If a friend booked 2 twin rooms, 3 guys and 1 girl, should I ask my friend if she’s ok sharing twin room with me or just sort it when we get there?

[Anonymous]

You should ask in advance if she’s ok sharing

Just sort it out when you get there

[OlderAndWiser]

What are your intentions regarding her?

[Asker]

No intentions, were clear on where we stand. I didn’t book the rooms. Friend booked it - must have been all that was available.

[OlderAndWiser]

If you wait until you arrive, she may think that you secretly engineered this situation to put her in a position where she must share a room with you. Discuss it with her in advance and she will feel that you have respected her.

[Asker]

I’ll explain that’s what’s been booked and so we’ve ended up in twin and if she’s ok with it.

[Asker]

To be honest I didn’t realise until day before when my friend told me that. He said he posted it in our group chat but wasn’t really reading the messages in there properly.

[OlderAndWiser]

Was she a part of the group chat?

[Asker]

Yes she was.

[Asker]

He said he made it clear he booked 2 twin rooms.

[OlderAndWiser]

Then you mention it to her like, "Hey, you saw that we're going to being sharing a room, right? So, since you haven't said anything, I guess you're okay with that? Just wanted to make sure."

[Asker]

I’ve just said apparently our friends booked 2 twins for tomorrow so you’re in twin with me. Is that ok. Nice and simple.

[Asker]

She said it’s fine if it’s with me and not one of the other 2.

[OlderAndWiser]

Do you think that just means that she knows you better than she knows the others, and knows that you are trustworthy, or is there perhaps another level of interest?

[Asker]

I think she just trusts me more.

[OlderAndWiser]

It's good for a guy to have a close platonic female friend. They can give you feedback on things in a way that no guy ever could.

[Asker]

We don’t talk too much about dating others.

[Asker]

It’s really nice that she trusts me that much though. She wanted the door locked as she was worried about other people coming in. But she was comfortable with me being in the locked room with her.

[OlderAndWiser]

Ye, that's trust.

[Wise4myage]

I see nothing wrong with asking her beforehand.