It's always been a debate in me whether I should or shouldn't have children. One, I don't think I'm financially capable to support another person in this world. Let alone, help them understand the animosities of life. But two, I have a deep desire and a skillset to take care of someone.
I've read several of the replies to your question, before commenting myself.
IMHO We (my wife & I) have 3 children, 1 was her's from a previous marriage, and 2 of our own; but they are all OUR children. One statement in your question is of great concern to me.
"One, I don't think I'm financially capable to support another person in this world".
Children should be brought into this world as a product of two "loving and responsible" parents, a Mother and Father. (No offense to any of the LGBTQ community). Most of the time even then, they are not financially ready, but they are both responsible for that child.
BUT this is a different ERA than when I was brought into this world. I believe in Marriage before any children are considered. Now I know that in this ERA, there are many many "couples" with children; and many single men and women with children (for one reason or another).
And if someone is financially capable and ready to care for a child, then who am I to say what they should do.
So I had one very young, but I wouldn’t have had one if the mother had not been against terminating the pregnancy. This said I think the last generation to have the possibility of wealth was already born and anyone we bring into the world at this point should seriously considering they are planing a six foot sea level rise in the next 80 years … that will mean entire financial collapse and the loss of almost every major city in my country (US) … the future is not bright if you aren’t reading the tea leaves… I feel now more than ever that I would feel great sorrow for bringing a child into the world that is coming in their lifetime. - this said many women can feel regret if they do not experience child birth … I think that is fair to feel that way though I still think i would feel unconscionable over it
I never thought I was going to have children, and I didn’t really want them. However I found myself pregnant despite having taken the pill everyday at the same time for years. I just got on with it. Wasn’t the child’s fault. I had a job but eventually had to leave it, as I couldn’t afford (or find) childcare and there were no handouts or help back then. Money was tight, but I managed. People love to lend and donate items too! I made a mental choice to have the second within wedlock, as we weren’t at the time. I decided on a second as I didn’t want an only child. I had sisters so knew it was important for them to have a sibling.
Essentially, parenthood can be done with or without money. You just need to be capable of caring for another who will depend on you.
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Anonymous
(30-35)
+1 y
I already have one. 🤣 He's my world. Though he was unplanned and there is a mistake in that, not in him, but I should've been smarter, and I wasn't with a good person. I have the blessing of my parents helping me out so I can finish college. I want to be to support him on my own and give him a good life. I understand that there are some people who don't wish to have kids, some women even have a literal phobia of pregnancy. That's totally valid and no one should tell you that you HAVE to have children. Obviously if you don't want them, don't have them.
Only have them if you can make them live a decent life. If you can hardly support yourself, don't make them be born in a world of misery. Secondarily, do not have kids if you have thin patience in time and resource consuming efforts. Love is a great thing, for sure. But brings no food on the table, nor will a child raise themselves. At least not as well as living in a civil area entails. For what regards the animosities, they'll happen upon those on their own in due time. And will decide what is worth caring and what not. Of course your guidance would be needed to not make them recur to "drastic" solutions to their problems. All in all, everything needed is patience, love, will to erase most of your time for their sake and a modicum of economic stability.
Well then it's a no brainer you say that you are not financially stable enough to be able to care for a person and you need to remember this is a baby, the child is going to need a lot of things including a crib, Daipers, food, clothes, toys, education, medicine and many other important items, if you are going to do this prepare first, get your finances in order, consult with other parents and make sure that you are giving the child the best you can so that you both would be living in a stable home, but hey it's just what my opinion is
I think its great and I babysit I always tame those kids and I know I am ready for a responsibility like that. And I agree once saw my cousin get her ears pierced and get shots and I hate to see or hear babies cry. I also love helping others out and would love to have a job because these days shii be boring, and I would love to have kids with the right guy, not a guy that would leave me because he does not want to be a father.
I think that more people should be having kids. The people who are childless will regret it when they are old. I personally love having kids so I can't understand people that dont want them. Everyone is different though so no judgement but I just can't imagine life without them.
You could try adopting. If my girlfriend and I decide to raise another person, we will try adoption. She doesn't want to give birth and I don't want to father children, but if we decide to raise someone, there are options. My girlfriend was adopted, so her parents choice is the reason we're together.
There's not enough humans on the planet so let's make more! Besides, we're good for the planet! And the resources of the planet are infinite anyway so I don't see why we shouldn't have lots of kids. We need more labor to build more cities so let's do it!
I love the idea of having a big family cause you know they can care for each other after your gone and their children can care for you if you reach a hundred years old. Also when you are retired you can babysit their kids.
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Anonymous
(45 Plus)
+1 y
Like most people, you'll stew over this for a while. Run through your feminist beliefs. Explain to yourself that the world is over populated and you're not emotionally ready. Then one day look into Prince charming eyes and realise your body thinks the time is now.
Having a child is one of the greatest gift that I'll cherish in future. So don't feel discouraged following ur present circumstances. Remember tough times never last but tough people do. Keep that in mind n hope 4 a brighter future
Given what happened in our politics and the globalist enslavement upon us in less than ten years, it might be better to be planning for a personal exit strategy from this place, rather.
Kids are a bit of a chore but grandkids are awesome!! Unfortunately you have to endure kids to get the grand kids 🤷♀️
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Anonymous
(30-35)
+1 y
I don't want them, call me negative but none of us ever asked to be here. And all life is is growing up to see your parents, friends, and family die, that is if you even get the opportunity to even have parents that stick around. Nah wouldn't put that on anyone.
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Anonymous
(18-24)
+1 y
I can’t stand children so nah. And this is mostly because I grew up with so many younger siblings. And seeing my mother losing herself, yeah that’s not the life for me. Maybe adopt one child when I grow up but that’s as far as children go.
I want to have children, I love children, I'm a teacher so i know things about how to deal with one etc. But i will have a son only when I feel i'm ready to be a mother and financially stable.
I have 3 and more on the way. Being a wife and mother, taking care of my family is the most fulfilling thing I can think of. Wouldn't trade it for the world.
Lots of people just have kids so they can take care of them when they are old, that's not right. It's big responsibility and life is hard, so even though kids are cute, they will have a tough life and will have to get old and die one day.
If I’m not able to have kids in the future I’ll be sad. I didn’t want kids though until I met the guy that was right for me before I met my boyfriend I didn’t even think about having kids that much.
Parenthood is one of the greatest, most awesome, most challenging, most beautiful, and most fun adventures anyone could ever go on. I love being a father.
I’d have em if I’m happy with my life and will be able to provide them with a good life. I wouldn’t want to bring kids in to suffer or be slaves to work and not financially free.
I'm a traditional guy, so I want to meet the right girl, have a big family, the works. But I have some difficulty figuring out how to find my princess.
They are a lot of work and require boatloads of cash.
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Anonymous
(36-45)
+1 y
The leftists at my college told us that it is wrong to have more children and that we need to let the white race die to allow other less intelligent and less able humans breed and survive. I never knew being successful was a bad thing but ok.
I’m pretty sure the antichrist will be fruit of my loins so I’m doing humanity a solid on this one unless I’m raped by a confused lesbian then we’re all screwed
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