How do you socialize in a new city without going to bars or being awkward?

[Anonymous]

I moved to a new city 8 months ago and work remotely. I had a familiarity in my hometown of 27 years. I would go out all the time even through Covid and had a lot of fun with life long friends. I moved for a fresh start to go out and meet new people who don't know my about my dumb moments. I tried the bar hopping every weekend to get out of my apartment and they were packed with people to get to know. As of 2 weeks ago i was burnt out and realize its hopeless. I would see all these people and sit quietly alone in a packed bar. I haven't had to make friends in 15 years and don't remember how. I am considering moving home cause I'm really lonely but at the same time want to face my fears and learn to meet new people.

[JasM0]

The following could help:
1. Find the most popular guy in the city and connect with people
2. Join local professional groups - aim for a leadership position
3. Hire lifestyle and professional coaches to level up your social ability
4. Attend and join local religious institutions - shop around, but focus on the higher relationships, not the dogmatic ones
5. Volunteer for something that holds your passion - aim for a leadership position
6. Humbly post your activities on social media


Build upon yourself, and others will flock to you. Be humble and enjoy your new city.


Cheers

[JasM0]

*find the most popular gym in the city…

[purplepoppy]

Why are you going to packed bars? People will already be in their own groups and while groups often chat to other groups it's rare for a guy alone to break into one.
Look for smaller bars at less busy times or better still seek out clubs and groups that share your interests

[In_Trance]

The same way you do in your old city