My mom doesn't like my fiancé, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

I recently got engaged with a wonderful supportive loving man , at 1st him and my mom got along very well until now, my mom is has been helping me support my family financially (my mother , my sister and her baby).. until they can get back on thier feet but my family never appreciate anything instead my mother is always demanding more , borrows money from people and expects us to pay.. my fiance even asked for an advance to help my sister and baby daddy but they didn't even say thank you;my mom is rude to my fiance, to me and has been verbally abusive and choked me infront of my fiance and called me a "bitch". I feel like im going to lose him., I don't understand why my family is doing this to me I sacrifice my own happenis for them;get into debts for them. but in return im nothing. Im considering moving to my own place and just help them pay rent for 2months. What should I do?

[Naditz]

I've been the fiance in this situation (well minus supporting her family). My only advice is that you two are the ones engaged to each other and you two are the only ones who should decide if you should or shouldn't be together.

If everything you've said is true then your fiance sounds like a pretty incredible and selfless person. Your mother (not intending any offense) sounds like she has some kind of narcissistic complex.

[ConnorH]

Your family is toxic and will bleed you dry. As someone who recently escaped this consider my next words carefully. GET OUT. You have the love of your life but your family will destroy it because they're leeching off you. Get your fiance and GET OUT. LIVE YOUR LIFE, NOT THEIRS.

[Yakasmashi]

You know what she can't do anything about it it your life you chose the person you love NOT HER... if she doesn't like your fiance she can get over it and if she doesn't oh well shit happens...
Don't listen to your mother about who u can and can't be with because that is bullshit be with the one who your heart desires etc

[Yakasmashi]

Leave your mother asap... NO MOTHER SHOULD DO THAT

[PinkMichae]

Cut ties with them. They are always gonna depend on you until you stop enabling them. It is not your obligation to support their bad choices. Sounds like you have a good man but he will eventually resent you someday for allowing them to treat him that way and not putting a stop to it. I hope everything works out for you.

[TisforTori]

It’s hard to come from a toxic household. I would definitely get out as soon as you can. You can love your family just know they won’t always be what’s healthiest for you

[Nishant9027]

Maths
You should be around 22
And you don't feel good about those 22 years
Because of your family
Now think about rest of 58 years
You are lucky enough to have a man
Who cares for you
So do you want to waste your 58years ahead
Because your family did made your 22 years hell
Think about it

[Aki6000]

Seems to me he is way better than your family and puts up with them even though he has no obligation but eventually he's going to have had enough of this and move on. You can either stay and lose him or get out of the ditch you are in and move on with your life. Maybe living with him would be better?

[OatsnWhey]

Tell your mom to grow up or get the fuck out of your life. My girlfriends mom is on that same level and i’ve literally done nothing wrong to the woman or my girlfriend. I find it ridiculous that a grown adult can’t date who she wants tbh. She doesn’t have to like your fiancé but if she respects you, then she will keep it civil.

[Andre__]

Get your own place and start your own live.
Help them, but don't be near them. If they keep being ungrateful leave them be.

[YukikoEx]

Honestly? Move the fuck out and never talk to your mom again. That is what I would do. She crossed the line of "Hey, I don't like your husband, but as long as you are happy, I don't mind."
Move out and tell her right in the face "I am gone and I never wanna see you again. Even if you need money or anything, go ask someone else cos I am not gonna support a piece of shit like yourself."

[karzy]

You need to be happy. That means letting your family look after themselves. They need to start being responsible. It's not your job to make sure they are looked after. Move out ASAP.

[Hector46]

Your family sounds unbelievably toxic. For your happiness and your fiance, I suggest you cut ties with your family.

[FinalVow]

why are you helping her again. leave her ass out to dry. she will learn her place real quick.

[ThatWeirdDude]

Move out and just stop helping them, they'll learn to appreciate what you were doing for them once you aren't doing it anymore.

[ECBlanchard]

Marriage is the correct thing to do she is not in charge of your life.

[shep0612]

Mother knowes best u r too young to be in any relationships

[phoevos]

Tell her if she dosent like him just dont get involved.

[ChronicThinker]

Stop giving them shit and cut them off.

[iamnash]

You're gonna not get married? It doesn't matter

[urmumbiggei]

Your mother knows best. Call off the engagement.

[sanjay121314]

Your mom might be jealous 🤔

[jimyee]

Get a new mom

[Yesnomaybe85]

Ditch the bitch

[eternal_aq]

Run away from home!