Dad forces me to do things.. help?

[Anonymous]

My dad forces me to go places and do things. If i dont want to go to the mall he will force me to go.. If i dont want to go to the store he will make me get in the car and leave. Im a legal adult im 19 for f***'s sake! The whole "his house his rules" thing is a crock of sh*t. I can't move out yet so im stuck here. What can i do to make this stop? Should i call the cops? Im tired of getting forced to do this and go there and do that. And then if I have plans with my boyfriend he will force to do what he wants and he will make sure i cancel the plans. Why is he such an ass?

[Stacyzee]

You'll have to live like this until you are capable of finding your own place.

When you live under someone elses roof, pretty much rent free, you pretty much have no say.

Your father still sees you as his little girl (he always will because of the huge age difference), so although you hate this you have to tolerate it.

Calling the cops won't make things better only worse.
You will eventually have to come back to his home, and there will be animosity in the air held.
You would also be severing your relationship with him by doing so.

My advice now is,
A) Continue to tolerate it until you move out
B) Like a mature adult, sit him aside and speak to him about this.

Hopefully he really hears your point of view so you both can live in harmony.

[anony84]

What do you mean by he "forces" you? Like he physically grabs you and throws you into the car? If that's the case, then sure you can call the police because it is assault.

However, if you just mean he keeps demanding you do it and you cave, then well, that's you caving. The whole "his house his rules" is not a crock of shit. If you want to live there, then you're going to have to put up with it. If you don't want to put up with it, then move out. If you can't move out, then you're going to put up with it.

[CottonMuffin]

I expected some serious shit like : ''My Dad forced me to touch him'' , but you're complaining because he wants you to go to the store?
Welp..

[becca123]

Me, too.

[Red7336]

me three..

[GoodGuyGreg]

Get a job u bum and go live with your boyfriend. you are so self entitled. yo u are not a kid anymore that means you have to work for a living. So if want to force you to do stuff just so you can have a roof on your head then do it.

It is his house if u don't paybrent u have no say. Go live on the streets or something. Or with a friend. u need to grow up.

Like u said ur 19

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

^this

[Anonymous]

His house his rules - he's right. Stop being so lazy. He spent 19 years working his ass off so you could have food, clothes and a roof above your head. Show some respect.

Please do call the cops - everyone needs a laugh every now and again, cops are no exception.

[BrokenHeartedFool561]

Lmao that was hilarious!

[Taell]

You could tell him straight, if he says "if you live in my house you do what I tell you to do" then you can go live with your boyfriend for a few days (make sure you ask him first, presuming you've been together for a while). By law he can't make you come home and live in his house, I think. Then he may realise what a dick he's being.

[lkjhg69cum]

WTF? REALLY? He pays the bills and provides you a place to stay and food, water, shower, etc. And you are pissed because he wants to spend time with you and have you live by his rules? Wow! Go ahead and call the cops. They will laugh at you, and your Dad will (rightly so) kick you out on your ingrate ass. Hell, you are "19 years old for f@cks sake! Haha, I really hope this was a prank and I was just had, because otherwise... I don't know, all I can do is shake my head here... Haha

[evenlift]

Unless he is forcing you to live in his house, he isn't doing anything illegal.

[OnionsNstuff]

oh look, a typical teenager who thinks the universe revolves around them

[Yanoa_Yanza]

Dad and mom are the reason you're here. They let you live in their house, let you go to school, have hobbies, have a freaking boyfriends... You should just accept it.
It's just the store...

[Mesonfielde]

Well until you move out, this is how it is.

[Firestone]

Don't call the cops, that's a bad idea , he's your father and that's gonna hurt him so I guess you bend to his rules till you are out of there

[Asker]

They aren't rules you should force some one (let alone an adult) to do what they dont feel comfortable doing. thoes aren't rules thoes are being controlling

[Anonymous]

sorry but #FirstWorldProblems...

[tenofthepeaks]

get over it...

[Anonymous]

Was he a in the army