I got caught spying on my sister in the shower and I feel extremely bad for it. How may I ask forgiveness?

[Anonymous]

Before I proceed, let me just clarify that I do not have any sexual or romantic thoughts towards my sister. Just the thought of even holding her hand is enough to make me cringe. I just so happened that there was this one time wherein I accidentally caught a glimpse of my sister's breasts (she wears slightly loose and revealing clothes at home) and, I dunno, ever since then I couldn't get it out of my head. I had this urge of really wanting to see them again and I believe this is what probably caused me to spy on her. When I got caught, my sister actually didn't call me out on it. I just felt so bad about it and confronted her about it first and told her what I was doing. She was very frustrated and emotionally distraught and understandably so. So please, how may I make it up to her? I swear this behavior will never happen again. I feel extremely disgusted in myself. I really don't know how I managed to do this. If any of you plan to post a reply saying how I'm sick and a disgusting pervert, please, don't bother. I am already aware of how horrendous my actions were and I feel that I may never forgive myself for it. I am genuinely asking for your help.

[Anonymous]

Just let it go man. Respect her privacy in the future, but don't feel too bad.
I've seen countless posts on gag and heard women talk in real life about how big their brother's penis is because they saw it once.
It's natural to be curious about your sibling just leave it at that.

[Asker]

Hey, thanks for the reply. I totally see your point. I just feel like I've completely destroyed her trust in me. It's just kinda hard for me to let this slide. But thanks, though. I really appreciate it.

[Opinion Owner]

In our family my mother was the one who would walk around naked in front of us kids or try to have showers with me.
Nudity was just normal in our home.
I understand your feelings of self disappointment, it's the same feeling I get to this day when I catch myself accidentally staring at my sister's ass.
In reality it just comes with the territory because she also used to grab my penis when I was younger and squeeze it to hurt me, she would also get strangely jealous when I would talk about how much I loved my girlfriends.
Siblings are just weird, don't be too hard yourself.

[Asker]

We're the complete opposite. My family never talks about sexuality. I guess this is why I'm taking this so seriously. Not to mention the emotional toll it must have caused to my sister.

[MickJemill]

First of all, how are you and your sister? Are you close? Did you use to take showers? I would say that the best way is to give her some gifts as a sorry. I don't think that she will appreciate it that much, but you did mess up soo...

[Asker]

Thanks man. You're the only serious answer here so far. And I guess me and my sister are fairly close. We never share each others personal problems but we're there for each other when we need it. As for your second question, I guess much like a lot of other siblings, we did take showers together before when we were still kids. And yeah, I have thought about giving gifts to try and reconcile but like you said, I did fuck up. I really hate myself for doing it but thanks for replying seriously.

[MickJemill]

I understand you cause I have been to a similar situation as well. You said that you already talked to her, right? I would say that you try to do whatever she tells you for about a month or so. Also, get her some gifts as well, or even snacks. If you want to talk to her again, try to do it when she's not angry, nor has her period. Try to find a time that's she's relaxed and will actually sit down and talk with you.

[Asker]

Ayt, Man. I'll do that. Thank you so much for the advice. I'm having a really bad time right now and your support is really helping.

[MickJemill]

Yeah I totally understand you. I hope I helped and I hope you get together with your sister soon.

[Asker]

You mentioned you went through something similar? If you don't mind me asking, how did your situation turn out? No need to answer if you're not comfortable talking about it :)

[MickJemill]

I still haven't told her sooo... 😬 If you go to my profile, you can read what happened. It's the "I masturbated to my aunt" question.

[Jaylaa2000]

I'm not sure. That's tough.
It was a major invasion of her privacy amd worse from her brother so it probably did hurt her.
All i can say is speak from the heart to her.
She's your sister she's worth speaking to her from the heart.

