Soo... i can't speak for everyone but to me there's plenty of reasons i'd rather be friends with guys than gals and here are my main reasons... But of course this is a complete generalisation and i can only go by my experiences.
1: Two faced
I tend to find most females really two faced... sure guys can also talk behind your back be bitchy but it just is not to the same extent... i'm fed up of women being all nicey nice to my face then behind my back saying that they don't like me and negative things about myself i mean honestly if you don't like me don't pretend as if thats the sort of person you're then i don't like you either..
2: Humour
So for me its very very rare i find a female funny.. its nothing to do with them being female its just what they say doesn't make me laugh and its quite important to me i can have a laugh with who i'm with and some banter and if i don't feel like we're clicking in that area then there is going to be abit of fake polite laughing going on.. and ok on first meetings thats all fine but no one wants to base a friendship around that.
3: Sensible
So this one isn't so much a negative thing and is actually quite a good thing ... just not to me..
i've always been a spontaneous person who loves to just about do anything the hell i want to as long as it does not hurt others and i find most females are not very risky when it comes to certain things men seem to be a lot more easy going and will happily do things that many women wouldn't... i think its just women think about the consequences more and me still being a kid at heart i guess i just want to live everyday as it comes.
4: Annoying
I don't know if its the high pitch voices or what they say but something about females just seem to grate on me... this personally tends to be younger females rather than older but when im looking for a potential friend the last thing i want is a migraine.
5: Chemistry
This one by far to me is the most important.. and its what i don't seem to have with women..
when i try and i do try talk make a effort talking to some girls but they just don't seem to want to talk to me or even often acknowledge me.. so i think why am i even bothering to put all this effort in and get nothing back? its like i don't ever think when i meet a woman i'd love to keep in contact with them and carry on talking and be friends and neither do they with me.. but there's been plenty of times i've started talking to a man (just on a friendly basis) and wanted to keep in contact and see them again and enjoyed there company and had fun in there presence rather than a awkward i can't think of anything to say conversation.
Sorry if i offended anyone but i feel these myTakes are here to be honest on.. and i'm not one to go anonymous.
I also apologise for the lack of grammar as i am dyslexic.
The Top 5 Reasons I Choose to Have More Male Friends than Female Friends
I used to feel this way, I had an extremely close knit trio of ladies and rarely made a female friend outside of them for most of your reasons but connected well with men. I remember talking about it with someone at a work convention years ago and she actually pointed out some things that made me change my thought process around making connections with my own gender. Men are easy for me. They're easy to make friends with; they're easy to relate to and they lack the judgement on certain things that women have. However; the connections made with my own gender may be more difficult because I actually had to work for them. To prove myself worthy of being a friend and reciprocate on many, many more levels then I had to do with men.
The majority of your points are just a lack of compatibility when it comes to making friends in general, but all of them can be found in both genders. The stereotype of pointing it only to women in the content reeks of superiority ("the majority of women are like this, but I'm not because I'm unique and guys love that") and if I was looking for a friend in you that alone would turn me off. It's so judgmental and if that's your approach when trying to engage with a potential friend you're probably putting many on their guard not to like you in the first place. To have good friends you first of all have to be one.
Still, whatever works for you but I definitely found acknowledging where I was going wrong in my approach far more beneficial than throwing away the potential
Surprised at this post , most girls / women tend to prefer the company of their own gender & have far closer friendships with each other , then men do , in general there is a strong inter female gender solidarity , that males do not have. However men are more direct , less sensitive ( apart from so called " liberals " ) , cut the crap types & more accepting , without a mile of strings attached.
I have a caustic sense of humour , being a former British Army solider , no surprise there , I agree men do comedy better , I love abusive banter & " your mum " jokes at work , it's the only thing that keeps me semi sane there. My female friends mostly come to me when they want some comedy , quite good at impressions & regional accents too... enjoy taking the piss out of myself !!
