Megan Fox and My Boyfriend.. Grrr. :P

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Alrighty, so, my mom and my dad have an amazing marriage, and they both tell me that the boy I go out with should only love *you* and find *you* attractive. They also always tell me that my dad will never think another woman is beautiful except for my mom. I think this is so sweet and amazing, but, I know I won't be able to always find a guy like that.. The thing is, my boyfriend admitted Megan Fox is attractive, and it kinda hurt. I told my girlfriends this and they laughed and said something along the lines of, "What do you expect?" Well, I don't know what to do.. I don't want to "just deal with it" or confront him, ya know what I mean? Is there any way I could make him see I'm just as sexy (without actually being sexual or anything) or beautiful? Don't get me wrong, I love myself, but that comment kinda dinted my self-esteem.. Awwwwgghh.. What to do.. What to do.. Ah well.

Thanks for reading and answering everyone! Much love! <3 :))

zombiefood · Accepted Answer

Your parents are a little crazy. It is perfectly acceptable for a boy to think another girl is attractive. So long as to him you are more attractive. My boyfriend and I have had lots of conversations like that. All about movie stars. He's never called any one in real life sexy or beautiful. But we were watching V for Vendetta and I said how it's amazing that even bald and crying Natalie Portman could be so beautiful. And he said, "Yeah, she's really pretty". I looked over at him and he replied, "no where near as pretty as you though". So long as you're his number one it doesn't matter if there are other people he finds attractive. Because it's not an interest thing. Some people are just attractive. Some people you just look at and they're appealing to the eyes. Tell me there's not a single actor in hollywood, not one singer or performer that you find even a little good looking.You don't have to like them, just their looks are appealing. There's a difference, a huge difference. It's perfectly healthy to find other people good looking. You're parents are rediculous for saying that he shouldn't find any one else attractive, that's just... Not an okay thing to say. I'm sure each of them looks at some movie star and says, "awh he's cute". But it's the line between saying he's cute and saying you like him that matters. And saying he's cute, but my husband's cuter. If it bothers you then talk to him about it, because it can be confusing and it can be upsetting. So just talk to him calmly, no accusation, no yelling, nothing. Just tell him why it upset you and talk it out.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Impossible that your dad only finds your mom beautiful and attractive and I know this because my dad has crushes on multiple females and married couples do hav crushes. Get over the fact your boyfriend has a crush on a celebrity, it's nothing, your making a big deal out of nothing..Let me tell you, I got hurt over my boyfriend recently telling me he still has *some* feelings for his 4th grade crush and we are both in our 20s. Tha truth may hurt, but I realized his *some feelings* for his crush will never amount to the love he has for me. We worked out that situation to make our relationship move forward, he needed advice from me on how to get over her and I gave him advice and now he is using my advice. Your man only has a celebrity crush and that is OK, he'll get over it. Like the saying goes *a crush is someone you can't have*.

Tessabbycks · Accepted Answer

In my opinion, all guys are going to look. All girls are going to look. If you really trust your partner, all is well. And this is only Megan Fox! I would say 99.9999% of men love the way she looks. But that means nothing. My boyfriend even points out like random girls at the mall that he think are pretty or cute. And it doesn't bother me one bit, because I trust him. And I'm sure your boyfriend would pick you over any girl any day. :)

drummerdude25 · Accepted Answer

Well, an attractive woman is an attractive woman... You can't deny there are some beautiful people out there. Now if you were talking to me, I personally don't find Megan Fox attractive at all, but some famous women, I feel, are very ATTRACTIVE. Lots of girls out in public are attractive as well, attractive girls are everywhere. However that does NOT mean that I am ATTRACTED to them (emphasis on the "ED")... Same with your boyfriend, he has a stupid celebrity crush on Megan Fox, but he's not going out and pursuing it.

To me, that's the difference between finding someone attractive, and actually being attracted to someone... Being attracted is being DRAWN to them, always wanting to go up and talk to them, be around them, make time for them, etc. Just because I think a girl is good looking, for example, doesn't mean I feel that way for her...

You parents most likely have that sort of relationship, they're ATTRACTED to each other, they're together! But I'll bet money that you dad finds other women attractive besides your mom, but his heart is there to stay with your mother. :)

Dotcomperson · Accepted Answer

I think your parents are right, but I don't think they meant it like your boyfriend shouldn't find anyone else attractive in the sense some people will generally and universally be accepted as 'attractive'. That means your boyfriend won't necessarily pursue Megan even if he acknowledges that she is usually accepted as attractive by many. Also it is highly unlikely that he has a remote chance of getting with her. Ever. Hence your parents' reaction? Hopefully that makes sense. Maybe your parents mean if he finds your friend attractive and she's not Megan fox or anyone like that just an ordinary girl, perhaps you should be worried.  Because it is likely to mean that he 'personally' find her attractive and can pursue her.

ShishKabob · Answer

If your dad doesn't find any other women attractive he is the first on earth I've heard of. Honestly. I hate to break up this fairytale for you, but nature is strong and our hormones are raging. We can love one girl and still think another girl is attractive.

If you look for a man that tells you that no other woman is physically attractive you'll only find liars. I have literally never been more sure of this than anything else in my life ever. If it's any consolation, physical attraction for guys is a lot more superficial than it is for girls. It doesn't mean we don't love you.

blufrenzy93 · Answer

I think it's unrealistic to expect somebody to think [ one ] person is attractive. I don't blame your parents for trying to steer you in the right direction when it comes to finding a good guy, but there are a lot of people out there who will catch our eye.

If you're in a solid healthy relationship and happen to see a guy that was cute, then there's nothing wrong with thinking he is. Does that mean you're any less attracted to your boyfriend ? No. It means you have eyeballs.

GuyAskingGirls · Answer

Megan Fox is one of the hottest women on the planet. You shouldn't try to compare yourself to her. You're boyfriend is going to think other girls are hot just like there are going to be guys who you think are hot.

This doesn't mean that he doesn't love you or care for you a lot or think your beautiful. It just means he find them attractive.

At the end of the day he is with you and he has no shot at Megan Fox so don't worry about it

Anonymous · Answer

I think it's harmless.  I mean, it's not like he will date megan fox anyways.  I have celeb crushes too... and well that's just my opinion.  You can think a painting is beautiful because it is, but it does not mean you don't love the person you are with.  megan fox is just art, like a painting.  she is not a real person in your guys life.  look at it that way.  good luck

Anonymous · Answer

First of all:

I know you love your dad and he's a great guy and all, but that stuff about him not finding anyone but your mom attractive?

That's a flaming, radioactive, cement-truckload of fresh green bullish*t!

If he's male and Human, it just isn't possible.

Second, get off your boyfriends ass about Megan Fox.

He has absolutely no chance with her and she's married to Brian Austin Green.

Anonymous · Answer

Okay, where to start here... times have certainly changed and now people have crushes or find celebs attractive. I used to let this get to me. At some point you need to realize that he isn't looking at them to spite you but because he appreciates beautiful women. This is completely normal.

sylar · Answer

I don't even know what adjective to use here... Lots of guys think Megan Fox is attractive.  She's a freakin model and hot actress what do you expect?  It's not like he loves you less.  Geez.

snackeyg · Answer

So you think your boyfriend will only find you attractive? Sorry but that's impossible. Also you've never mentioned any guys being hot?

Megan Fox and My Boyfriend.. Grrr. :P

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