I'm 24 y/o now. . I had to drop out of my bachelor's program; I was diagnosed with anxiety, and my father abuses me 💔Can you help me?

[entrepreneur_ghosh]

I'm writing this to clear my confused mind. I'm 24 now, and I have had a lot of family issues since the day I was born. My parents used to fight in front of me, and I had to go through a lot of traumatic events in my life. I completed my schooling without much struggles, even though I was an average student. I completed my higher secondary education with average marks. My dream was to become a football player, but when I was 16, I gave up the dream because I knew it was not my path. After that, I got admission to the school of architecture, but due to a lot of stress from family, I couldn't complete my bachelor's in architecture. by the way, I started a few businesses and everything failed, and before that, during the COVID lockdowns, I was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder, and at that time, I had to go through a lot of anxiety and panic attacks, but I somehow managed it. Right now, I'm confused. I don't have a bachelor's degree, and one more thing is that my girlfriend dumped me for another guy a few months ago. I'm drained of all my energy now, and I feel like all my enthusiasm is lost. I need help. I don't know why I'm always thinking about my career, and I'm getting anxious. Above all, my father tells me that I'm useless, that I don't have any potential, that I'm worthless, and all that. I don't know—I had to go through a lot, but I'm at my lowest now. I just need clarity.

[cryscrys1]

I suggest you don’t worry about your education at the moment. That’s something you can continue anytime when you are ready.
Your health , your mental health matters the most. If you don’t feel ok then nothing else matters.
I know reading comments won’t make your heart feel better all I can help you is to guarantee you that - things are going to get way better. A year from now you are going to go back and read this post and maybe laugh with it. You are only 24 and you are supposed to feel pain and happiness if you do congratulations it means you are living - life.
You weren’t scared to give life a try you weren’t scared to try new things. Failing and feeling this sad is going to make you a better person stronger.
You are going to graduate university , find a job , make money , marry a girl , have kids , and raise them properly because you are so strong now and you know how to navigate life.
I know it’s hard but keep going. I believe in you.

[entrepreneur_ghosh]

Yeah sure. Reading your comment made me feel hopefully really and thanks for that. Right now I'm just focusing on my mental health and I'm planning to get back on my entrepreneurial journey. I hope everything will be fine in the future.

[tonamimargaux]

First of all overthinking doesn’t leads to any solution. You need to understand the purpose of life. You’re only 24 you will face many more hurdles in the future, these are nothing just stepping stones. Stop overthinking keep yourself busy, go on long walks or swimming that helps taking away half of the anxiety. Write down your issues, or talk to a friend or get therapy. Focus on your present and get back to building your career again. What has gone has gone no use pondering about it. Just re start it’s never too late. You can do it 👏🏻👍🏻 Good luck.

[entrepreneur_ghosh]

Yeah. I'm trying to get back on track. I'm focusing on my new business idea... I'm going to the gym everyday I'm working hard aginst all the odds. I just wanna see what is gonna happen if I don't give up. And thank you for your message.

[tonamimargaux]

See I’m probably one of the most traumatised people on earth. Look at me I’m still alive and doing fine. These experiences are what help you grow as a person. Don’t think you are the only one suffering, everyone suffers in this world what matters is how you decide to still stand tall amongst all odds.

[entrepreneur_ghosh]

@tonamimargaux It's actually a challenge to get over these traumas, but just like you, I too want to fly over the traumas one day and live a peaceful life ahead. And you are right: these experiences always make us more powerful. Now I've actually made a decision to achieve my goals and be a healthier, happier person. People like you are actually healers. I hope you, too, find a great future ahead.

[tonamimargaux]

👍🏻👏🏻🤝

[lightbulb27]

Sounds like you are a very successful man in the making, history filled with people like you that make big difference.

of course you have anxiety... your path is not clear.

your father doesn't understand you or your gifts and that can happen in families as nature distributes "personalities", skills and gifts... He's just frustrated.

step #1: meditate

step #2: make little successes every day, write them down, journal it. as you get ideas, write them down. identify your skills, passions.

step #3: you need to pursue some work and make $ if you aren't in school.

forget about the females for now, waste of your time. Indian girls (and their fathers) require a successful driven guy and you aren't there yet. you will be.

