What's Worse: People "Being Petty" Or "Being Jealous"?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

People being petty

People being jealous

Both equally disturbing

[Lliam]

Being petty is negative no matter what. It indicates self-centeredness, low self-esteem, meanness, and poor communication skills.

Jealousy, on the other hand, has varying levels. Extreme jealousy is dangerous. It indicates serious control issues and an inability to trust. It is the cause of psychological and physical abuse and even murder.

On the other hand, I admit to low-level jealousy because, although I have no interest in spying on or controlling a partner, I would be upset (jealous) if I caught her "messing around" with someone else. I believe in monogamous relationships where people are dedicated to each other.

So, I would say that a high level of jealousy is worse because it is dangerous. Pettiness is just obnoxious and undesirable. A low level of jealousy isn't bad and may actually indicate high self esteem and an unwillingness to be used, lied to, or taken for granted.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Great answer, yet again 💜👍

[Lliam]

I'm on a roll. Expect freezing weather. LOL

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Is that why it snowed yesterday 🤔 gee thanks 🙄

[Jjpayne]

I'm going to say jealous because jealous means distrust and that could damage a relationship. I heard a woman at target today going on about how this guy was clearly having an affair and I'm like seriously!!! Do we need to make the assumption that all men have affairs 🙄

[AliceTheNguyener]

The way I see it is being petty is a lot more annoying in the short term, but jealousy if left unaddressed can become FAR more toxic in the long term. I'm really tempted to say petty because I don't like pettiness in others, and even feel disgust when I notice myself saying/doing something petty. Its just jealousy can lead to a lot worse, so I have to go with jealousy on this one.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Good answer 👍

[Siren777]

Being petty is a sign of immaturity but jealousy is low vibrational behaviour which can make matters worse. I've seen people ruin lives, reputation etc due to jealousy. It breeds hatred and anger, it doesn't end well. Depending how it is dealt with. Jealousy surely show insecurities. Starts off mild and ends pretty severe.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

True true

[btbc92]

Pettiness is a behavior that can be corrected or misplaces. Jealous is another story. It can lead to envy, envy can lead to murder. Jealousy is very dangerous to deal with. Pettiness is a lack of understanding. Unlike pettiness, jealousy is a trait.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

a lot of times tho pettiness also stems from jealousy

[btbc92]

It depends though. Most people do that because they are immature. It's one thing to feel jealousy. All of us do. It's another to be a jealous person, which not everybody is.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍

[DrunkAss]

Well, I'm into humor, so humorous pettiness doesn't seem so bad and kind of cute at times. Jealousy seems bad. I'm not sure how to evaluate these things if people are being serious. It's like comparing immaturity to spite.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Immaturity is annoying, spite is more vengeful

[DrunkAss]

I was kind of surprised that pettiness ranked lower. Well, I think pettiness is kind of fun. Like, let's say I forget my wife's birthday. It's kind of petty if she gets upset but it's kind of cute. Then I'm like, "Aww, I'm sorry, I love you." But say she gets all jealous if I talk to another girl when I have only love for my wife. Not so cute.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Just don't forget her birthday or flirt with other women 🙂🤣

[DrunkAss]

I put it on the calendar these days after a few mishaps. For the other women part, I always put a distance if things seem to be getting awkwardly close. I especially got that down as a drinker -- like run in the opposite direction and slam into a wall.

[DrunkAss]

Cause I can't trust the soundness of my own judgment as it might manifest the next day.

[youngmix]

I'd say jealousy. I've never seen it without pettiness, and people have done some of the worst things out of jealousy. I've only seen pettiness become extremely annoying at best, never dangerous.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍👍

[DizzyDesii]

people being petty. If theyre jealous then we should be honored that they admire our accomplishments to the point that they turn with green with envy. If they’re petty, then fck em

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Usually people are petty out of jealousy

[DizzyDesii]

To me, Petty seems more childish and belittling. Its definitely more of an insult while jealousy can sometimes be seen as a compliment

[Nik1hil]

Haha..

Your first pic gave me flashback of this meme..

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

🤣🤣🤣

[Nik1hil]

You kinky girl..
You always get the dirty humor...

God!.. I wanna spend my life with a girl like you!..

[Nik1hil]

Being petty is worse...

Jealousy is justified by the fact that you care about someone...

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Till people take the jealousy to the dangerous point

[loves2learn]

Jealously is normal. I have zero patience for petty.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍

[JackSmy]

Kind of like asking, "Which is worse: Fresh, STEAMING shit, or yesterday's shit?" Both SUCK!! I avoid, or stop interacting with both types!

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Agree, so choice C then

[JackSmy]

@Brainsbeforebeauty Sure, if that's what your survey says. I kind of hate surveys, and I really, often don't just comply, when others want to box me in to their pre-selected choices.
:) :)

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

How would it be boxing you in if you basically said both, which is what one of the choices was? Would that not be agreeing versus "boxed in"?