This is a very bold take; I like it. One thing to point out is that not all females are like this as I'm sure you are already well-aware. I still know where you're coming from though.
I tend to like both males and females as friends, but they are typically quite different.
Among both my male and female friends, I have some intellectual types who like to engage in deep conversations. I haven't seen too much difference here between the two sexes.
Yet I also have male friends who are chauvinistic frat boy types. They love to have beer chugging contests, arm wrestle, talk about girls' asses, etc. I really enjoy those sometimes but they're almost exclusively male (some very rare exceptions here and there with tomboy types). They're usually humorous and fun in a very immature way, but the downside is that they'll never be the type of friends you can really open up with.
I also have female friends who are very gentle and sensitive. They love talking on a deep emotional level in ways that I find are almost exclusively found in females. I find I can bond with them on a deeper level than anyone else, but they're not always the most "fun" for me.
I have friends who love to talk about cars, sports, gadgets, things of this sort. They're typically male. Unlike the frat boy types, I might be able to bond with them closely and talk on a deeper level at times, but it's typically are.
I also have friends who love to talk about shopping, shoes, cosmetics, and things of this sort. They're typically female. They can have a sensitive side which can talk on a deeper level when I'm talking to them one-on-one, but get them into groups of like-minded females and I generally want to opt out of this council of "girl talking" and gossiping. I feel left out as a guy.
I also find lots of people who don't fit into any of these categories: both male and female, but there are typically some trends I observe based on their sex which pushes them one way or another.
One of my favorite types of friends is actually the tomboy type of girl, since she can possess a lot of the qualities I find appealing in both sexes all at once.
No, the reason is because they are doing things for you and giving you attention, and you feel attractive hanging out with them, the only thing i understand is humour, casue iam a guy and guys can be assholes, two faced, shitty and flat out intolerable, girls treat me pretty nicly and rarely do they hurt me, in fact if i dont talk to a girl much she thinks she did something or hurt me in someway and it happened before , they compliment me and laugh at my jokes... etc
Guys... while i do have good friends, the majority of guys aren't fun to be around 24/7 they are too competitive, too immature and get attracted to the weirdest shit, the youngest of my male friends are 2 -3 years younger than me so not much difference, but were worlds apart in terms of how we think , hangoing out with guys is not problem free nor as easy as it seems to be.
The reason you like being around guys is the same one i like to be around girls : no competition and feels easier to be me, you dont have prove to your female friends that you're just as a woman as them, you can be you and since your friends are men they're cool with it and dont evne complain cause there is no competition.
I love always seeing these mytakes but no one wants to point out that if your a hot chick with a lot of males friends how you know they are not staying friends with you so they can laid you or get in a relationship with you? I'm not saying all males are like this but I am getting tired of women in particular on this site need to need to make mytakes about how "bad" females friends are. Like males friend are any better, I meant males who acted just like females and back stab people in the back for no reason.
Yes i agree with the sexual thing.. most guys if they like your personality and appearance will want more than just friendship i think thats where you need to make it 100% you're only interested in friendship and if they have issues with that then they're probably not a real friend.
I don't know ab the sexual thing bc my guy friends are brutally honest and rated me one of the ugliest in the schools (but they love me anyway lol) but it’s not ALL guys that do that just like it’s not ALL girls that do that. It’s mostly based solely on personality and most girls just don’t like me.
@Wassupidk I don't want to be mean but it sounds like you have low self esteem if you taking that BS of them commenting on your appearance. If you just friends with these guys why does your appearance matter? The point is being friends with horrible men you see the subtlety of their sexism and who cares if you are the ugliest in the school. Please think about it why is that ever okay to tell anyone friend or not?
There was a time when I felt that way- when I was 19-20 then I realized the issue lied in me- I was insecure, I was secretly comparing myself to other female friends and was indirectly competing with them; and felt male friends had no agenda and they were better friends.
Went through a real troubling time and realized - girl and guy friends are just the same. Either one can be a backstabbing jerk!
