As a child, my parents, mainly dad, every summer, he would print me out homework to do and make me read books and then gives me a time limit to write a summary about the book I read. Mainly my dad, a bit of my mom too, helped me with my homework when i was in elementary school and middleschool, but when they have to repeat themselves, they would yell at me and take their frustrations and anger out on me by beating me just to jog my memory of how they arrived to an answer on my homework I bring home from school. My dad only communicates with me when he needs something, to complain about something, and when he wants to give me life lessons. As a kid, the only time he makes to be with me is when it comes to my studies. When I was in the final days of the 9th grade, I was given a sheet that allowed me to choose what classes I wanted to take in the 10th grade. I showed it to my parents to let them know what classes I wanted to take in 10th grade. They didn't like the classes that i chose for myself, and we argued. The argument resulted in them taking my privileges away, and that day is when i started to hate them and not love them anymore. I wasn't required by my teacher to show them the sheet. I just wanted to give them a heads up on what classes I wanted to take in the 10th grade. Are these the signs of authoritarian parenting, or am I wrong?
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Do I have authoritarian parents?
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Sorry if you were hurt. Godly authoritative parents are a blessing most times, it is well. We sometimes forget our parents are kids learning to take care of other kids, not overlooking your pain, but it is well. Hoepfully, you learn from them and parent well God-willing
Only if they would not allow you to hit them nowadays for not memorizing something you tell them to, yet still claim that their hitting you was correct. Asking them may result in ostracism or disownment, so I'm not suggesting that you find out.
Most parents are perceived as authoritarian - to some extent - by their children. You perceive those experiences from the eyes of a child, and their narration of the same experiences would sound somewhat different. I would not want to judge their behavior based strictly on your account of what transpired.
You may always hate them for what you perceived, but you may also eventually see that their motivations were not all malevolent or self-sentered.