I still feel like a polite little girl, how can I learn to take up more space at work without annoying everyone?

[Bethany22]

I mean, I know in theory that it's the employees that talk the most at work that everyone loves, but I can't help but become inhibited by colleagues who look deep in thought at their computers or even their phones, or who seem to be grumpy and tired. I know that many extraverts start talking to people not because they are talking directly to somebody, but the result of them thinking out loud very loudly, whereby another extravert has something to say back. Any tips on how I can pretend to think out loud, like good ideas for 'thoughts' that might help bring out my colleagues?

[ChiTown33]

Well first you need to stop worrying about annoying everyone. That tells me right there you have low self value. When you value yourself, respect yourself, it allows you to properly respect others. Because you KNOW your place in the group. And if someone doesn't give you your due respect you can insist they do.

Know what you expect from people, be fair! Not demanding! But know what you deserve from them. And if you don't get it. Then remove them from your life (so to speak). Have minimal contact with them. Talk to people who DESERVE your respect.

[mickmrly]

Just slowly talk a bit more to colleagues and see where it goes. Its not going to be easy going from an introvert straight to being an extrovert. Just take the opportunities when they come. The good thing about being an introvert is you probably have a better sense on when is the best time to talk without being rude, so use that to your advantage.

[Stoner710]

Just start talking to people and get to know them. Now I’m a extrovert so that might not help but being friendly and talking to people will help you in the long run

[FunnyGiy]

Just talk nonsense and they will leave you alone.

It’s really better to keep your weird inner thoughts to yourself. I try to do that myself. Lol.

Some people who talk very loudly are just wanting attention and people to hear them. It tends to get annoying.

[BJP21]

Im always look like I'm talking to myself, but in reality Im having a staff meeting.

[OwenD8]

i dunno, i am an introvert, that is why i am on here

[Noahzaid]

You never answer my questions, check them out.

[pizzalovershouse]

Just see how they interact with other workers an see if there personality is what you like first

[Hulk30]

work on gettin ya a backbone if that's lackin and can ya please tell me your sign and if your neurotypical or not so i can best help ya with your problem

[ArtemisSilver]

Put some whisky in your coffee.

[Sixgunsound]

What is meant by take up more space?