Is it an honor to be a stepdad?

[BigManSAB]

Single mothers are praised for raising kids on their own. So men who have to go through the struggle for a kid that isn’t there’s, do they get praised?

Yes

No

[t-8900]

There are literally 2 women that are single moms that I would ever do that for and it's because I've known them for a while. But in general no. However like my neighbor is a single mom and sometimes I'll check up on the kids and give them little snacks and treats and Bought them a few video games before she met her new boyfriend. Now he's got it, np. I've also done work for a Christian charity helping kids without fathers in the inner city. Honestly I love kids and I feel whole when around them. I want kids of my own and to be able to read books to them on my lap and play outside with them. I think though I have a fear. I would need to be really assured that she wasn't using me and emotionally manipulating me just to take care of the child. She would need to show she is actively recieving child support from the father or have a way to ensure she herself can be financially reliable foe that child. I don't mind being an awesome parent for that child. I do mind being used and discarded once I become legally obligated and she kicks me to the curb. And yes this does sadly happen and thus I think it's reasonable for men to not want that. I still want 3-4 of my own. Howany single moms are willing to give me that honestly? So it's a lot to consider for a man. And if a man says he won't date single moms he shouldn't be shamed.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Lol... no. It's embarrassing actually if you have any pride.

[Anonymous]

I have a close childhood friend. She has two sisters and her mother raised them by herself, the dad not in the picture.
The mother met a new man when my friend and her sisters were kids.
And when they all turned 18, he adopted them.
He has literally been a father to them and I know they all love and appreciate each other.

[TwinkleLily5]

I’m always amazed to see a man step up and take on the responsibility of a child that isn’t his. That takes a strong person. I’m a women and since I’ve been dating I’ve learned being a step parent is not a role I would want to take on so I applaud any person that can do that.

[ikEVERYTHING]

It can be a great reward, it's disgusting the mentality of some of the comments I saw. The child has done nothing wrong, I know if I had good step father who really was willing to step in, in my younger years, I would really love it. My mother didn't get married until recently so I never got to expierance that, however my step father now does care about me and to some extent it's really nice, even if it has less of an impact now that I'm older. Plus my culture has families stick together unlike many who like to separate. Religion too, we're not supposed to separate from family unless they were abusive or something, then perhaps we have an excuse to distance, and even then we're encouraged to still help them when they're old and be kind to them. Family is a huge part of life, no man who isn't serious or is, I would say, a man of morals, would see being a good step father as something that can't be appreciated.

[Anonymous]

For me, I’d never care of another mans kid, if I’m not getting a kid out it. I’ve got money I’m not desperate. I know I can leave my girlfriend a hot 21 year old super model with no kids and no baggage. And she will definitely want to marry me. I’m that confident

[integrale77]

For the most part yes your in a relationship with someone who not only do they trust you enough to be around you but they trust you enough to be around there child.

I really appreciate my girlfriend letting me into her life I just remind her that I might have to lean on her a little for parenting advice.

[exitseven]

I coached soccer for many years and knew a lot of the kids that played on the teams I coached. Kids are great because they will tell you anything. Many were from broken homes and some had step fathers. I cannot think of a single instance where the kid had any respect or even affection for a step parent.

[jennifer_bloom]

I don’t mind being a step mom but I won’t date a guy who abandoned his wife unless she died or cheated on him or abused him. I like kids but I won’t force my way into their lives, they get to choose how much they talk to me.

[Celtero]

You might say it's noble, but certainly not an honor considering the man is the one cleaning up somebody else's mess.

[HellGeist]

Eh...

Look, if a guy want's to do that then that's great for the kids, but it's not for me.

The real solution is for women to stop being single mom's and men to stop making single mom's.

[molonski2]

Well , it should be an honor , but possibly its societies view that the role played is not such a big deal , but it has a massive influence on a childs life.

[Anonymous]

The current social climate puts little to no value on being a Father/Step-Father except as a source of revenue, everything is weighted against them, and TV/Films portray them as buffoons or comic relief.
Single Fathers similarly get little to no praise and are seen as an aberration that is tolerated at best, it is so bad that certain American airlines refuse to let Fathers with minor daughters sit in adjacent seats because ‘it is against company policy’ but no one will admit to why.

[Harleigh90]

If its a struggle for him, he should just say he can't do it.

Also, there's many single dad's doing an amazing job too.

[Anonymous]

single mother’s are praised because they had no choice of the father deciding to leave or not, step fathers do have a choice of dating a woman with kids or not. they do deserve some praise but it’s a very different thing.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I have a step daughter. She has no relationship with her father. I am now her father. My stepdaughter in now my adopted daughter. She considers me her father and our relationship is father and daughter.

[Wester1967]

Stop simping guys. You don't deserve to be a doormat.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/XDgDWAY7UOA

[MotorcycleMan]

It's an honor and a privilege to raise any child. Treat it as such.

[jshm2]

No. it's usually a slur. i. e simp looking after baby, born to whore lady.

But these days it's a more accepted practice.

[Anonymous]

They should get praised, yes. They’re taking on a father role they have (maybe) never have had to do before, and that is a lot of unnecessary responsibility that they could’ve easily said no to.

[Anonymous]

There an element of selflessness, but too much selflessness makes you look like a masochist. Mostly I think such guys seem like losers, not necessarily because of who they are the act of raising someone else kids itself. It seems a bit pathetic.

[AgentRED]

If you like playing someone else’s saved game file then more power to you:

[Anonymous]

Don't reward women with kids.

Only men with kids should date women with kids.

Being a father or male mentor or step dad is more valuable than mother.

[najekim]

Was called more of a dad than his real father by my step-son many times.