[entrepreneur_ghosh]

This comment actually made my day 😍. Thanks for all the positive messages. I will focus on my goals and achieve it one by one like you said. You made me happy really. 😍

[lightbulb27]

That's what bro's are for! You're welcome!
And now I ask a favor from you. Are you much of a chef... happen to know how to make Tikka Masala gravy. Everything I've tried not working... I'm desperate:)

[entrepreneur_ghosh]

Yea 🥰🥰. I do cook a few dishes but tikka masala is not my thing I guess. I suggest you find a chef online who can cook tikka masala gravy. 😂😂

[lightbulb27]

I will keep seeking, much obliged!

[entrepreneur_ghosh]

Yeah 😊

[entrepreneur_ghosh]

Can I send you a private message?

[lightbulb27]

sure go for it.

[BJP21]

First step remove yourself from that god awful hostel environment you are in. Secondly, do the small things you once loved. Keep it small Thirdly, be around people who are positive, church groups help and can help you connect with people in a positive way.

[entrepreneur_ghosh]

Thanks for the suggestion @BJP21 🥰

[misfittoy]

did you ever hear the phrase shit runs downhill? that is where you are at right now, you need to pull yourself out of it by first getting help and a legit therapist. as for your education? you can go back 2,3, years etc from now. right now focus on your mental health.

goodluck to you

[entrepreneur_ghosh]

Yeah. I should focus on my mental health. I've already contacted a professional and he told me that my anxiety can be cured cus it's not on a higher level as of now. So I'm happy I'm working hard for my goals again.

[WhitneySnow]

You sound like a good guy who’s just struggling. I wanna help you but I don’t have that much life experience myself (I do have anxiety though). Is there anything you want to ask?

[entrepreneur_ghosh]

Thanks for your message. I'm alright I'll find a way out of this and I hope you work with your anxiety too. Good luck 🤞

[WhitneySnow]

Thank you

[exitseven]

Maybe you are depressed because you have very little control over your life. Come up with a goal you can realistically work towards. Make a plan and make it happen.

[entrepreneur_ghosh]

Yeah you are right. I'm working for my goals now. 😇

[exitseven]

I wish you well.

[entrepreneur_ghosh]

Thank you ❤

[Blackcupcake]

my honest and genuine advice for you would be to get a therapist… posting this online, ESPECIALLY GaG won’t be of any help

[entrepreneur_ghosh]

Yes you are right.

[art84]

See a therapist if possible to work out any family problems maybe a psychiatrist to prescribe anxiety medicine.

[entrepreneur_ghosh]

Sure.

[OlderAndWiser]

You did not mention friends? Do you have friends? Are you close wth them?

[Guy13]

Hope things turn back around for you and that you can finish your architecture degree. Best in all your endeavors.

[entrepreneur_ghosh]

Thank you. 😊

[Anonymous]

You need professional therapy. This website is the last place where you should be seeking advice.

[Anonymous]

We cannot help you, you need professional help.

[Opinion Owner]

However, you can be working toward your degree online, even if it's only one class at a time. Might as well not waste time while you're getting things straightened out.

[msc545]

You need to get professional help. this is not a place to solve your difficulties.

[In_Trance]

Diagnosed with something every human being has and needs to have?

[Oigit]

There can be a lot more to it then that. In general our mental and emotional ability to cope with this is a hell of a lot less as a child then at any point. So a lot of things can get buried in our subconscious. But due to our two conscious being connected things long buried in our subconscious do make their way into our conscious and create issues when they do. So anxiety can very much be a symptom of a much bigger and complex issue.

Take it from someone with a very screwed up childhood where a major highlight was being kidnapped and molested. It's can very much be a hell of a lot more of a bigger and more complex issue then having anxiety like everyone.

[In_Trance]

you got hosed

[Agape93]

Nope

[entrepreneur_ghosh]

What?

[Agape93]

Can't help you

[entrepreneur_ghosh]

Then why did you even comment? 😂

[Agape93]

To answer the question, clearly