[JackSmy]

@Brainsbeforebeauty Any Pre-defined choices, are BOXES. Why do I have to be limited to JUST THOSE? How do you know what to ask, and what boxes to make?
Whenever I post questions, I want each to answer their own way, how they feel, and I cannot, POSSIBLY imagine all the things they might think and feel!
Setting specific choices, limits so many, as many can't choose just one, or maybe none!
What's so wrong about just asking a question, and letting people answer in THEIR way, without having to check a box, or be segregated into limited choices?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

You know if you have a problem with the easy I ask my questions you have a choice to just not answer them right? Toy say taking away others choices as you telling me how I should word my questions? Double standards much? You say I CHANGED? obviously you take it personal that I don't PM, you mention it a lot and your replies have felt more like personal attacks than replies. I'm not obligated to pm with anyone on here and if people have an issue with that that's their issue not mine. I've been nothing but respectful, so I don't know what your issue is, Sir

[JackSmy]

@Brainsbeforebeauty

[JackSmy]

@Brainsbeforebeauty Hang on, and slow down!! You are INTERPRTING too many things, and NOT WHAT I SAID!!
You judge me, and condemn me, for not "answering the easy questions" in the way YOU ASSUME, with your polls!
What kind of AMAZING things can you learn from others, when they are free to choose if they agree with the LIMITED CHOICES, you offer, or they choose to answer, as themselves!! I never set specific points, when asking questions, because I want to hear what the OTHER PERSON feels, and thinks, and likes, and not bind them to what I THINK THEY SHOULD CHOOSE!! Besides, I cannot possibly know all the unique, and interesting replies I might get!! Sometimes, I read them, and think: I NEVER would have expected that!!
I NEVER said that you should word your questions, and choices, in ANY WAY!! I said what I THINK, and would never tell you, that you have to post, or ask in any way!
Then you just ASSUME, that I have an issue with PM? NO! I may have mentioned it, and with some topics, I would feel more comfortable sharing, in a private place, but I NEVER suggested, said or expected that you would! You said you don't, and I accept that.
I honestly like you, and you have made a lot of great points, and posts, and I have no personal issues with you, in ANY way!!
I am concerned, though, that you don't read what I said, but rather interpret that, with whatever Life Experience you have had, and I am sorry if I say things that offend you, because of that, but I don't know those things!
I consider you a friend, and I would never INENTIONALLY hurt, embarrass or harm, a friend.
Your choice, your call. If I am too difficult to deal with, just block me, and be done with me. No harm, no foul, and no hard feelings.

[Jaximus-Lion]

I did not see much petty in my life from others, i have seen & hear jealousy and still see it very often and it doesn't make any sens.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I see both. Jealous people and people being petty. But pettiness usually stems from jealousy, so 🤷🏼‍♀️

[Andres77]

Being petty.
Jealous... there might be some level of justification for it. Petty is just a selfish attitude.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Very true! And pettiness is usually born out of jealousy

[Daisy007]

Hmm I'd say they're about the same too much is disturbing & it won't gain you amything 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Exactly!!

[COMMODOREII]

Petty is worse. At least with jealousy there is a logical reason. But with petty it just doesn't make sense to just hurt someone just because. That can lead to evil.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Very true!!

[Avicenna]

Petty, as long as they keep their jealousy to themselves

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Usually pettiness is born from jealousy though

[Avicenna]

True

[TheSpaceGnome]

Petty.
Jealousy is just wanting something someone else has, but pettiness is just being an ass about tiny things for no legit reason.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍

[Massageman]

Po TA to. po TAH to.

Two more ways of saying "inconsiderate and self-centered", in my opinion.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Tomato tomoto🙃🙂 lolol

[Justneedtokno]

Honestly both because they lead people down the wrong path and on top of it if they’re irritated enough they end up killing people.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's true

[Floppy2112]

I don't see the difference really. Why are people petty if not for jealousy? It seems to me the root cause of pettiness is jealousy.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Right! Exactly... But some jealous people can be jealous and not petty. But if you petty, you both

[Floppy2112]

All I know is that jealousy is incredibly destructive. There is usually a trail of destruction behind a jealous person. Hell, jealousy fuels are national discourse and look at the damage wrought in the name of 'You have what I want and if you don't give it to me, I am going to burn everything down!' culture. Sheesh. Where are the cooler heads? In the sand I guess.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Oh on that I agree! People do a lot of crazy fucked up shit out of jealousy. Even worse when they try to justify their behavior

[Sam_The_Savage]

Jealousy is nice.
by the way aunty your age gone for jealousy so you became petty? 🤣

My aunty is best in nothing. 😘

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Excuse you? I don't get petty or jealous! And I don't get insulted about my age. With age comes wisdom. Some day maybe you'll be there 😘

[Sam_The_Savage]

You know you're my favourite in Gav. That's y I only comment on your every question. Just take it lightly. My doesn't mean to insult you. Lol I'm sorry. You can kiss me as punishment 😂

[Sam_The_Savage]

Gag*

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Nobody deserves that punishment, not even me 🤣🤣🤣

[Sam_The_Savage]

Lol I thought I get tight slap on my face from your lips as a punishment 🤣

[humanearth]

Petty is just another form of Jealous. So both are messed up

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

True, pettiness is borne from jealousy usually

[SirJohn42]

Pettness is equally disturbing. But jealousy leads to blind rage. I've seen more marriages and couples destroyed by by jealousy.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍

[Wiredone]

They both annoy me but I think someone being petty and nit picking on every little thing is the worse.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍👍