Do American people have weak family connections because they don't care about them after they turn 18?

[DmMeNow]

I mean thats weird.. I respect but 18 y. o is so early to move
Thats not a mature age to decide what to do in life
Why dont they help their children?

[exitseven]

In many other countries young people that still live with their parents are not considered losers. It is the custom in the US that young people leave their parent's home after they get out of school.
This could be the reason that the family unit is not as strong as it is in other countries.
My parents lived with my father's parents after he got out of the Army in the 1940s until the 1950s when they had a house built. His sister and her husband also lived there with their son. Three generations under one roof.

[DmMeNow]

I understand
Thank your for detailed answer :)

[Anonymous]

I do not know their family life and i am not quite sure if children leave their home when they are 18 years old is beneficial or not but i think by this way people can learn how to be independent. ( i did not like the fact that they do not help their children afterwards) but for example i live in a country in which all children even they become adults live their parents until they marry.( there are ones who earn money to live alone) but more people can not afford it easily. So, we can not know how to be independent or confident. There are some people who go to universities which is far away from their home can leave their home for some time and learn to be independent too but if not you can not learn that. So i think this is quite useful.

[DmMeNow]

Yeah i understand what u mean :)
Where do u live if u dont mind me asking

[LittleMama3]

My sister didn't move out till 28, my brother was 25 when he moved out. I was 17. I moved out early because my parents were very controlling and I needed to experience life. But I stayed the night at my parent's house at least a weekend a month, every Christmas Eve. When my dad got sick I stayed with them weeks, months at a time. After my dad died I stayed with my mom a couple months and now stay a couple weekends a month. I talk to my mom everyday, if I don't call she worries.

[DmMeNow]

Thats nice, i like u have strong connection with your mom
Sorry to hear about your loss:(
I hope u are well :)

[RichSD]

That's a very broad assumption. There are millions of people in the USA who all do family differently. Some live with their parents all their lives, some leave home at 16 (like I did.) There are thousands of cultures in our country, we're not all homogenous like a lot of Europe and Asia is.

[DmMeNow]

Thats true Sir
But im asking for native Americans tbh

[RichSD]

Native Americans also have all kinds of different cultures. In some states you aren't even considered a legal adult til you're 19. But the law isn't an indicator for what people's actual culture is, because lots of people came to this country generations ago and kept their own culture or slightly mixed in when they did. And some, like my relatives who are Lakota, are descendents from people who lived here thousands of years. Some kick their kids out as early as possible, some live in big houses together with multiple generations in a house, and everything in between. The part about being 18 that you hear about is more of when you're legally able to be considered an adult if you want to be. It doesn't mean your parents are required to kick you out.

[DmMeNow]

I understand Sir, thanks for the reply
I just talked to American teacher a few days ago
She was saying people who get to 18 move
And parents dont help children
So i guess as u said it depends on parents and their culture

[Jay3344]

People sometimes move out at 18, sometimes for work sometimes for College. Mostly they stay connected to their family unless it was an unfortunate situation. I’m not sure why your teacher would say that moving out meant that the relationship was severed. It’s illogical.

[loves2learn]

No. Not at all. I’m 38 and still have a wonderful relationship with my parents. Better than when I was a kid.

[DmMeNow]

Thats nice to hear
Maybe what i have heard changes depends on what state or what culture those people come from

[loves2learn]

That could be. Also the family values.

[jshm2]

No It's because they are barely a people to begin with. Most don't have a legitimate family or lineage that can be traced.

[DmMeNow]

Yeah i guess some have kids out of marriage which is bad i think
Because kids need their parents both, need their love and support

[Waldoe]

18 is the legal age to leave, so it is the son or daughters choice, the parent can NOT keep them in the home. Parents help their children until the parent dies... it never stops

[DmMeNow]

Thanks for the reply
Thats good to know that parents help them

[lightbulb27]

agree with you that 18 isn't the magical "send them off age". some do, don't know why. my parents supported til I got out of college. may be related to the "old world" where graduating h. s. meant could get a decent job. not true anymore.

[DmMeNow]

Thank u for the reply Sir

[BCA6010]

No, the weakness in modern families has a lot more to do with divorce rates and absentee parents, which the latter especially contributes to a lot of other problems too.

[MTC29]

I'm age 61. My mother is age 80, and she still worries about me.

Where are you from?

[DmMeNow]

Im from Turkey Sir
Thanks for the reply
Thats nice u have strong connection with your mother

[Jay3344]

I live in the house next door to my brother. In the same town we grew up in. We both traveled around in our 20’s and now we live on the same block. It’s like a sitcom

[Ryfyle]

@dmmenow Thats very rare now these days. the Economy went to shit and few can afford to move out at 18.

[DmMeNow]

Yeah unfortunately i see what u mean

[Ryfyle]

The weird Irony of it all, is despite all that I ended up having my name on a deed and ended up paying all the bills anyway.

[DmMeNow]

Thats good, so you are safe i hope

[Ryfyle]

Fuck no. I'm as far from safe as you can get.

[HellGeist]

That's an aspect of it, but the family unit has also taken a beating.

[KostasKouvalis]

Pretty much. Then they are surprised when they put them into nursing homes

[Snakeyes7]

I don't think so. It has more to do with being able to handle yourself in the outside world.

[Anonymous]

they have forgotten GOD