So, I've had a rough relationship with my grandma for as long as I can remember. Me and my sister were partially raised by her because she lived in the same town and that was less expensive than day care/etc.
But, for as long as I can remember she was abusive. Physically, verbally, emotionally. We were allowed no freedom around her. She literally had to have a constant eye (and I mean CONSTANT) on us even when I was a teenager. Like, couldn't even be in the bathroom for more than 5 minutes without her knocking on the door and questioning me.
When I did get to be home, she would call the house sometimes upwards of 25 times a day. WITH my parents home.
The bug mistake is when we moved in next door when I was in 5th or 6th grade. Then she really had a free reign. She would walk over to. our house and stare in the windows if nobody answered her 20th call of the day. She would let herself in if the door was unlocked. She was out of control.
As kids (after we lived next door) I DREADED summer vacation because it was all spent with her. She'd wake us up at 7 to do "room checks" because if our rooms were at all messy it was the absolute end and she would throw adult tantrums.
Everything I've ever done has been criticized.
She even told me that my parents got divorced because my mom didn't dress "sexy " enough for my dad (who is her son). And took no accountability as to how she was probably 99% of the reason they split. He's on his 3rd marriage and I think it's almost entirely because of her and his lack of boundaries with her (that are FINALLY getting good).
I just remember being bullied for my appearance. Being too chubby, being too skinny, not being "fit" enough. Being told all of my opinions are wrong enough til you just shut up and then she's upset that you aren't engaging.
But, for as long as I can remember she was abusive. Physically, verbally, emotionally. We were allowed no freedom around her. She literally had to have a constant eye (and I mean CONSTANT) on us even when I was a teenager. Like, couldn't even be in the bathroom for more than 5 minutes without her knocking on the door and questioning me.
When I did get to be home, she would call the house sometimes upwards of 25 times a day. WITH my parents home.
The bug mistake is when we moved in next door when I was in 5th or 6th grade. Then she really had a free reign. She would walk over to. our house and stare in the windows if nobody answered her 20th call of the day. She would let herself in if the door was unlocked. She was out of control.
As kids (after we lived next door) I DREADED summer vacation because it was all spent with her. She'd wake us up at 7 to do "room checks" because if our rooms were at all messy it was the absolute end and she would throw adult tantrums.
Everything I've ever done has been criticized.
She even told me that my parents got divorced because my mom didn't dress "sexy " enough for my dad (who is her son). And took no accountability as to how she was probably 99% of the reason they split. He's on his 3rd marriage and I think it's almost entirely because of her and his lack of boundaries with her (that are FINALLY getting good).
I just remember being bullied for my appearance. Being too chubby, being too skinny, not being "fit" enough. Being told all of my opinions are wrong enough til you just shut up and then she's upset that you aren't engaging.
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She heavily isolated us from seeing our grandpa who LIVED IN THE SAME HOUSE. Like she alloted time that we could see him and that she had to have us exclusively to stare at for the rest of the day. And he was the kindest person and I miss him.
When he was dying I've learned that she basically was abusing him. My dad finally spoke about how he didn't want to be left alone with her when he was dying.
Then when she met my first serious boyfriend she berated us both into tears for moving in togeth
When he was dying I've learned that she basically was abusing him. My dad finally spoke about how he didn't want to be left alone with her when he was dying.
Then when she met my first serious boyfriend she berated us both into tears for moving in togeth
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together (which WAS dumb on my end but very cruel on hers).
But maybe the icing on the cake was her the week of my sister's funeral. My younger sister died about 6 months back of an overdose. Which is a whole story in itself. But by then we didn't have much of a relationship (me and my sister). But my grandma saw it appropriate THE WEEK OF HER DEATH AND FUNERAL, to blame the loss of the relationship on me (without knowing anything) and then asked me to be her housekeeper basically.
Since the
But maybe the icing on the cake was her the week of my sister's funeral. My younger sister died about 6 months back of an overdose. Which is a whole story in itself. But by then we didn't have much of a relationship (me and my sister). But my grandma saw it appropriate THE WEEK OF HER DEATH AND FUNERAL, to blame the loss of the relationship on me (without knowing anything) and then asked me to be her housekeeper basically.
Since the
