. THEN YOU RELAX & settle down.

Otherwise you end up like my wanker neighbours trying to make up for all their dork years if never partying. Husband cheats on her she’s miserable just drink all the time.

[Asker]

I found no interest in too much sex nor in having many bfs in my life, that all ends in break-ups. I'm kind of reserved when it comes to relationships and sharing private parts of myself to a man.

[WhitneySnow]

Not sleeping around is not a mistake. Focus on your current relationship and be happy you’re with them (if they make you happy).

[Asker]

Yes, we're doing the waiting till marriage approach, nothing sexual at all. I'll focus on my relationship and I guess the past is the past.
But yeah I'd rather been with kids than having worthless degrees that are on the wall as decorations, serving no purpose.

[WhitneySnow]

I get it. But sleeping around with a bunch of people is not a good way to find a partner. You def did the right thing waiting, even if your career didn’t turn out the way you hoped it would.

[savagewolf22]

"waiting till marriage approach"

What you gonna do if he divorced you after having sex with you?

[Asker]

@savagewolf22
Why would he? That would make no sense. We're dating with intention, to have kids.