I feel that in youth a independent woman but once I get to the age of looking at marrage I'd want a housewife on the one condition she doesn't take it for granted. By that I mean go behind my back with other guys, consistently over spending our money and and not pulling her weight in the relationship.
If you need specifics about me. I'm socially libral but ethically conservative. I am a liberal Christian and they don't dictate my opinions on relationship as I had this opinion when I was an athiest. Part of my opinion is based on the fact I am generally dominant so the housewife role though equal to the bread winner in my eyes has an air of submission about it that I adore in a woman.
I think women always misread this kind of information. Your poll is not specific enough. Poor men will always prefer a financially capable woman, where a well off more successful man will usually prefer a housewife. So if you prefer to focus on your career you will attract men who are less successful and if you focus on being a good housewife you will attract men who are successful or are likely to be successful in the future. Obviously there are exceptions and its not a 100% no career vs successful doctor type thing either.
So sure I would bet most men prefer women with an income because most men are poor.
Do you prefer to date mostly successful men or mostly unsuccessful men?
I get your question, but I would like to challenge the concept that if you're a housewife, you're automatically "not independent."
I personally prefer to work myself, but, as I've gotten to see what housewives actually do, they're very independent. They manage a lot more than people realize, they're simply not financially independent a lot of the times. That's where they're at a disadvantage in my eyes. However, plenty of stay-at-home moms maintain their own source of income; I once knew a woman who made an income by decorating cakes part-time.
It's a complex subject, is what I'm getting at.
If ur just a couple (married or dating) then it's fine if only the guy is working, but if there are kids involved then it would be better financially for both parents to be contributing. Ur probably thinking, "but housewives are more common when there is a child in the home to be looked after". Well then either retired grandparents need to be contacted (it'll cost ya less then an unrelated babysitter) or either the mother/father needs to get a stay at home job, perhaps online or by phone. So ya, whether a housewife or independent wife is more important definitely depends on the family situation
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Every man is going to have a different take, as they are dependent.
The only problem with a non-working wife, is if you divorce - then you're stuck paying for her, supporting her, even when you're NOT married to her.
It also depends on children, and how many. Some want to have kids, some a little some a lot, some none. It kind of hinges on that.
I do not believe in having children and then shipping them off to someone else to raise while you work a job. It's just not right. Same as raising them as a single parent while simultaneously trying to date - a total fail.
Independent.
The average monthly rent of a one bedroom apartment in the LA area is about $2800. Average utility bill is $100. There would be an additional $100 for top notch internet speed, and $85 for phone service. She'd likely eat ~$500 worth of food per month (which I'd have to pay for if she didn't have an income of her own).
Thus, my total monthly expenses with a housewife would be $4085. With a financially independent wife, it would be reduced to $2042.50, because she'd pay for her own food and 50% of the shared bills. No amount of cooking and cleaning could be equal in value to $2042.50 per month. If child care was added to her duties, maybe she'd be pulling her own weight--but I don't want kids.
I want someone that works at least part time and contributes at least $400 per month to help me pay for the home and utilities. She is responsible for paying for her own transportation, clothes, etc.
We each take turns paying for our outings/dates.
We each get to have time at home with our kids, and our own free time, plus time together.
If people were intelligent enough to not prioritize an over sized expensive house and over priced car to try to show off to others, they wouldn't need as much income and they could enjoy life much more.
it seems like the most of us can't distance ourselves from personnal connections on this topic.
the question itself is very good by the way. its a pity rarely anyone touched many of the dimensions of their answer in details.
Men prefer independent woman mostly cause they either fear of possibility to pay alimony, or for they dont want to commit, , BUT would except the same traits as men voted housewifes. thats sy rarely even possible, no human not man not woman could live two lives at once. basic expectations won't change with time, its rather that men can't articulate the same needs theyve always had without consequences, while women are still free to have outspoken expectations, thats not equality there. and if some disagrees with classics, think of a scenario like this: a plumber man living with his mom being 34 and chubby, would there be a 27years old good looking woman rushing to get him?
