I ghosted a “friend” here’s why?

[Vuitton914]

About a year ago I was sick and homebound. A friend stated that they would prepare soup and bring it to my home. Friend never made the soup and called me to tell me that they were at a restaurant literally across the street from my apartment and proceeded to gossip about someone.

Fast forward to this year.

Said friend sister has a bday party at an event space. Said friend sends me an invite via text on the day of the party and two hours before the start of the event. I politely declined.

Two nights ago it’s said friends bday. I wish them a happy birthday and in return said friend sends me an invite to their bday dinner. Which was reserved and starting in two hours. Said friend stated that the reservations were last minute. I ignored the message and looked at photos of the event. There were about 8-10 guest which means the event was planned.

I literally just blocked this person EVERYWHERE. Without explanation. Reason being I feel as if this person is malicious and these incidents are calculated and conscious decisions. I don’t feel like I owe this person an explanation because that would turn into person attempting to gaslighting me.

Was I wrong to feel the way that I do? I don’t know this persons issue and at this point I don’t care. Said person is a gay male and told me previously that if he was a female he would want to be like me.

[Alyssa_11]

Hey. First of all I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been in friendships like this and I want to reassure you that you did the right thing.


People always talk about having standards when it comes to dating but we should also emphasise the importance of having standards when picking out our friends. The people you invest your time and energy with SERIOUSLY impact your life, your goals, and how you feel about yourself. Regardless of how confident you are and what your self esteem is like. Energy is transferable.


You have very right to protect your energy and live the best life you can possibly make for yourself. That includes excluding people who don’t make you feel good. There is nothing in the world forcing you to bond with this friend or put up with any disrespect. People will really try you, the more you let them, the more they’ll step over you.


You did the right thing. Stay true to yourself and hold your standards up high and good friend will walk into your life. Because like attracts like.

[PrettyPriya]

No, if you felt like there was malicious intent from someone, best cut them out before it gets worse. You are required to be friends or communicate with anyone other than who you choose.

[PrettyPriya]

Whoops. Noticed a typo. "You *aren't required to be friends..."

[AviatorTom]

Your "friend" could be "malicious" as you said or just very forgetful and not good at planning. You've decided what you think she is. Live with that decision, even though it may be wrong.

[exitseven]

Nope, you are right to eliminate this person from your life.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[SnakeBoop]

so the first scenario was shitty of them. but the bday party is still plausible as a unplanned event.
you both sound shitty and stupid to be fair.

[Vuitton914]

Babe the party was definitely planned. Both of them. His sister had her party at an event place and it was designed.

The restaurant is a very popular establishment in NYC. What are the odds that he planned a dinner two hours before for 10 people and was able to score reservations? That was also planned.

[SnakeBoop]

XD ah. another classic sign you're also shitty by calling me "babe".
cool. so what if it was planned? they still invited you regardless...
either way, glad you're both out of each others lives.

[Anonymous]

There are plenty of justifiable reasons for doing it.

[Iron_Man]

What are you going to do about it