I did live with my parents for a while, but I also was a help, because my father was working, and I was caring for my mother who had Cancer at the time; then I stayed a bit longer till she was strong enough to care for herself, and my father had more time to actually help her out.
Once I left, for the Navy, I was on my own. And I was good. Now that I am retired, I am in a place of my own. I stayed with my father almost a year, because Covid screwed up my plans; I am still in the same State as my father, because he needs the support in order to keep his faculties together. I am here for him; but not living with him now.
It took time for him to become stable with all of the drama that went on for the past year. I was his ground.
If your parents are good, and you are still at home after high school; you need to go!!! You need to get on your own, get a job, and learn to live, and support yourself. Unfortunately, most schools today do not promote being independent, so most kids will stay at home, and think it is normal.
You have to be independent; that means doing what you need to do, to get a job!!! Any job!!! Everyone has to start out with the menial jobs, to work up a good reference for a better job; there is no way you will ever start at a top job right off the back. Work experience says volume to an employer with a high end job as to how you will fit in their business.
Get out the house, become independent; and stop relying on your parents for everything; no employer with a high paying job will hire you because of you being that way!!!
They want a goes and gets what they desire through hard work, they want a person who is independent; thinks for themselves, ask the right questions; responsible; excellent work history; on their own, and self motivated. If you are living with your parents you are none of these things. You are considered lazy, someone who feeds off of their parents, rather than work to obtain their own food, and shelter.
If you or your parents are disabled, that is understood; but when you and your parents are healthy; get out of the house, and find your own place to live, and grow in life!!!
I also have some disabilities, but I still desire to live my own life, in my own home!!! You have full freedom, and make your own rules, when you live in your own home, where you are the head of household; no longer under your parents roof.
It could be a case of tradition. My grandmother bought the house I grew up in back in 1936 and dad, her youngest son, stayed in the house from the time he was 12 and bought it from her after she died in the `70's. As no one else could do so,. I was intent on keeping the house in the family for the rest of my days. It had always been a family hub. When others would come in from around the country, they'd all stay at our house! Dad was practically the town historian!!
In my case, I couldn't a get a job to save my fucking life!!! But, I'm sure both of my parents were very glad that I DID stick because I was there to help both of them in their last days on Earth while my brother did nothing but drink beer ALL day EVERY day and spent most of his last days in jail and my ex-sisters, who DID get married and moved out, were nowhere to be found to help either of my parents, except when it came time for them to get money from them!! By all rights, and by mom's LAST Will I SHOULD STILL be in that house, right now, and I'm SURE grandma would've wanted it that way, too but, those two greedy fucking cunts evicted me from "my house" in order to sell it to get MORE money they didn't deserve, on top of the $400,000 they already stole from mom!!! At least I can say that I gave my life to help mom when she needed me most and I KNOW she appreciated it!!! And, when I DID manage to get a job, I busted ass!!!
And, no, I DIDN'T live in the basement or spend all day playing stupid-ass video games, I was up on the third floor, where I'd been since I was 11!!
Where I am now is the house my uncle designed for his mother back in the early `60's. When grandma died, she left the house to her daughter and, when she died in Jan. she left it to me. As it's the ONLY ting I've got left of my young life, I'm gonna hang onto it as long as possible!! Part of this is because I'm a sentimentalist. I like to have stuff from my past.
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It defnitely can't be reduced to just laziness and immaturity in this day and age. There are many variabales at work when it comes to the increasing number of adults living with their parents and also the increasing life-long singlehood among them. It's also mostly working class people who are facing these problems.
I personally had enough to go my own way at 18. I still lived with my uncle to save money and invest, but also because I love living with my family. We appreciate multigenerational cooperation, as feelicks pointed out.
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My nephew is both physically & mentally handicapped & he has been out on his own since he was about 22 if I recall.
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Because these types of individuals want to be coddled by their parents forever and is most likely a neckbeard or that one girl from high school that everyone outgrew; meanwhile, she's acting as of the popularity from then matters. They can't and won't take responsibility for themselves.
With that said, with the economy we’re in, I understand how staying home is the only option some have, or it just works out better financially. But, I believe you should be a responsible adult and pulling your weight in the house. You are taking care of household responsibilities, providing money towards the utilities, groceries, and food. Having your means of transportation and either attending school or working. (Both, if manageable)
Okay this case is different because he was a loser and wasn't helping. But there are legitimate reasons for unmarried people who are over 30 to live at home with their parents.
Their parents may like the help of their able-bodied young child there. They may help with the rent. There's also a lot of cultures where if you weren't married, Hispanic cultures for example, you do not move out. And nobody is saying anything bad about you for it. You go to work you have your job you socialize and you live your life.
