Friends/Family won't recognize my success?

[Anonymous]

Growing up I wasn't the most successful kid. I struggled in every category. High school I struggled with depression and did poorly in school. I didn't get my first car and until I was 18. My parents were always on me and friends thought I was a loser. Let's say when I was 18-20 something sparked. I was working full time in fast food (Since 17) and went to college 30 hours a week. I was 19 and found a tech support job in telecom making great money for 19. I was happy. My family.. not so much. My sister/brother in law didn't talk to me for months. My mom even got mad because I was making more than her. I didn't brag to anyone else but my mom and uncle.. who did my taxes. After a year, I bought a Mustang GT. I deserved it. My mom and uncle thought I was stupid and criticized me. My friends downplayed it. A few even stopped talking to me because I called them out. I slowly moved my way up the later. After 11 years at the company, I recived a big promo and make around 150K. The only people who are supposed to know are my mom, girlfriend, and uncle. When my uncle did my taxes he literally tossed my return at me and said.. you made too much and you're not getting much back. I moved into a modest Apt. with my girlfriend. 1 bed $750. I finally got my grandma over. She walked in for a minute or two.."Oh nice.. okay.. see ya." I traded in my car for a 370z. It was cheap low miles so I bought it. My girlfriend was mad, mom was mad.. well everyone was. They got over it. One of my best friends since high school is noticing my success and asked what my salary range was for my field. I told him.. since... he never wants to hang out. He could say... dude.. you have come a long way... I'm proud of you. That's what I would do. I went to dinner with my g/f, mom, grandma, and a family friend. Family friend asked about my job. "It's going well.. had a good year. My stats were so good the company is sending me to Palm Beach. Silence. My grandma rolled her eyes. Continued on notes..

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The silence continued. Not another word was spoken about my life. I also have another friend who works in similar field. She looked up my position on glassdoor and said.. wow.. you're only 30 and make that much! I'm 55 and not even close! I was like... well sorry. Her husband asked me the other night.."How's the gig man?" Good... actually had a great month. His wife (friend) tried changing the subject. He kept asking. Until she pretty much told him to shut up.

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When the crowd gathered, she spoke about her job for an hour. One of my friends blankly looked at me. "How's your job?" "Really good man.. I surpassed my quota for the year.. might be going to Palm Beach." Silence from everyone. I only talk about my job when asked. Everyone else will brag about other people's success or their own. When I speak about it... people seem shocked, disappointed, or downplay. I don't get it. Is it because I proved everyone wrong?

[Anoniemus]

They just seem generally unsupportive. I'm sorry about that. I think they're jealous/envious of your success. You weren't even bragging: just answering questions when asked. You definitely need a new set of friends and to be around people who will genuinely support you and your achievements.

Also, you don't need to prove anything to anyone. It still sounds like you're doing all of this for their approval. Live life for yourself because you'll find you'll be happier. I understand that you want loved ones to be happy for you and I honestly think you should tell them that you feel they don't support you. But if they're unwilling to do so, find those people who will in your life.

[jennifer_bloom]

If your poor friends are jealous of your high income - make high income friends.

[Asker]

I would rather hang out with lower income.. they're fun people. My friends/fam are middle class.

[Asker]

I don't have the rich.. I' better than you mindset. I treat everyone the same. My girlsfriends sister is successful and has the better than you mindset. I can't stsnd being around her.

[madgoat]

I don't know your background of course but I've seen this where people's expectations of those around them are low.
They think anyone who makes it big has got above their station in life and are resentful.
You're going to have to accept your family for what they are, and find appropriate friends to spend time with. I'm guessing you have no problem believing in yourself.

[JimboGB]

That's very sad, resentment from your own family. I can't think of much worse then that. They should have celebrated your success like it was their own. Some people are extremely bitter, be proud of yourself for your achievements and show your family how they are wrong by leading by example.