The Cure For Drama
Please Read At Your Own Risk. Potential Side Effects Is Becoming Stress And Drama Free.
Hi guys and girls!!!! I hope you're having a fantastic day. In this MyTake I will be covering DRAMA!!!!! I will be breaking down how to cure yourself of drama with family and friends to go on and live a drama free life. I was inspired to cover this MyTake after receiving feedback on the Karpman's Triangle. This is my favorite cognitive tool and has made my life essentially drama free. Karpman's Drama Triangle was created by Psychologist Dr. Stephen Karpman in 1963. He broke it down in his book "A Game Free Life". "This triangle can feel good", according to Karpman. "Victims feel innocent; persecutors feel powerful; rescuers feel righteous." My objective with my collection of MyTakes is to help you understand yourself and others better. My main objective is to spread love, peace, and positivity.
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Karpman's Drama Triangle
The Persecutor is also known as the bully. They typically never take responsibility and will be quick to blame others. They will be very critical and very negative. They believe they are always good and everyone else is the problem. These are very negative traits and can be indicative of a toxic person. (If you need information on how to spot a toxic person or rid yourself of one place check out the resources below. 👇👇👇 )If you spend a lot of time in this role then you are essentially creating your own drama. You will need to get out of this role and into problem solving. Have no fear though because there is a cure!!!!
The Cure: Become A Challenger
The challenger will state boundaries, communicate effectively, and will be open to problem solving. You are not bossy but encouraging to others. A challenger's purpose is not to punish anyone but rather to question the actions of another and try to understand them. You are not the judge and you do not carry out the punishment. You challenge the things you don't agree with and you try to problem solve potential solutions.
The Victim is the one who is helplessly and hopelessness dependent on another. They will need constant outside validation. They refuse to help themselves and are always relying on others to make decisions for them. They lack any real leadership skills or interpersonal skills. They do not have the will to get help or to better themselves. Do not be a victim. It is critical to avoid personally victimizing yourself for attention. Sometimes you will be a victim which is okay because it happens. What you don't want to be is helpless. When you are helpless you are creating drama for yourself and those whom you surround yourself with. Only once you get out of this drama role and into problem solving can you really become drama free. No worries because we have the cure!!!!!!!
The Cure: Become A Survivor/Thriver
A survivor is no one's victim. They will thrive and grow from the pain they endure. A survivor is admirable whereas a victim is not. A survivor is a fighter that's completely capable of helping themselves and knowing when to ask for help. A survivor will overcome and adapt to any situation which helps them thrive too.
The Rescuer is also known as the "savior". When you are in this drama role it is because you love the drama. Even though you may instantly disagree that you don't like drama, take a few seconds and really think about the drama you intentionally invite into your life. When you are in this drama you role you are not problem solving. Not everyone WANTS to be saved. If you are spending a lot of time trying to save people or help people who won't even help themselves then unfortunately you like the drama more than you realize. It is sometimes easier to focus on fixing others instead of working on ourselves. *It is imperative to note that whenever you take on a role you are NOT problem solving. It's only once you get out of the roles, can problem solving occur and you can become essentially drama free.
The Cure: Become A Coach/Role Model
Once you reach problem solving you will no longer be stuck in this drama role. Being a coach instead of a savior will keep boundaries intact and self help at the forefront. When you are coaching someone you are giving advice and being an active listener. What you are not doing it making their problems your own. You can listen and support others without getting personally involved in their drama. As a coach you will also give relevant feedback with zero expectations that they will take the advice and/or use it. So be someone's coach, role model, and biggest cheerleader. Do this the next time you feel the urge to "save" someone who isn't interested in helping or saving themselves.
Hi guys and girls. I hope this take was very useful and an easy read. I had so much fun writing this and wanted to thank everyone reading and leaving feedback. "This triangle can feel good", according to Karpman. "Victims feel innocent; persecutors feel powerful; rescuers feel righteous." It is not always easy to staying out of the drama triangle but hopefully with practice and consistency you will be able to create a drama free life. Have A Wonderful COLORFUL Day!!!!!!
Yours Truly: Secret6620 💋♥️
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Resources To Check Out:
"A Game Free Life" By Dr. Karpman
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