If your son brought home a woman who was 10-15 years older than him, what would be your reaction?

[t-8900]

Assume:
Your son is over the age of 21
They clearly have a deep connection
She treats him very well from what you can tell
They are both very happy.

[DizzyDesii]

he's 21 so i can't say much. I’ll give her a chance unless she gives me “taking advantage” vibes. Bt if he's still living in my household then nahh. Granny gonna have to wait til he's out and about. I’d wonder what caused him to want an older woman cause i always preferred no more than a 3 year gap when it came to men. I’d probably question if something happened with an older person when he we younger but outside of that i dont have much to say

[t-8900]

well over 21, not 21. He could be any age past that tbh. 22-50 for all we know for example.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea but if he lives with me then nahh. But he should be out my house by 30 shit

[t-8900]

lmao but my point is would you support him or not in terms of what made him happy. Hypothetically perhaps she's treated him better than anyone else ever has and it's reflective in how she treats him.

[DizzyDesii]

I would not support it as i stated above. But i would not try to stop it if her intentions with my son are good as i stated above

[ItsMeElliana]

honestly. I'd just be like that one overprotective parent... because I dont want his heart to be broken, or anything to go wrong, also thats a huge age gap right there, I'd probably get my husband and talk to my son about it alone first and know whats up
It sounds super sus tho

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

Take them to the nearest church and get the married.

I am not one of those who care what other people think of me. Ideally, I would not care what they will think of my boy or girl. If they are happy, get them married.

Marriage is also a settlement.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

And to be honest, I have seen many marriages in which both of them are not clearly happy with each other. So the age difference is not that big a deal.

[AviatorTom]

I accept her and him and observe how they interact together. If things look good, I congratulate them. That's not a large age difference and age doesn't really mean that much anyway. More important is how the couple works together in their relationship.

[AviatorTom]

Thanks for the mho

[FinalFantasyBro]

As long she isn't some sort of abuser and predator I gladly accept her, I don't mind if my adult child prefer older men/women or younger women/men. But I definitely be a little worried if my son or daughter chose someone who is still a minor for obvious reasons, but as long the person is 18 and up I don't mind if my son or daughter go out with older people.

[t-8900]

yeah of course. Even at like 18 still kinda hard for me. 21 though, drinking age, well past the age to vote and make informed decisions, they gotta have freedom and are in no way a child anymore.

[FinalFantasyBro]

Definitely, I sometimes think people tend to forget 18 is still bound by a few laws unless you live in a different country because each country have their own laws. But yes here in The States majority of the legal adult things are 21.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

If he's over the age of 21, my reaction ain't gonna matter.. They a grown adult at that point, and while they may want your acceptance or approval, they don't "need" it.. besides lol I don't have a son, only daughters...

[TonyMetal___86]

Still the kids should respect their parents and their opinion matters miss brains muffins!

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@TonyMetal___86 my children being grown enough and responsible enough to know what's best for them is what matters to me... You give your children the lessons/tools and it's up to them to decide how they use them

[TonyMetal___86]

That's true but that doesn't mean that they shouldn't respect their parent's opinion and not take it into consideration but the final decision is theirs...

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@TonyMetal___86 the more you try to tell your adult children what to do, the more they'll make decisions just to show they can, that they're adults and don't have to listen to you. The more you treat your adult children like adults and show you trust them to make the decisions best for them, the more they will

[TonyMetal___86]

Being an adult doesn't means that we should stop respecting our parents and they want the best things for their kids...

[t-8900]

@TonyMetal___86 yeah but i dont think age has any factor on whats "best" for the kids. If the last few girls his own age were cheaters and liars and this one wasn't isn't he already in a better place then he was before?

[TonyMetal___86]

@t-8900 true...

[AmandaYVR]

It's not just the age spread that matters but the exact actual ages of both people. And the maturity level of both.
I'd prefer they were similar in age, but I've been the one with others who dated much older, so I really couldn't say much against. Love is love.
But large age differences can cause problems. And sometimes it matters not.

[TrueConfection]

It would depend on the maturity of each of them and if she is controlling or manipulative. I wouldn't discount their feelings for one another, but I'll have my eye on any woman my son dates.

[t-8900]

this is a good mindset to have! Spoken like a true mom haha! ^^

[Subarugirl]

I would be wary, suspicious and protective. Trust and respect is earned, and it takes times to establish those things.

[t-8900]

thats fair but at least you are opened to meritocracy. If she can prove she's in it for the right reasons and all that. I agree too by the way.