I was wrong about my female friends and actually come around to really appreciate them and love them from the bottom of my heart.
My Friend ratio is literally almost 50:50 , even my best friends are 2 girls and 2 guys.
Sometimes you just really need to be in company of both- female friendships are great they have a different take on things, and so do the guys.
"when i try and i do try talk make a effort talking to some girls but they just don't seem to want to talk to me or even often acknowledge me.. so i think why am i even bothering to put all this effort in and get nothing back?" - That doesn't just happen to you :D
I've noticed this is more common with "our" generation though... I feel like I've met more women in their late 30s or 40s who actually add stuff to the conversation and then listen when I say something back. Sometimes I don't even want that much of a conversation and I am the one trying to get away, lol. But this rarely happens with women in their 20s.
This was great. Hang with who you have the most fun and connection with, fuck gender. I personally only have close female friends. I have guy friends too, but we're not close. I tend not to have any problems making friends with people and will happily insinuate myself into any conversation. That's a skill though, it's something you can develop. It's all about confidence. In terms of real friendships it's not a necessary skill, but when it comes to the workplace it can be useful. Again, do what's right for you and what makes you happy.
How can you make generalizations about most women when you're one yourself? I have almost all female friends , none who fit any of these stereotypes you listed. Guys can be nice too, but the grass isn't greener on the other side , the same generalizations go with being friends with all men and pointing out some of their not so positive qualities. but why do that? If you want to be friends with guys , that's cool, but why not write what you like about male friends rather than what you bashing half the population of the world?
There always girls like her on here trying to say "I'm not like the other girls and here why because guys are so much cooler" notice how guys think she awesome because she boosting their egos?
@NatashaJ exactly, at the end of the day , if you have to do everything you can to show you're the opposite of everyone in your gender , you're not very secure with yourself. This is the female version of a white knight lol
Exactly, or a woman who just trying to get more men to like her which doesn't really work because they usually see her as a little sister or a best friend.
@NatashaJ definitely, or they assume that their male best friends are just friends when in reality, they'd all sleep with her if they had the chance. This isn't always the case but in many cases its true. I feel dissapointed when in our day and age, women are still finding ways to throw subtle or not so subtle shade at each other for no reason other then being a female.
I know I am sick and tired of how many women on here trying to say feminism is not needed or every woman is equal and have the same experiences. HELLO you have good experiences but many women don't when it comes to gender, race, class so quit acting like only women are bad people and trying to paint that there way more good guys out there. I even heard stories of if a girl in a male friend group starts dating one and the rest of the males friends knows the guy cheating on her, they wouldn't say shit to her and just let her date the guy until she finds out. I see a ton of stories of that on reddit and the girl usually cut ties with the friend groups due to the cheating.
I'm not bashing women i am just stating why i prefer male friends... i guess another one i could put was over sensitive lol? i mean i'm a woman myself remember its not like i don't like women i do have one female friend who i love its just i can only go by my expensives and they've not been great.
It just seems a little funny to group mostly all women into one category and then go on about how you're nothing like all of those women. You have had bad experiences yes , but we all do, it still doesn't mean we can paint a bunch of people all the same because they're the same gender
Personally, the main reason I have guy friends is ONE PARTICULAR group of girls disown me. I don’t make generalizations about the female gender as a whole, just those girls in particular. I feel like that’s what most people are trying to say but don’t know how to express it correctly
You just haven't met the right girls. When you do, you form a literal sisterhood. I personally haven't found most women to be like what you've described. I enjoy the company of other women.
I had a group of really close girlfriends but they disowned me and STILL give me dirty looks. Everyone thinks I’m a slut but I just enjoy their company. Really I don’t think of genders differently just different people
I understand why you prefer guys given the points you mentioned, but I personally have never had much problems with girls, maybe because I say no to drama so they keep it away from me, but I personally prefer hanging out with girls, there's just something more real about them. If they're not drama queens, then I tend to get along better with them, hence why most of the best friends I've had were girls.
most of the ones I've met are either stuck up or stand offish. BUT I don't hang around a bunch of men either , i only have one male friend who is now my fiance and the few female friends i do have are my own cousins lol. so that should tell you. plus i grew up with sisters and I've experienced jealously from them. so i know what you're talking about...
