A child rips up their allowance because they're not happy with the amount. If this was your child, what would you do?

[ariadneR]

[Anonymous]

Agree with them.

It is frustrating not being able to have hardly any of the things we might want or that we see, seemingly available to us.

I would explain to them that not everyone is in the same situation, some people have a lot of money and can buy lots of things but that doesn't mean they are happy, you would find if you could have more things you would also value each thing less as well because humans are rarely satisfied with what they have.

You dont need things, what you need is self love, thats the only thing that will make you happy.

Maybe you shouldn't be praising and scolding and bribing and rewarding etc, perhaps that isn't helpful, or isn't always helpful.

Perhaps it is in the right hands but its not something everyone can just do.

Maybe if you do it incorrectly you teach the wrong things, things like; you should expect free stuff for no work, the world owes you something etc.

Maybe you should show them what it is really like to work for money, that you might have to do something hard that you dont want to do for 40 hours a week or more and at the end you dont get to keep that money, the tax man takes a piece and your landlord and food in your belly and getting to work and then there's all this other stuff, electric, you'll want that, internet, phones, heating and it goes on.

For most people in the western world what they have left is very little but they are still much better off than most people in the wider world.

You get what you are a given and will be gratefully for the opportunity or you will go without, you make and live with the choices you make because the world, doesn't care.

You want to be spiteful and miserable, thats fine, see how that works out for you.

[broken_heart_at_48]

Right off the bat they wouldn't get an allowance anymore period. Then honestly it would depend on the age and gender. I know I'm gonna catch flack but I'd be a lot rougher on my son then my daughter. That's probably why I had 4 daughters and no sons cause I believe you have to make your son respect you when he's young so he will want to respect you when he's older. A quick punch in the arm not real hard just maybe a Charley horse but mostly just a little shock to remind him your dad or mom's quick pinch on the back of the arm

[manymayday]

I'm not giving u a hard time but ur daughters need to have the same respect. I have a son an a daughter, my daughter can be a lot worse than my son. No matter the gender, kids have to learn respect.

[bente2]

No more allowance, take away their toys, and let them sit in their bare room and think about how ungrateful they just acted. Then I’d have a talk with them about other kids and that a lot of kids don’t even have an allowance. Then I’d pick out some toys of theirs to donate. I’d also donate all their saved up money too.

If you’re not happy with what you get, you don’t deserve any of it. I believe in hard parenting when it comes to things like this, I don’t believe in violence so you need to shock your child in a different way in order to get through to them sometimes. If a child does this, they’re so far gone that something drastic needs to happen so they learn.

[musicbrain5]

I’d tell them they’re not getting any more money from me until they work for it and learn the value of a dollar. My own parents never just “gave” us allowance - we worked for it by doing simple chores inside and outside. If my child wants that $10 or whatever back, I’ll send them outside to wash the car or something first.

[musicbrain5]

Where I live, they’d have to put some real effort into destroying the bills though. We have polymer notes in Canada.

[ariadneR]

I know 😁 I live there too.
Unless they get scissors lol

[musicbrain5]

Hello fellow Canadian! What province do you live in?

[ariadneR]

Ontario. You?

[musicbrain5]

Also Ontario. Toronto.

[ariadneR]

Same 😄

[musicbrain5]

Lots of people from the Toronto area here. We can all say hi to each other from 6 feet away, lol.

[CountessSarah]

Nothing - hey, it's their money, they can do what they want with it.
The lesson should become apparent when they get the same amount of pocket money the next week or whatever - what are they gonna do? Rip it up a second time? OK. Now you've got even less money than you would have, had you not been a little dumbass.

[abc3643]

LOL.

Stop giving all allowance.

Then again, I'd never "give an allowance" anyway.
My kid would have to do chores to earn the money.
And, to make it more real, I pay them a lot more, but also a pay stub showing that I took out various deductions just like a real paycheck.

[meesegoMoo]

Tell them that is their yearly allowance. Put the pieces in a bag and tell them they can piece it back if they want spending money. Don't buy anything for them unless it's an exchange for work. Make the work worth WAY more than whatever they want.

Tell them it IS a crime to deface U. S. currency.

[MannMitAntworten]

Allowance? My children will not be getting an allowance for contributing to the household. They live their rent free and are feed and provided for. If my child did that if I did give them allowance, the allowances would cease. But again, my children will not be getting an allowance in the first place. I’ll drive them to a job if they want to ‘earn’ an income.

[EGarzona]

My daughter works for her allowance through good grades and chore completion. If she misses a marker she gets docked for not doing her job. I she tore up her money I would just laugh and deny her if he asks me to buy something reminding her that she technically has money.

