I understand that working is a part of life. I don't mind working but here lately, I am becoming depressed. I'm 23 and I have 2 jobs. I am trying to buy myself somewhere to live, I live with an older family member and I'm taking care of the house for him. But I would like my own space. I feel that I'm too old to live at home, most people my age are more "grown up" than me. Living on their own, having kids, getting married, going on vacations, etc. But working 6 days a week is not fun. I dont mind working, but my one day off is usually spent doing housework and laundry. I am trying to write and publish a poetry book, been working on it since February and its still not done because I work all the freaking time. But working all the time is starting to affect me. I am tired, I'm gaining weight because I eat like crap at work because my breaks aren't very long, I am crying all the time, I feel burnt out, I am becoming rude at work because I'm imagining being free, my boyfriend of 7 years broke up with me because I started stupid fights because I'm stressed out and I wanted to see him more, I am drinking a lot lately, I stay up late to give myself a sense of freedom but I regret it because I get tired. I just want my life to be different tbh. I feel like I'm wasting my early 20s. I see girls my age going on trips and living the good life and I'm always slaving away. I want to be a writer. I don't want this crappy life. When I mention this to my family or anyone older than me, they roll their eyes and say that working is part of life or they say that I'm young so it's easy for me to work so much. I understand this, but I'm still so very bored with my life. Since i still live at home, If I stop working like this, my family will be mad at me and say that I'm not doing enough and call me lazy.
Is it healthy to work 6 days in a row at 23 years old?
Updates
8 mo
And when I mention that I want to be a writer, my family member rolls their eyes and says, "that's so stupid. That's not a real job. You'll never make money like that." Anytime I mention that I hate working like this or mention that I'm stressed, they mock me and say "Oh I know. You have it sooo rough." So I've learned to keep my mouth shut...
What Girls & Guys Said
Opinion
2Opinion
You’re at that age where it feels like everyone you’ve known and/or grew up with (like middle school, high school) is ahead. They’re starting families, living independently and you feel stagnant, I think we’ve all been there. I think it’s very important to remind yourself that their journey is not yours, not everyone is going to go at the same pace, and it is fine.
So take your focus off of what everyone else is doing, stop comparing track records and focus on your personal goals. Right now you have to sacrifice to get to where you wanna be. If it’s living on your own, depending on where you live that is expensive and it takes time to not only save up, but having the money to provide for yourself as well. Working 6 days a week is definitely rough, so maybe you can look for a job that can provide enough income to work at only one place. Right now it’s not ideal, but it’s not a permanent situation, so try to make things easier where you can.
I want to be a writer and have a creative job. I know what I want to do with my life. But I live in a small town in Southern Midwest. There is nothing like that here and if you even talk about stuff like that, people look at you like you're stupid. Plus, being a writer wouldn't pay the bills most likely. :(
I’m also pursuing a creative career (which I won’t get into on here because of the trolls lol), and my biggest advice is to stop telling people about your goals. People like your family member will make you feel stupid simply because they aren’t chasing their own dreams for one reason or another. They’d rather make you feel foolish, and that will do nothing but tear you down. So don’t give them the opportunity. Work towards your goals like a secret project, and in the mean time, just maintain. Find a job that allows you enough money to move out even to just like a studio. Try to make sure that job gives you at least weekends off or even just 2 days for your mental health and to recharge. Find ways to make your life more functional and keep working on poetry. You’ll get to your destination eventually if you don’t give up on it.
If you dont mind me asking, what is your creative job you're wanting? I understand if you don't wanna say tho. I just get curious when I meet other creatives lol
At your age, you can do it without endangering your health.
Well that's good at least. Lol thanks!
When I was 23 and 24, I worked almost every day (I was in the miliary then).
Nope need time to rest and relax