Wow I did not know you were disabled. You look in really good shape. I live with my parents still. You can save a bunch of money like that. I don't know honestly even though I have plenty of enough to live on my own now I don't want to. I love my parents so much I never wanna be away from them. Also its not like I don't do anything. I pay my monthly rent to them, I help buy groceries, pay my own car bills, and help around the house. Even when I buy my own house eventually I would want them to live with me so I can try and return the favor and have them not have to pay any of the bills. I am clearly speaking from experience. My parents love me so much and did such a good job raising me. However I understand why Americans are so quick to move out of their parents house. That's because most Americans don't know how to love their kids and raise them properly. Or a lot get raised by single moms without a good fatherly role model.
Some cultures appreciate multigenerational cooperation.
Typically for that kind of situation not too be unpleasant you need a decent villa style house or secondary in-law building. Helps if you don't hate your relatives.
Through simple pooling of resources you can have more wealth all around, have extra money to invest, share childcare responsibilities.
That said my relatives are all insular rich or straight up white trash, so with maybe two or three exceptions I couldn't stand living with any of them. Some peoples families don't suck though or so I'm told.
Families emotionally blackmail and act selfishly to keep the person at home. E. g. denial of inheritance, refusal to cooperate and support a guy getting married to the girl he wants. Denial of support to be independent unless he gets married. Refusal to help, constant criticism and destruction of confidence. Baby boomers had houses so cheap they could leave at 17-21. The price of housing has inflated and the demand outweighs what's available. Some parents will do their utmost to support their child at every stage. Most have theirs grow up unpriveleged.
It makes financial sense to stay with parents as long as possible.
It makes more sense to buy a house and put a tenant in it, while one continues to live with parents.
Or, instead of pissing money away on rent, save money and put it into investments.
Moving out, as a demonstration of independance, is irrational and financially insane.
Reasons for people to live at home:
Family oriented. Don't know how to save money. Don't know how to live without a credit card. Got divorced. Mental illness issues. No ambition. Expensive af in area they live. They have older parents. They don't have any issues with their parents and get along well.
In my country disabled people can get a significant amount of money each month.
I'm hard of hearing but I insert quite well in society.
At 30 instead of living with my parent I would find a room to rent and study at college.
In theory I can do whatever I want with the "free" money they give, including being a nolife/hikikomori, a scholar that spent 40 years obtaining multiple Phds (definitely doable...), or find work but then they cut the help lol.
Needless to say I'm financially secure without significant drawbacks due to my disability. Unless they suddenly change the law it's fine.
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Most people prefer to be on their own, however it's not necessarily a "bad" thing. If the parents and child don't mind and like living together, maybe the child prefers the company of family vs living on their own? And financially it totally makes sense. But the parents should also be charging them room and board in my opinion. But for some, it wouldn't be "horrible" at all.
This generation is just pathetic.. most men I know who are millennials have their own homes, wives, kids.. men of this generation are still young but put literally zero effort in anything to better their lives. Probably why marriage is quickly becoming a thing of the past.
I've had my mother live with me. Lease is in my name, I was holding down a decent job and her and her husband, then my adult brother and his daughter all move in. I had plenty of room but it sure made me look bad. She wasn't working he was counter help at a hardware store brother was a street musician I was working as a sound engineer for live concerts. But who looked like the looser?
@Still-alive you tell us please. You would know
huh? why was i summoned?
@Still-alive to answer the question above, you said you lived at home, I was curious about your input
Americans are fucking weird. My parents put so much effort into raising me and sacrificed their time and money, so when im at a point where i can earn why should i go away? My parents are old. I want to earn and support them in their old age.
Why move out of you don't have to? You save a lot of money sharing living space. Unless you have to move away for a career or marriage, it's better financially.
there's moving out the dumb way and then there's doing it the smart way. staying to save up a lot then move out after so long seems like the smarter more responsible way to do it to me
@Still-alive at 18
A lot of people are just family oriented.
They have their own jobs and cars, but still with their parents until they get married.
If I could stay with my parents to keep an eye on them, I definitely would. But they're old 🤷♂️
Aside from being disabled or a care taker as well. Some people just love their parents and don't see anything wrong with staying with them. It's one thing if you're an entitled brat who cries and takes advantage of them. But if you love with them and have your own job I don't see the issue.
It’s only fine on a temporary basis like if your house sells faster than you can find a new house that’s ready or if your house burns down. Other than that, it really shouldn’t last more than a year. I agree with you how weird it is that people 30 and up live with their parents without a plan to move out like a normal adult.
I was 17 1/2 years old when I moved out of my parents house. I rented a room for a year. Then my girlfriend and I moved in together and we had a baby. We moved from there because they sold the house. The next place we rented was foreclosed on because the owner wasn't paying the mortgage. We decided to buy our house after that.
