I lost pretty much all my friends, is there still hope for me at 30?

[Anonymous]

I only have maybe 1-2 friends left... others I talk to due to stuff I was going through right before the pandemic... never reach out to me and I try to plan a phone call/zoom call or meet up as restrictions are slowly getting lifted in Canada. But usually they flop on calls, and the ones that want to meet up also flop last min (day before) too.

I lost my friends due to trauma I was going through at home, and being overworked at work... on top of that a girl I let into my friends group literally destroyed 8 of my closest friendships through spreading false rumors and now she hangs out with most of them (some of these friends were from childhood). I feel really unlikeable and used because I attended most of these friend's weddings as a bridesmaid and all... and now I feel I have no friends to even attend my future wedding (I say future bc I don't have a boyfriend).

Is there still hope for me to find a new friends circle or form one? I feel SO incredibly lonely sometimes and I have no one/friends group to hang out with or do stuff with like I have most of my life.

[ruexv]

There’s still hope for you if you’d like to make more friends. I’ve known about people who form friendships at different stages of their life and they’re past 30.

If you start a new hobby and search for people with a shared interest (say reading, baking, crafts, movies, etc.) that’s another chance to create a whole new friend group.

For instance if you get into board games and want to find people to play with. It’s a chance to form a group of people and meet for an inexpensive past time. Plus if you’re all interested in a certain board game then that can be a weekend activity and different people host each time. A shared interest means everyone involved likes event and are less likely to cancel.

Retirement can give you a whole new lifestyle that will bring opportunities to meet new people. I guess I’m trying to say you can actively search for friends or the chance will present itself if that’s what you desire.

[exitseven]

I get that. I never had many friends to begin with but two of them hae died and two moved far away. My best friend just moved a few months ago and we didn't even get t to say goodbye because of the pandemic.
I have reached out to a couple of people that I used to work with and I reconnected with somebody I went to college with.
I guess what I want to say is that you have to move forward. If you cannot reconsile with your friends you need to find new ones. It is not easy but the pandemic has screwed up a lot of people. Your friends might realize that whatever it is that we between you is not worth it. Give it a try and see what happens.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[Shah11]

If your childhood friends believes in rumours and trust someone else than you. Than what kind of friendship is this?

[Asker]

She basically told these people I said so much horrible trash about them... (which I found out through another friend).

[Shah11]

But babe the question is why your childhood friends trusting her than you?

[Asker]

she is VERY convincing. She also made me get into a fight with another friend... based on lies she told me that she and her friend were saying about me. Later turned out all to be lies.

ALSO, I feel crappy bc they believed her and didn't even say anything to me.

[Shah11]

Than let them go..
They are not real friends.

[FruitAndBlueEyes]

Don’t worry, I haven’t had friends in years! To answer your question, yes, there is still hope. It’s never too late!

[DrHonesty]

The only person you need is yourself

[MannMitAntworten]

You have plenty of time to make new friends.

[FunkyMonkee]

Friends? What is, friends?

[Iron_Man]

Yeah you can meet friends here

[Anonymous]

How long have you been single now?