Independent.
The Neanderthals who want a housewife are ignorant of the fact that the real world is a few decades past 1981. Not just in culture, but more so, the financial reality that few families can survive a major crisis with only one income. Financially independent spouses are the best weapon to prevent or recover from crises facing the family. You want that.
Nothing astonishing about that, they want to eat the cake and have it too, they want an independent woman who can be submissive and give them how much ever sex they want, who can comply with their shitty behaviours, they don't want someone dependent on them, don't want to 'waste their resources' so they want someone independent but again, they look for submissive ones (they don't mind if she's dominant in bed) but should be submissive in behaviour, now who would explain these fools that why an independent lady comply with them? She doesn't get enough motivation, I love to see them all whining about how they don't get "High quality women" because independent women (majority) wouldn't like to adjust to these parameters & those who adjust for them parameters are coincidentally often "Dependent"
I'm really hoping there's a good amount that want a housewife. 🤞
Kind of both, but mostly independent. I want someone who can actually contribute to society in her own way, but is also capable of maybe taking time off from her career if our kids need it (obviously I think I should do the same, but possibly we'd alternate).
I would be fine with either, though since I don't plan to have kids (I'm 48 and don't have any, so, obviously I'm serious about it), I would expect her to have at least a part time job and bring in some income. If we had kids, then that would be different.
But as long as the work gets done and both are pulling their weight, then I don't care all that much about how the dividing line is drawn.
Honestly surprised that most people preferred the other. I picked housewife because I would like a wife thats loyal. Not to be sexist but in this day and age the cheating rate is like at 30% and higher
Most men say they would prefer an independent woman. From my experiences, I've learned most men have no idea how to have a relationship with an independent woman. When a women is independent, we really have no need for a man, that's why we are independent. ✌
I Have previous marriages. And if I was again. Definitely an independent intelligent interactive woman that can stand equally beside me if not even a hair in front of me. But to have the ability to financially be able to support our positive endeavors and directions together would be quite the relief. And a very welcome position. Imagine the great things we could do working together for a better life and others.
Vote C: A mix. I like independent and individual spirit in people. Much more so in myself or my partner. At the same time, housewife skills and basic interest should be present. In myself as well. If we don't want to or cannot live in a somewhat controlled manner/standard, we don't deserve civilization. I prefer independence on both of our sides to be somewhat limited: an excess of it could easily lead to carelessness, irresponsibility or a superficial relation.
Independent. What kinda question is this? I like women who are sassy and full of life. And also ambitious. She's gotta want to do more than bake and cook. That shit gets old after a while. Get hobby even. Ain't nobody bout to be sitting at home all day unless you work from home.
Judging on how many guys on here complain that all women want is their money, I wouldn't have expected this many guys willing to pay for all their girls expenses
I love a sexy hot housewife. I want to pamper her, let be a stay at home wife, buy her beautiful clothing, and treat her like a doll. In turn I just ask that she works out, stays hot, dressed sexy for me, prepares fantastic meals, and is filthy dirty in the bedroom.
A family should never be financially dependent on one member. Both mother and father should have a stable income just in case the worst happens.
Don’t you realize , you can have the best of both worlds. A wife who stays at home AND makes money. Housework has been reduced due to machinery. It only takes 2 hours. House wives can start online businesses or something of that sort. I’ve heard of wives in the 1950s who sold chocolates and Russian dolls.
I voted for independent woman because right now I don’t want children. I’m aware that, even if I were to have a child with a women, we would likely have to both work but if it was possible for us to have a traditional relationship (I work, she does most of the childcare and housework), and that’s what she wanted, I would be fine with that. As a few others have said, as long as she wouldn’t be cheating on me of course.
Housewife AND Independent.
Do your thing and pursue your goals, we both should support each other and grow together.
But I'd also appreciate her being the primary person handling the housewife qualities such cooking, cleaning, nuturing the kids etc whilst I handle the more physical house duties such as anything construction related, the lawn, cars, etc.
(Doesn't mean I won't help her out every now and then).
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