Why is she keeping me pending on her friend request on FB?

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I was dating a girl who I met through mutual friends. I added her on FB before we started dating. During the course of our dates, we argued here and there and one argument was so bad that I blocked her on FB. I added her again but she hasn't accepted my request. We ended up breaking up and she still wanted to be friends. She said she was going to accepted the friend request but she never did.

Evolution86 · Accepted Answer

If you broke up with her, why bother keeping her as a friend on facebook? I had my ex on facebook for a while, and it wasn't exactly a friendship, it was more of a chance for him to show off his new girlfriend, and it hurt. And now, the most recent guy I dated was deleted immediately after we stopped seeing each other, even though I tried to be civil, and re-added him, but it was the same thing. He had gotten into a relationship, and people had been flaunting how amazing she was, both my "friends" and other people on facebook. It was frustrating, and spiteful. Now, I do not speak to him, or have him on facebook. I don't get involved in his drama from work or life in general.

The problem with being friends with an ex is at some point, there's more than likely something that's going to trigger pain or hurt in one or the other. She's probably unsure of how to navigate the situation, because there could be some semblance of feelings still there, and it could be hard for her to decide what to do.

Don't read too much into the situation, because chances are, she is confused, and she has every right to be. It's a difficult position to be in for any girl.

latinhoney87 · Accepted Answer

Well she is probably the kind of girl that doesn't know how to swallow her pride and after you blocked her she probably don't want anything to do with you ...maybe not to be mean but just to prove a point..because if it was me I would feel like ..WHY DOES HE WANT TO ADD ME KNOW AFTER HE BLOCKED ME ! ...but my suggestion is:

To remove the request & wait for a few days (maybe a week)

then try again and if she doesn't add you then forget it she is still holding a grudge..

jenn33 · Accepted Answer

that means she's letting you off the hook easy.  that means the following: she does not want to be friends with you any longer and she definitely doesn't want to be connected to you on facebook anymore.

gtex1991 · Accepted Answer

never take what a woman says literary, even girl who reject me say lets be friends, I delete them after the rejection. because at this point its no use

in life you can't be friends with everyone, even with those you were friends with before, something might happen

also do you want to be friends with someone you are not good terms with

KERMlT · Accepted Answer

She probably thought the reason behind the argument was so petty that it was more of an annoyance to refriend you and possibly do this all over again later. Now that you two are split up, she may never accept. I'd remove the request and forget about her.

Lockjawx27 · Answer

She's dangling herself like a carrot in front of you

She is a conceited whore that has far too many options. She has a ton of guys stroking her ego everyday. You are just 20th in line probably.

She's toying with you. This is what she wants, you being insecure about it

emilyzenella · Answer

She probably doesn't really want to be your friend. A lot of times girls say you should stay friends but they don't mean it. But sometimes they do so don't let that scare you away in the future.

ManAmongBoys · Answer

She's probably letting you hang in limbo for the same reason I let people hang in limbo: I'm tired of ignoring repeated requests and it blocks them from doing it again. Take. The. Hint.

CaptainMorganGrl · Answer

She could be undecided on if she wands to add you or not. Also on Facebook if someone friend requests you and you leave it pending you can see their profile but they can't see yours.

Dan2287 · Answer

who cares about f***ing FB - you are friends in real life that's all that matters. you blocked her to begin with. if you want to see her, try using a phone - your putting too much weight on this

Chelseax3 · Answer

aha, facebook is so much drama. I made someone mad once, what I said wasn't even bad and they blocked me, and won't add me. real mature :P

giovanni420 · Answer

Why block her? Unless she's spamming you or harassing doesn't sound like the "man" thing to do. Don't worry about it.. Its only Facebook.

yayaitsbella · Answer

Remove the request, and resend it. (:  She probably forgot about it.

TheCheshireCat · Answer

Maybe she hasn't gotten on facebook yet to accept the request...

ExCeL · Answer

You're a little bitch.Who the f*** cares if she won't accept your facebook request?

VanityIsTheCurse · Answer

Dude it's a god damn website. It's just numbers and codes. I'm sure you'll get through this...

Anonymous · Answer

when you do that its when you don't want to friend someone but you don't want them to have the option of continually adding you again and again. just keep em on pending and ignore it :)

Anonymous · Answer

She probably changed her mind about wanting to stay friends.

Anonymous · Answer

Because she is holding grudge against you still Whatever, it is just facebook.

adiosmiamor · Answer

u started it she got the last laugh

Paris13 · Answer

... She Never Will Here, dear. Move on Now. xx

Anonymous · Answer

Don't know why... maybe she changed her mind and doesn't want you to know that she is rejecting you?

Tom102 · Answer

Maybe this is her way at getting back at you?

tklim · Answer

who cares - move on

Why is she keeping me pending on her friend request on FB?

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