Hahah I'm with you there! Ever since primary school I've always had more guy friends than girls. The guys were a lot more fun, adventurous and weren't afraid to get their hands dirty. I hated make-up, dying my hair, being all fancy and girly; just wanted to wear tracksuit pants and t-shirts lmao
Now I'm a lot more feminine then I was before, but I still have my masculine side :P Great take!
It's hilarious that all girls say the same exact thing as you. If you were friends with more males than females, you would know that males are just as dramatic as females. Sometimes I find them to be more than dramatic. They can also be very annoying, they're vulgar and nowhere like females.
This ^ and if you can raise a boner in their pants and you make them think your into them they turn sexual really fast. That's been my experiences and I notice that I can't never keep a male friendship alive with most men due to them being hyper sexual only a few special guys like Waffles on here.
Pretty much all my friends are male bar one.. and the female actually happens to be my closest friend :) i have nothing and i mean nothing against women i knew if this take got featured it would manage to offend a few women but it really is just my opinion.
It isn't offensive, I just find it funny that every point that you made, and a lot of females try to make is a contradiction to how male friends act. They're nowhere less dramatic than female friends. I think what it is, is that a lot of females don't want competition so they just hang out with males.
I'm not offended either it just since its GAG and there a ton of women and men on here who shit on women constantly but never shit on men, that's what pisses me off but glad your not making this mytake because you believe that type of stuff.
Males aren’t exactly more dramatic than females, nor females than males. It’s based on the person, really and most girls that have guy friends know some girls that are as dramatic as ever. But only some. So they don’t know that much about most girls and are quick to assume all girls are like that. Like, personally, I have guy friends because my girlfriends disowned me in middle school and STILL give me dirty looks. My guy friends aren’t as dramatic as those girl friends, so when I say girls are dramatic, I usually mean that group
Girls need girls for their chatter and banter. Just don't expect the guys to be like girlfriends. They're not going shoe-shopping with you, and not going to sit at the makeup counter. Be patient with your girlfriends. You'll need them one day.
And guys are really only interested in girls if they think they have a shot at banging you. Otherwise the just put up with you. And not, being just like the guys does not make you attractive to them. This is a fallacy a lot of women behold - that the more they are like guys the more the guys will like them. NOT.
"Girls need girls for their chatter and banter." i personally don't maybe some do.. i just prefer company of guys and judging by the comments some women do also.. i don't think there's anything wrong with that...
and im not trying to be attractive to a guy.. or try being more like them i'm very feminine and not manly at all lol think you missed the point of the take abit because its all about friendship and i only care about seeming attractive to my boyfriend..
While I can be friends with anyone regardless of gender, I have some points I'd like to point out why I would like to have female friends. 1. Perspective of the opposite sex and mystery solving 2. Variety 3. Unique support from the opposite sex 4. Because why not? 5. Consultation when it comes to the opposite sex 6. Women are interesting and lovely
I think you just haven't found the right type of girlfriends yet, but I definitely understand your myTake. I went to an all-girls high school once and I heard about a different type of drama for everyday of the week. I'm just glad I found very true friends there, a lot of people weren't so lucky.
I found friends that are girls but they disowned me back in middle school and still give me dirty looks. No other female in the school (minus my best friend) will even let me talk to her.
You like what you like. Nothing wrong with that. There must be some reason why lots of girls prefer guy friends, while not many guys prefer female friends.
Women can be caddy and self interested... I see women all the time together and all they do is complain complain complain.. nothing funny about that... I don't blame you.
Not suprising, most females I know personally would say the same. Many dont want female friends cause yeah always too much drama, backstabbing etc apparently, all of them are much happier with just having male friends.
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