17 Serious - and Not So Serious - Reasons Never to Have Kids (Page 2)

[Anonymous]

That's kind of a dumb way to look at things. I have a two word rebuttal that outways all the negatives. Unconditional love.

[myTake Owner]

Does unconditional love still outweight everything when you and your kids arw broke and homeless and you can't provide for them. And they either suffer and starve. Or they get taken away from you?

Does unconditional love still outweight the pain of seeing your chils die from an incurable form of cancer?

Love doesn't magically put food on table or pay the bills or cure illnesses.

[kisnome]

I'll be fine. Having children is natural to women. I'm looking forward to having a big family with at least 5 children and a loving husband.

[slimstiffy]

And this, my brothers and sisters, is the result of feminism!

[myTake Owner]

I'm actually far from feminist dude. I hate feminism.
I simply dont want kids.
They have nothing to give me to me. The pose no benefit other than continuing my family line which I have all ny cousins for that.

So why should I have them?

Because everyone else [both female and male] say i should?

No thanks

[slimstiffy]

No. You shouldn't give in to peer pressure especially about something as important as this.
And if you dont want kids fine, dont have them.
But the way you describe kids as a pain in the ass is just wrong.
Sure there is nothing more annoying than a bunch of snot nosed idiots. But those same little angels can make your day at other times.
And not all kids are the same. No one should say kids are that crappy, we were all kids once. To me , when i go to small family parties i find them annoying sometimes. But i miss them when they are not there. They can be loud , obnoxious , emotional and irrational. But they are also often very sweet and innocent and can make serious situations seem more lighthearted. They remind me what its like to be free spirited , folloe no rules and just follow your hearts. And kids can read emotions amazingly well.
Im not the best with kids. But if i will marry, i will sure as hell have kids.

[myTake Owner]

I never miss my cousins when they aren't there.
There is only one of them that isn't a complete heathen. Because my uncle raised him right.

But I don't see "little angel" side of kids. They are all heathens.

I've seen more unhappy moments than happy moments from people i know with kids and I'm skeptical that the happy moments outweigh the unhappy moments

[slimstiffy]

Okay. I guess that is your opinion then. Its sad though that you haven't seen the good side of them. I can promise you that just one selfless and heartwarming gesture from a little girl or boy could change your opinion. maybe its because something like that hasn't happened that you feel this way. Anyway im not gonna lecture you. After all , your opinion is your opinion.

[ClariceOwen23]

So a completely random topic that has nothing to do with gender is related to feminism now? I think I just lost brain cells

[slimstiffy]

@ClariceOwen23
Before feminism you wouldn't hear women hating on children like this, you can trust me on this.

[ClariceOwen23]

They definitely did. It's just more acceptable now.

[slimstiffy]

@ClariceOwen23
Exactly. Why the fuck would it be acceptable?
You dont get to hate on any other peoples. Why would you hate on underdeveloped, not-yet-bright kids

[myTake Owner]

You get to hate on other people

[myTake Owner]

You can hate whoever you want.
You just can't act upon that hate.
Like kill people or deny them basic human rights

[slimstiffy]

Its just wrong to hate on kids. If you dont want them, just dont have them. But dont hate on them, what wrong did they do to you?

[cyndyrene]

His obviously comes from a person who has zero experience with children. In fact a women's experience win having a child is completely different from a man's. All men do is provide he sperm and maybe financial support after. All of the pressure is put on the mother. I do not want children. My feminist views have nothing to do with that decision. Everything she mentioned is valid and is definitely why I make a monthly trip to the gyno to get my birth control, because kids are gross.

[slimstiffy]

@cyndyrene
I have plenty of experience with children. And a real man takes care of his children as much as his woman. My dad taught me that. Im seriously done with arguing im tired. Good night dear sis

[Grungenoreos]

Saying that all children are pains in the asses is true. Because we all are aside from the select few people in the world. Adults can be pains in the asses. I know plenty of them. So are teens. But we all were babies and we all used to be kids. I know kids who manage to never be a pain in the ass (my little brother is a far cry from annoying) I understand if you dont want any of your own. Your choice. But dont hate on kids. After all you were one yourself. I personally dont want any kids anywhere in the near future. But maybe someday. I dont need that kind of work, responsiblity, etc. In the next 5-8 years...

[Grungenoreos]

But ya we all can be pains in the asses far into adulthood but not every is actually annoying

[slimstiffy]

@Grungenoreos
Nice. Some positivity for a change :-)

[Metlahaed]

Thank God for feminism! I agree you with Mr. Slimstiffy... I hope it catches on.

[Anonymous]

maybe maybe... but ALL old women i know, who choose not to have kids when they were young.-all regret it... u can be selfish and live ur life without kids and when u hit 55+ u start to regret it... and live with 100 cats

[Dingsbums]

You have kinda a negative view of life

[myTake Owner]

Because I think kids are terrible I have a negative view on life as a whole?
I didn't know having kids made my life. And made it positive. I thought my career, family [minus kids], friends and boyfriend would do that...

Guess not?

[Dingsbums]

"they grow up and you have to live with the knowledge that they have to suffer the same shitty adulthood you dealt with and there's nothing you can do to stop it"
That's negative isn't it?

"you have to worry about people judging how you choose raise your child"
And here u worry too much about what others think

"- they can be born with illnesses that are emotionally devastating to handle"
That's pessimistic too

And all the other points are negative too
Conclusion: you have kinda a negative view of life

[myTake Owner]

False.

I have a a realistic view on life.
Life sucks sometimes. Its not sunshine and rainbows. Why would you want to bring someone else in the world to potentially suffer? Its much kinder not have kids

Kids CAN be born with terrible illness incurable illness. Its not negative. That's life. And I for one would honestly not be able to handle my child in pain.

And I dont worry about people judging me. I do worry about legal repercussions from their judgement. I want to physically discipline my children [not that ill have any but hypothetically] and to some that form of disicpline is considered abuse.

Just because I dont like kids doesn't mean I'm negative. Again realistic. Life isn't sunshine and rainbows 24/7. Can it be great sometimes? Is it great sometimes? Absolutely. Is it that way all the time? No. And I'm not ok bringing a child in a world
Like that

[franzyfrenzy]

You can either dwell on the positives or negatives, you do the latter here.

[Dingsbums]

"And I'm not ok bringing a child in a world like that"
Definitely negative
But yeah you are right you shouldn't have kids

[myTake Owner]

Ok here lemme try postitive out:

Ill totally bring a kid into the world. Like omg yay sunshine rainbows babies. Like it doesn't matter if the world is in a economic crisis because my love for my child is enough. And like it totally wouldn't bother me if my kid got cancer or something because love heals all. Just like love solves everything. Love will put food on the table and provide us with q house and get my kids through college

[Anonymous]

I totally agree with all those reasons! I'm never having kids either

[AdorableLilo]

Can't eat most delicious foods

[AdorableLilo]

during pregnancy that is.

[BertMacklinFBI]

a short and simple read. no rebuttals here.

[Oram52]

Don't care about any reasons, still having kids.

[Lover-girl2001]

Yes but in the end sometimes it is worth it,

[Anonymous]

My reasons : I will be fat and ugly

[Picopa]

Amen

[Anonymous]

It's worth it.

[Pilulu]

Nice myTake.