How do I get my sister to stop being mean about my boyfriend?

[Alice2398]

My big sister is extremely over protective of me even though she's made a lot worse mistakes then i have ever growing and especially with boys.

I've been hurt before and she was a big shoulder to cry on when this happened to me, i understand she doesn't want me to make the same mistakes as her, or see me upset, she just wants the best for me. But it's as if she doesn't trust me or him and thinks there must be something off with him just because we met on tinder she thinks every guy on there is only after one thing which is so stupid as me and my boyfriend haven't even had ex yet and it's been about 2 months now into are relationship.

He's such a good man, he makes his own money, volunteers at a charity and is very much a family man. I know he'd never do anything to ever hurt me, he's the sweetest guy I've ever met.

I feel like she's jealous too because my dad likes my boyfriend more than hers as they both have stuff in common and my sisters boyfriend is okay with my boyfriend to and he even encouraged me to meet someone as i set him up with my sister so i dont see her problem everyone else likes him but her for no good reason at all.

[TonyBologna25]

Tell her to fuck off. Maybe not literally, but he more stern. I’ve been on the receiving end and it’s really not fair. Treat their daughter right, but her things, take her out, and give her everything i got to give... and it was never good enough. Got frequent insults and it really hurt after a while. It tore our relationship apart. Family can give their opinion and advice, and then they can fuck off because it’s your choice to accept their advice or not.

[lightbulb27]

ask her to trust you, that you will listen to her counsel but make your own decisions, and if you get hurt you take responsibility. that is how you learn. she just doesn't want to see you hurt, but that's fear. does she have a solid reason for that or is she projecting her junk onto you. e. g. when I met my brothers future wife, I was like..."that's a keeper, marry that one!". no brainer.

[CandacePerry]

It depends. It could be jelous. My oldest said. you should date someone like Joe. That her boyfriend. I said back I am not attractive to long hair dude.

[Anonymous]

When the chips are down and adversary strikes you know the worst of a human. Good, bad and ugly is in all of us. But a good man from the abundance of his heart, will plant good seed in life. Not selfishness, In bible.. Go with your instincts, but bible says test the spirits and see what thay are of.. And if good, bible can tell what is... Marry the guy before sex. Virgin in both sexs is of highest untainted value. Save yourself for someone special. The greatest moments god gave you is the moment you are in..

[blondfrog]

She seems like a good sister, but I can see being too overprotective can bother you too. It's something you just have to deal with I guess. I have an oldest brother who is like that too. Not even in relationships either even if its something like a job.

[goaded]

Thank her for worrying about you, and ask her if there's anything specific she can point to that makes her nervous.

[AkshiJanjua]

because she is right everyone on tinder is for hookups

[Alice2398]

Yet... We're both virgins and been dating for 2 months 🤔

[AkshiJanjua]

oh thats great then your sister is overthinking but tinder relationships do have a bad reputation

[Alice2398]

I guess but not all are like that, you do find some gents

[Anonymous]

Have a nice talk with your sister and listen to her complaints and concerns. Tell her what you think and hug it out.

[Ash_xpe]

Just find common ground between them and build trust on that

[Paige90]

Tell her to butt out!

[kinkster1]

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[pizzalovershouse]

useky you can't but just say leave it alone