I told and explained to my mom on paper a while back about how a family member (who was still an adult at the time) abused me over the course of a few years when I was a minor. I went to my mom so I could get it out of my system so it would stop bothering me.
There was somethings unrelated to this incident that I found out today about my birth parents that lead up to having to revisit this same discussion which I put out of my mind.
I told my mom that I didn't want anyone to know when I first told her about this over a year ago.
She now insists and is set on confronting that family member and taking that family member to court, if they do not seek therapy. She also told me that this might divide the family.
I told her today that I did not want anyone finding out and she said I don't have to worry about that part, as if what she says she's about to do will bring some kind of positive impact to the situation.
I don't think she understand that for me it will be really embarrassing with everyone knowing and that I will have to live with everyone else knowing for the rest of my life, potentially exposure to the outside public.
She's literally dead set on this and I don't know what to do, or if I should just tell her lie saying I made everything up so this doesn't happen.
She's telling me that if I go to therapy she won't take that family member to court, etc... and that my actions have control of the situation. I told her I would go to therapy when I first told her but I decided not to because it would be embarrassing talking about it face to face with someone.
She is very emotional about it and told me that she reads the paper I gave her describing what happened at least once a week.
I don't think she is thinking logical about this at all, and I regret now even telling her what happened.
There was somethings unrelated to this incident that I found out today about my birth parents that lead up to having to revisit this same discussion which I put out of my mind.
I told my mom that I didn't want anyone to know when I first told her about this over a year ago.
She now insists and is set on confronting that family member and taking that family member to court, if they do not seek therapy. She also told me that this might divide the family.
I told her today that I did not want anyone finding out and she said I don't have to worry about that part, as if what she says she's about to do will bring some kind of positive impact to the situation.
I don't think she understand that for me it will be really embarrassing with everyone knowing and that I will have to live with everyone else knowing for the rest of my life, potentially exposure to the outside public.
She's literally dead set on this and I don't know what to do, or if I should just tell her lie saying I made everything up so this doesn't happen.
She's telling me that if I go to therapy she won't take that family member to court, etc... and that my actions have control of the situation. I told her I would go to therapy when I first told her but I decided not to because it would be embarrassing talking about it face to face with someone.
She is very emotional about it and told me that she reads the paper I gave her describing what happened at least once a week.
I don't think she is thinking logical about this at all, and I regret now even telling her what happened.