[motownplayer2000]

Collect it. And put it in a jar. A few years later when my child ask me for money. I will take it out of the jar and say. This was yours.. you can tape it back together and see if they will accept it. If not, you will need to find your own way of making the money

[Prof_Don]

I like this idea.

[Nik1hil]

Well..
First I will laugh in his face!..
Then tell him...
He tore the paper but the moneys value is store in the government Bank..
Than make him tape the bill together and make him use it so he realizes no matter how damaged a Bill of note is always valuable more than normal piece of paper..

Also I will never face this issue...
Because I will give my kid allowance in SATOSHI the minor value of BITCOINS.

[RasmusAiken]

Except for occasional birthday cash I was never given money. If I wanted something I had to earn it. The result was that I always found pleasure in work because it gave me the things I wanted and needed.
I would cease handing over an allowance to a child that did that.

[jgokgotit]

Revoke the allowance for about 2-3 months, increase their chore list and restrict the time they have for anything fun to 15 minutes and restrict them to the house and school. Let them know that, in prison, inmates are lucky to have a job for free. Hopefully this will make them appreciate the allowance.

[Sbgirl]

They wouldn't be getting anymore. I would want my children to learn the value of money, even in little amounts and the value of saving. A lot of kids who get everything they want end up being terrible spenders and incapable of handling money well.

[lovejyj]

I would count the amount i gave them, count how many pieces they turned it into, then add them, and that would be that amount of weeks they wouldn't get an allowance. And unless they tape it, they would eat anything that day meanwhile I'd be repeating that God sent the money to people who deserved it, to break their spirit.

[Darcia]

Tape it together, frame it, and tell my child “this is what happens when you don’t appreciate your earnings”. You suffer like the rest and be poor or you get a job yourself & destroy your own property. Either way it won’t be my money nor will you be getting an allowance anymore. Since you think it’s okay to be ungrateful.

[Tanuuki]

Eat them, like a hamster.

In all seriousness, just stop giving them an allowance. I've NEVER been given an allowance for my chores or schoolwork, even when I was an honor student, and kids that have one are fortunate to receive anything at all. (Also, is that $15? $25? Hard to see the photo, but either way, man, I'd kill for even a $1 allowance as a kid.)

[The_boy_who_lived]

Theyd never get allowance to start with. My kids would have a job as the only way to get money. If they acted spoiled like that i may have to spank them and firmly explain how they should be appreciative and humble.

[Liadon]

Well, you can't exactly rip up my money in my country due to its material. If they did somehow destroy it though I'd consider removing their allowance all together for a period of time so they can appreciate what they've got better. I'd also discuss with them about why I give them the amount of money I do in terms of spending habits and what they should actually need to bridge some understanding with them.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

That is horrible cause most banks won't accept it unless
there is some way to tape it back together which would seem
impossible? If i was the parent , they would get cut off allowance
and would have to do chores until what they ruined was cleared up?

[AmandaYVR]

Wow. I'm kinda speechless.
I've seen a kid tear up money on America's Funniest Home Videos, but there were really little and didn't know what they were doing/what it meant.

What do you think @sydneysentinel?

[SydneySentinel]

I would be very serious with her about it... I'm going to share my response but you might think I'm nuts.

[SydneySentinel]

I'd inform her of the legality of what she did and probably have her write an essay over the following prompt:

According to Title 18, Chapter 17 of the U. S. Code, which sets out crimes related to coins and currency, anyone who “alters, defaces, mutilates, impairs, diminishes, falsifies, scales, or lightens” coins can face fines or prison time.

Additionally, I'd "fine" her that amount of money which she destroyed and delay further allowance for a minimum amount of time.

I'd probably also make her do some kind of volunteer work with the homeless so she can have a perspective of what it is like to not have any money at all.

[SydneySentinel]

@ariadneR Thank you for trying. It won't let me repost (tells me I can't comment more than once).

I'll just be more careful next time 😊😊

[AmandaYVR]

Wow. That is not parenting 101 stuff right there. Smart. I second what I said the other night about your parenting.

[URLILANGEL727]

Oh Hellz NO! That's kinda disrespectful (depending on age but obviously they know value of cash) and seen as unappreciative, I'd be sure to let them know that's their allowance and since that's how they feel about the amount, next allowance either getting nothing or less! SMH maybe at first I'd wanna choke him or her but obviously NOT a choice! Lol I love my baby toou much but let her do this one day to me, shoot! Lol 😂

[MlueDeep]

I would slightly scold the child and try to make him or her understand how his or her action was wrong.

[worldscolide]

If they did that.. Id take away things like computer access, television access, internet access, game console access for a year, and also take away the allowance for a year.