[JuneLady]

Oof. That's a hard one. At least you're honest!
I'd pull her aside and just tell her you're sorry in a frank manner. Afterward, pass off a joke or something to lighten the tension and you're done. She'll just want to forget about it

[Buffboy2000]

Here is a little truth that many don't want to discuss, and even more will lie to your face about it, siblings often spy on other siblings. And I am not talking, "I want to know what my sister is up too, so I can get her into trouble." I am talking, siblings will often spy on other siblings to see them in the nude, many just lack the opportunity. This in no way means that they want to have incestual relations with them, they just want to peek at them. Sure you can see plenty of naked people on the internet, but there is just something about getting to see some you know personally in the nude that can be overwhelming.
A lot of people who say things like, "I would never do that," have simply forgotten what it was like to be 14, and going though puberty, you think very different at that time.
You are not a pervert for liking what you saw, and there is nothing wrong with you either, even though I am willing to bet that you have peeked on her more than once. The desire to do so can be overwhelming. As someone else has said to you, just let it go, you are making it much worst that it actually is.

[Pete671]

Just let it go, you have already punished yourself, she's probably forgotten about the incident anyway,,,

[Asker]

Hey, thanks for answering. I wish it was that easy but unfortunately I do not think that is the case. I do appreciate your opinion, though. I'm also still in the process of trying to forgive myself.

[Pete671]

Sir, you are very welcome, you know we have two brains?, it was maybe your primitive brain, the one keeps you breathing and makes you hungry right?, then we have the advanced brain, the neo-cortex, that is rational and reasoning, perhaps there is a conflict between the two here? So the prim brain has been activated by the sight of female breasts, it's doing what nature intended it to do. BUT your neo-cortex is saying "no it's not appropriate", which it isn't, because this lady is blood relative, and you are upset because she is upset, this is your neo-cortex displaying empathy, which nature also designed it to do. Are you an active Catholic?, if so go to confession maybe, you won't get more than three Hail Marys for a first offence!, first time was accidental so it doesn't count as a sin, if not Catholic, maybe do some voluntary work to offset the Karma, you know you did something wrong by giving in to your base urges, that's probably enough imho,,,

[Asker]

Hahaha Pete, your response is very unintentionally entertaining. I love the perspective that you're taking it from. But yeah, I am Catholic but not a devout one so I guess voluntary work would probably be good for me.

[Anonymous]

apologize to her, and prove that you mean it, make it up to her

[Asker]

Hi, thank you for replying. I haven't talked to her yet since because I thought it'd be important as well to give her space and process what had just happened. But yes, I really am trying my best to fix things.

[Opinion Owner]

Hi, your welcome, and try not to do it again and when you talk to her, be sure that she knows you’re sincere and that you mean it.

[Opinion Owner]

Hi. *you're*

[Asker]

Yes, I will. I'll do my best. And of course, I would never do such a horrendous things ever again. I can only imagine how badly this might've affected my sister.

[Asker]

Hi. By the way, should I mention to her as well that I do not have any attraction towards her? I'm afraid she might think that way since this obviously not the type of behavior you'd commonly expect from a brother.

[Opinion Owner]

wouldn't that make her think you are, though? and yeah, you are right, it isn't the kind of behavior you'd expect from a brother because mine would never do that but just insure her that didn't mean to that and you should apologize profusely and tell her that you never meant to do it and you would never do it again. or do anything to make her uncomfortable.

[Asker]

Ah, yeah. That does make sense. Well, thank you so much again! This really helps :)

[Opinion Owner]

you're welcome

[Wise4myage]

You confronted her? That was very stupid and there was no need to tell her what you were doing. Just apologize and do something nice for her.

[Asker]

Even more stupid that I spied on her. I just felt extremely guilty. But thanks, though. I'll do my best :)

[EmmaMary]

Congratulations on winning a Troll of the day award.

[In_Trance]

Holding her hand makes you cringe, but you'll look at her bare ass... gtfo

[Sonorous]

Oh man, hold up, lemme get my popcorn for this one

[MickJemill]

I have one similar story if you're interested 😉

[Sonorous]

Oh the popcorn is for the comments under this post 👄

[MickJemill]

The you should go to my question. Plenty of comments there as well, haha☺️

[Sonorous]

Gotta go to the store before cause I ran out of popcorn

[MickJemill]

Hahaha many stories huh?

[Anonymous]

Maybe offer her to show you yours to make it even

[MickJemill]

No way! Haha. That would definitely not make it even.

[Opinion Owner]

@MickJemill why not?

[MickJemill]

Mate, they are siblings. If they felt like that, how could him showing her his dick make it better? She never asked for it. She didn't like it when she found out he was peeking her.

[Asker]

@MickJemill That's true. Thanks for taking this seriously, man. I really fucked up