Oh well if your parents are that strict. Then don't tell them. It's going to suck for you when they find out.
First you have to ask yourself can you move out on your own or move in with him if you are that comfortable with him. Although I think six months is too quick to move in with him.
My sister didn't tell my parents about her boyfriend until like she was 24 or 25 and they have been dating for like 6 or 7 years at that point. They didn't meet him until she was like 26.
She only came out because our parents mainly our mom was asking when she was getting married. Oh and there was a period of when she didn't come home for a few nights because she was sleeping over at her boyfriend's place and my mom was pissed and all the traditional Asian parents say about being respectful and listening to them because they know best. Ahhh man that sucked to hear for the next couple of weeks. Our mom started to all her a slut but in Chinese and there are so many ways to say it. Sometimes I didn't understand the insult because it's in Chinese.
So from my experience I say keep it on the low. They don't want to see their "little" girl become a woman without their permission. Just go out like you were hanging out with your friends. Tell your boyfriend that he can't meet your parents because they are racist and controlling. I'm first generation and my parent immigrated here so that's how Chinese they are.
So that's my thoughts on the matter. Hopefully your boyfriend understands. Just avoid conflict, and raising hell at home. It's not worth the risk if they are very traditional and uphold our cultural values to the T. You cannot change your parents views, they'll never really understand the American life.
Is this a guy you see as a potential husband? If not, I would suggest not introducing him to them. It will also be easier for him to gain acceptance if he is viewed as having good financial prospects if he is currently a student or has a good job if he is out of school.
I once had a Japanese girlfriend and I found that I was accepted (a bit grudgingly) once I made an effort to learn some Japanese and could communicate with them a bit.
If you want some more insights, you can send me a PM (I know a bit about Han Chinese culture as well).
lol I'm having the exact same problem as you😦 but my situation is the opposite.
I am White European my boyfriend is Asian I am also having trouble to tell my family because they are strict too and have no idea about my dating life being with an Asian guy...
I suggest you wait for he right moment and tell them because sooner or later they are going to know it... I'm thinking the same too
Gahhh same problem here and it’s been 2 years already 😥 I guess I’m just going to wait till we’re goddamn serious about our future together
Maybe don't have the conversation Maybe have him come over and hang out or pick you up and hope they work it out
I wouldn’t unless you guys are serious and are going to settle down
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Strict or racist? Because to me it sounds like if you won't let your daughter date people who aren't your race you're racist.
Honestly the solution is pretty simple either they're going to disagree and you're going to have to stick to it and not stop dating him, give up and date someone else, or they'll eventually accept him if they know how serious you are.
If this guy isn't going to marry you is it really important to bring him into your family life. I'd only be considered about this dilemma then.
Plan a long vacation and just about the time you need to catch your flight at the airport and have gone through security and they don’t have tickets then yell the wonderful news to them. Oh and leave your phone in their car. Then when you return they will have calmed down some.
You just tell them..
And hope then don't:
-Remove your inheritance
-Disown you
-Throw you away
Just kidding.
Just bring him home one day, then tell them you two are dating.
You don't have control over their reactions.
You might want to set HIS expectations though. I'm Asian too and we have totally different culture than western people. LOL.
I'm also Asian and you just gotta stand up to your parents. Talk back, give them an attitude and don't let them dictate your life.
Don't like my girlfriend because she's white? Too fucking bad.
Out of all the people my dad knows, i'm one of a handful of people who stand up to him
Do subtle things. Like if he's Mexican start eating tacos or if he's white start eating lasagna to introduce the culture. Then tell em that you want them to meet your boyfriend. Bam he's a gringo. They won't be surprised cause you been eating lasagna
Just tell them. And let them know that they have no say in who you date. You're 21 and they have no say in how you live your life or who you live it with.
How strict exactly? My friend had this issue whilst his parents were quite sad he said to them that he wants to date a white girl rather than Asian they accepted it in the end. And his parents are quite strict
I’d say don’t bring him right off the bat. Not good shocking them. You should do it little by little. Don’t bring him to their house. It’s better to meet in public because it sets the mood better respecting your parents is upmost.
You should bring a black guy first to your parents and say look mom and dad this is the guy that is destroying my cunt with his giant n word cock. Then you bring the white guy and they will be a little relieved that your womb isn't getting ravaged by a gentlemen of African heritage
I hate to see cross racial couples. But if you must date someone of other race.. Just tell them, you love him and you will keep dating him anyway
SInce he is WHite, I'm betting they will get over it fairly quickly.
Asian isn't a religion lol. Are they "strict" or racist?
Just tell them, the longer you wait the harder it will be to tell.. always be honest!
Maybe tell parents that you are pregnant with black man baby. Tell them no I am only joking. But boyfriend is not Asian. Hahaha
tell them it’s your choice your over 18. hate parents that try running kids life’s after 18.
I don't know but if you find out tell, me. my girlfriend won't even tell her friends. together 5 months.
Um I'm Asian they hated it that she was white but they were okay after a while
Do you still live at home?
Just tell them, take command
Just do it. See what happens.
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