I didn’t show up at my abusive fathers funeral?

[Ayanna240]

we stopped seeing each other 8 years ago. Do u think I’m a cold hearted person?

[Espresso-Grande]

No. People go to funerals to pay their respects to a deceased person. Why would it should you pay respects to an abusive father who you haven't had contact with fur 8 years. That would make no sense and what would be the motive for going.

[Anonymous]

If it was in the best emotional interests for you to not see him, even in death, then that is what you do.
A funeral is only for the living in any case. They may not understand. It's enough that you understand why you didn't go.

[Koalamate]

It doesn't make you a bad person.
Funerals are about grieving but often you already have or don't need to.
I have been wondering if I would go to my father's funeral when he dies I think I will.

[StephenCF]

I have no intention of attending my biological father’s funeral whenever it occurs. And when he’s buried, I have plans to defile his tombstone with a note that says “This man deserves no grave! He abandoned his child!”

[Ayanna240]

Is it really that bad to have no father? I’d rather have no dad than my dead father

[StephenCF]

@Ayanna240 The way he treated my mother and abandoned me had a negative impact on my self-esteem growing up, which only led to bullying from those I confided in about the situation (they mocked me for being “unloved” which started a chain reaction for the rest of my school years) 😤 If I was born in a later generation though, I might’ve been treated better considering how commonplace these broken families have become. But back then I was the only child in class with no (living) father

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Heh-heh-ha. You? No. You're fine. Death is a paradoxical quest, it ends but never truly begins. It's okay, survival isn't only for the living.

[gandolph3]

If you feel guilt, forgive yourself. You did nothing wrong

[ColHathi]

Not at all.