[Subarugirl]

I am not against age gap relationships, I am however against people who are much older and much more mature taking advantage of someone's naivety

[t-8900]

In this scenario the guy asked her out and she said no at First fearing his intentions. When he calmed her down and put her mind at ease she stepped back, went silent, then said yes with joy. It was actually really adorable

[God_of_Thunder]

None of my business.

She's either a wonderful person, and they'll be very happy together, or they'll break up, at which point he's learned something. My getting involved would only damage our relationship.

[worldscolide]

As long as they are both consenting adults I do not care.. Now if he was under 18, I'd see to it she went to prison for statutory rape.

[t-8900]

you and me both brother. we're on the same page there, no doubts about it.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

He's over 21 which means I no longer have a say over who he can and can't date. He's an adult.

[TonyMetal___86]

Still he should respect his parent's opinions snd take it into consideration...

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

@TonyMetal___86 some parents are toxic AF and don't want their kids to find happiness. So yeah he can hear what they have to say but their word is not end all be all

[TonyMetal___86]

I'm talking about the good parents who wants the best for their kids and if the kids doesn't like what their parents are saying, they can just listen to them with respect and the final decision is theirs...

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

@TonyMetal___86 that wasn't the question.

[TonyMetal___86]

But that's my comment on what you have said...

[WonderBell99]

@TonyMetal___86 What exactly do you mean by “best”? Are you implying that larger age gaps are often not really the best because it’s not the social norm?

With all due respect, I disagree with you. Age does matter, but if they’re compatible both emotionally, mentally and physically, I don’t see anything wrong with it. I’ve seen people with large age gaps make their relationship work wonderfully. Age does matter, but only to an extent.

All parents want what’s best for their kids, but they cannot keep controlling their kids’ lives. It can get quite overwhelming. You can only guide your kids and give them good advise. It’s up to them to make good decisions

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

@TonyMetal___86 and my response is that when your child becomes an adult then their decisions are their own. Yes parents can give input and of course you want your kid to be respectful, but the bottom line is that they don't HAVE to do any of that.

[TonyMetal___86]

@wonderbell99 try to understand me 1st than reply the way you want cause that's not what i meant and 90% of what you have said is similar to my answer and all i'm saying that the kids should always respect their parent's opinion but the final decision is up to them to take since they are gown ups!

[TonyMetal___86]

@ShaTTeredMasterpeace i know that they don't have to but i expect them to be respectful and take my advices into consideration cause age doesn't means losing respect towards your parents...

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

@TonyMetal___86 lol I understand what you're saying but you can definitely not wanna take their advice and still be respectful.

[TonyMetal___86]

@ShaTTeredMasterpeace finally you got what i'm saying 😄

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

@TonyMetal___86 lol I got it from the beginning

[TonyMetal___86]

That's good 😌👍🏻

[Agape93]

Just shrug it off. I don't care who people date long as it's consensual and legal

[scentoflavender]

As long as she does right by my son, i have no issues. Theyre both adults. Ultimately its not my business.

[purplepoppy]

It's his choice, he's old enough to make those decisions.

[FictionalCharacter]

Haha I wouldn’t know. Since in the past, guys younger than me flirted with me. Which felt weird to me. But knew they were too scared to admit to their parents that they like older women.

[t-8900]

When I was 19 I went out with a 36 year old lmao

[FictionalCharacter]

Bet you didn’t tell your parents.

[t-8900]

My dad knew and met her. My mom was am absentee parent. so her opinion doesn't matter

[KrisPW]

If she makes him smile, and he seems happy, then I'm ok with it.

[TonyMetal___86]

I'll try to advise him but in the end it's his decision and he can never come someday to blame me about it...

[t-8900]

blame for what? XD

[TonyMetal___86]

Blaming me for not advising him 😌

[Truthvsl13s]

I personally love older women. Of your 20 years older thats fine. If we have same believes same things in common and we click then awesome.

[Anonymous]

Start doing background checks on her.
GPS tag her vehicle.

[exitseven]

Yes that is what I would do.

[FunkyMonkee]

In his 20's, not much of a big deal.
If he's 12, yeah, we need to talk!

[Phoenix98]

Ehh that's a little weird but I'd see what happens.

[Aryanxkumar]

I Think You Don't Give Him Enough Money So He Brought An Older Prostitute For Cheap Rates.

[loves2learn]

I’d be thrilled for him.