Did I go overboard with this situation? Is my stepdaughter ashamed of our family?

Anonymous
My stepdaughter has suddenly been distant towards my husband for the past month and he has been returning the energy. My husband feels like she is ashamed of him and the family because most of the people that she associates with went to college (we are a working class family, I’m a housekeeper and he’s a welder). She is a senior is college. She got to study abroad last year and got a fancy new internship. She buys herself fancy things.

My husband’s birthday was last weekend and she texted him Happy Birthday and that she would give him the gift the next day (which she didn’t). My husband didn’t respond. Usually she is good about coming through with gifts and spending time with him on holidays and birthdays. I texted her and let her know that I was disappointed in her. How she was supposed to call her dad instead for texting him. How she lied about getting him a gift and if she did give him a gift, she was supposed to give him one on his birthday. How my husband deserves so much better and she is lucky to have him as a dad. How she didn’t think enough of him to call and see if the family did something for his birthday. I told her how her dad thinks that she is ashamed of the family and she should be ashamed of herself because she’s clearly forgotten where she came from. I told her that the little success that she is experiencing and the money that she does have can be gone tomorrow because what comes up can always come down. It’s been two days and she still hasn’t responded to my text.

Was I wrong? Did I overreact?
Did I go overboard with this situation? Is my stepdaughter ashamed of our family?
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