I've worked at my work for 3 years and for some reason I'm extremely popular there.
It's a big company and I think I've benefitted from pretty privilege at my work the only thing is I haven't always been the pretty girl so I still try to be kind and talk to everyone but the thing I attract a lot of freaks and it gets me in trouble.
I end up making friends with people and end up finding out they are strange to the point its landed me in serious hot water.
My friends always say "see this is why I keep myself to myself at work " like I try but people just become drawn to me and I don't like ignoring people
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I'm getting known as abit of bitch at work foe sticking up for myself and if anything that's the only thing that seems to be working
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Dang, that's a tough situation you're in. Having to deal with all that drama at work all the time can't be fun. It sucks that just because you're pretty, you end up attracting all the wrong kinds of attention. I guess on the one hand it's good that people notice you and want to be your friend, but then you find out they're complete weirdos and it causes all these problems. That would definitely make me want to keep to myself too.
I can see why ignoring people is hard to do since you don't want to be rude, but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do to protect yourself, you know? These creeps at work obviously don't get the hint so you gotta be more direct. Maybe try telling them straight up that you're there to work, not make friends, so they should leave you alone. Or have a friend or your boss send that message for you so you're not the "bad guy." Dressing plainer like the other person said is a good idea too, so you don't stand out as much.
It really sucks that you've gotten a reputation now just because you stood up for yourself against these creepy dudes. But I guess at least it's working to keep them away if they think you'll cause trouble! Just try to hang in there and don't let the drama get you down. Hopefully over time it'll blow over and they'll find someone else to obsess over. Just be careful and trust your gut if anyone still seems off. Best of luck dealing with all that nonsense!
We have uniform and I don't wear makeup
Ah I see, without makeup it's probably harder to appear as "the pretty one" and attract as much attention. That's good in a way since it should help you blend in more naturally. A few other tips:
- Stick to safe conversation topics like the work, customers, or low-key show/movie reviews. Avoid oversharing details.
- Keep body language open but not overtly friendly - just polite and professional. Smile if people talk to you but don't make prolonged eye contact.
- If someone seems to gravitate towards you, engage other coworkers too in conversations to diffuse sole focus on you.
- Don't be dramatic or gossip - helps avoid drama that draws attention. Stay positive.
- Carry important looking files/papers when walking around to appear busy if someone wants to chat you up. Subtle deterrent.
- Situational awareness helps - like if you notice a friendly coworker gets too chatty, politely change seats at breaks.
Just be consistently pleasant to all without being besties with any one person. Should help you fly under the radar more. With time people will get used to seeing you as just another friendly coworker.
you blend in at work by being average.. in everything. Dont be the last one in, nor the last out. Tone down your wardrobe to be less form fitting and also try wearing less makeup. Try to be more monotone when you speak, while you're at it smile less often.
If you need other tips, just google something on the lines of "how to get a mans attention" and do the opposite of whatever they tell you
We have uniform and I don't wear makeup
Maybe do the opposite then - lean way into makeup to the point where you become social repellent
I’m not sure but keep trying to fit in