So I moved out in 2016 with my boyfriend. Year later had first baby. She became so different with me since not being under her roof. She seems to like to gain info on me , then I find out she told my sibling but she’s very strange. For example to my face she’s like less caring or doesn’t show she’s proud.
Yet when she talks to sibling she will talk me up in a really good way. Almost as if to cause animosity or a problem between my two siblings. We are all not close , she’s never got us together or tried to make us be really supportive of each other.
She will tell me what my sibling did for her almost as if she thinks I should. It feels like a completion doing normal things. My mom can’t stand my sister or I making friends , she hates my now fiancé for no reason. She’s always verbally rude over texts, humiliates me in person, talks up other peoples lives like to make me feel inadequate.
It almost feels like being back at school she has no loyalty if you tell her anything it gets around so fast. My partner got a promotion she didn’t make a deal of it which is fine but then she proceeded to tell my brother to make him feel crap then my brother called me to tell me he’s at work for no reason but she made him feel crap.
She talks to me as if she owns me or my time. If I am busy which I am with my disabled kid she still expects the world from me. I have a house to run child to look after an a future to think about. Yet she seems to think the world owes her something. She likes to see all her children separately which makes it seem like she chats crap to each of us and doesn’t want us finding it all out. She said I am too into my partner and kid. She’s married but I feel she’s unhappy so she’s going round spreading misery.
It always seems to be about what I can do for her not what she can for me. She often says I am your mother. Like that’s enough to warrant her behaviour.