We were both out of our parents house before we were 20 years old.
I don't understand it. My dream when I was a child was to move out of my parents house. The moment I turned 18, I was outta there. Been on my own since.
May be a variety of reasons, but it's primarily for financial reasons. The woman I dated two years still lived at home (as did her sister, also 30+) because she couldn't manage her money and was immature.
im 24 and still in college. its easier to not struggle and stress out, anyone would choose that if they could. putting a bad light on living with family over a stranger is kind of ridiculous dont you think?
man i dont know i have been on my own since i was 17.. 21 years.. Just Nuts.
i feel old a lot of the time.
I moved in with my parents while I had a job that required me to travel 7-8 months of the year. I'd say it's pretty stupid to pay rent when you can avoid it (I did pay when I was there), plus I had someone I trusted to get my mail and take care of anything I needed done locally.
In Latin America its common to see grown up adults still living with their parents. I understand in the developed countries is not much the case, specially in the most northern countries. There is a cultural aspect into it, also socioeconomical. In Latin America the economy varies (each latin American country is a world), but in the region we all face the challenge to have our own home. Living in an apartment is somewhat a luxury for most.
Honestly I don't know I still don't understand why people my own age still live with their parents when I graduated from highschool I got kicked out so I guess it's just parents being to soft
I mean in most cases it's just more economical to live together, I live with my parents still I pay rent buy my own food etc
Granted I just graduated high school and I am starting college soon but I don't have any plans to actually move out
In my country owlee birdee a girl will remain living at her parent's house as long as she ain't married, same thing goes for a guy, it's the norm!
Personaly there is nothing wrong if someone lives alone!
If your living at your parents house it doesn't mean that they are spending money on you, i own my own house and when inused to live with my parents, i took care of them and paid for everything...
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Because i don't make enough money and los angeles is expensive this is why. i would have left here a long ass time ago had rent been wayyyy more reasonable
i do work, and help out with chores at the house and such.
made a question about it here a few days ago Girls, how important to you is it that a man lives apart from his parents now? ↗
not so easy, even with a second job i could barely make it.
there's rumor that the real estate market might crash again and the prices will be much muuuch more reasonable. i may go for it if that happens
Inflation will crash the house price, the interest rates make mortgage costs unaffordable and so people have to sell and downsize (opportunity for us to buy). Other commodities like cars etc are much higher now. Bank shares will also go up in value. Waiting for the right moment is smart, parents then can't stop you leaving.
I thought it was a very rare case where a 30 year old will use their parents money and will play video games all day.
its more and more common these days.
@Still-alive not really
yes it totally is at least in the major cities duckduckgo.com/
@Still-alive liberals 🤣 course it is love
Hahaha, because women coddle their children. I had to mow lawns at 12 for money, 15 a "real" job and had to pay rent... There's so much more but, people can't have their feelings hurt... So...
I left home at 18 to study and have never returned, I just thought the moment I became an adult then that's my decision to look after myself... iyay ovelay ouyay lol
could be anything. money problems? who are you to judge?
i mean like, good for you but not everyone is like you. people move out of their parents homes at different ages/stages of their life... what's right for you might not be right for someone else. one day you may even be forced to move back in with your parents, you don't know what could happen...
If they get sick sure
the memes you are posting also make it seem like you think everyone who lives with their parents don't pay for their own crap... totally wrong misconception.
Did I say that? So please don't put words in my mouth or go based on your assumptions
u They can't afford it and/or don't know what to do with their lives?
It happens. I don't know how often, but it does. I know someone in that boat, though he has recently taken on the caretaker role as well.
My parents are old.. I wanna spend as much time with them as I can
I don’t know. I moved out at 21 and before that I lived in dorms for a lot of my life.
30 is too old to be living with your parents unless for the reasons you said or a real financial emergency like you’re totally broke. And even in that case I’d get out as soon as I could.
I broke in the real world and now it is logistically very difficult to find employment to save up for somewhere to live. I moved and got a job at the same time once, it was rather stressful.
Maybe they are doing it to take care of their parents.
lack of jobs near their area, mental health problems, the house is big enough to hold them, there is no hurry to move out and the parents aren't pushing them
As someone who still lives at home, for me I can't afford to move out yet. So while I'm saving I live with my parents and pay rent.
Those people are losers & if they did live on their own they'd probably be one of those who ends up on the streets doing drugs and dies from overdose.
My best guess is like Brittany Spears is that they live on some type of trust fund. Her father is a leech
It depends on the culture, in some cultures it's expected. In ours.. There really is no reason.
Because my house burned down. My boyfriend moved back to his grandparents. Now my mom has cancer. I’m here helping until I find a apartment with my boyfriend
Student loans are crazy expensive!!
he has a bad infection of "Loser-itis"
Well…yeah.
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