Would you teach your kid that it’s ok to hit someone to defend themselves?

[JustinTheGreat]

Not me getting into an argument at the playground with the other parents 💀
The other day, I took my daughter to the park and some little boy who was twice her size kept pushing her and putting his hands on her. His dad was sitting there watching and wasn’t even saying anything.
I marched right over to that kids dad and told him to grab his fucking kid and that he should be teaching his son not to put his hands on girl half his size.

this is why I’m teaching my daughter to stand up for herself and if someone is hitting her and pushing her around (or if some boy is touching her inappropriately) , she has my permission to punch them in the face…HARD. 🙃
If my kid hits your kid because they were being a little shit, that’s not my problem. You and your kid can go cry about it

[NathanDavis]

I have been teaching my niece not to hit others per se as a form of defence

but to defend herself and protect herself, as well as standing up to bullies and other annoying kids and also to DEFUSE and keep away from these situations, rather than stay and fight because she gets used to fighting, there will be a day in which the other kids will just be bigger and stronger and she will only get beaten even more

another thing I am teaching her about is the difference between bullies at the school, or her cousins, kids in the street... and the difference that has, with the actual dangerous people out there, those that would be up to really worse things

the second ones would be way way more difficult to deal with, so on that I am teaching her awareness as well as prevention of unnecessary risks

and for everything else, she has my number... anything happens, I can be at her school in less than four minutes

and if something REALLY bad starts happening, then she has another number, and someone will be there in just two minutes

[Kaneki05]

"Revenge can go wrong but it shows willingness not to be knocked around, without revenge all it shows is you can be knocked around. One is the better choice always." That's a quote from myself.
Therefore my teaching would be make them pay. Though I will say the best revenge often comes when they don't see it coming.
So a a proper fight of he punches you, you punch him often will fail unless if you are just stronger but let's be real if you were they wouldn't be trying to do it.
Revenge is more about waiting.

[sweetpinkutie]

YESSSS!!! when I was a kid, some boy spit at me and i went to my dad crying, he walked inside that kids house, and grabbed him to come outside, right in front of his dad, and told me to punch him and spit at him and the guy just stood there with his family watching so I did. He avoided me at all times after that. Then when I came to the US, my parents had me take Karate classes, became a black belt, and I actually fought a girl bully in school who tried to beat up another girl who didn't want to fight, so I told the bully, she doesn't want to fight you, so you'll have to get through me first. Tey were both bigger and older than me, but I knocked out that bully that was double my size. 3 days suspensions are honestly not bad. My dad was so proud when he saw that girl was double my height and weight haha

[Lyndsielee666]

Dude when my kid was in kindergarten she came home looking like she got her ass beat so I asked her what happened. A fifth grade boy grabbed her by her shirt and drug her little ass all over the black top. The school didn’t call me even though she was bruised to shit So I went to the school the next day and her principal told me that she just needed to ignore the kid 😀😀 told him he better ignore me dragging that kids mom all over the school since my kid won’t hit back but I sure the fuck will 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

[Mynameisbobby]

Good for you 👍 Sorry your daughter went through that. I hope she was all right. I tell my little brother if someone hits you hit them back!!

[Lyndsielee666]

@Mynameisbobby I ended up homeschooling her because she refused to go back. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[exitseven]

I worked in a K-12 school system as an administrator. The teachers and the principals uses to turn a blind eye towards bullying. They had a "kids will be kids" attitude.
A kid in high school was beat up by some kid that was bullying him. The teachers and principal did nothing so he went to the local cops and got the kid arrested for assault which is what it was. The arrested the kid and since he was over 18 locked him up. His parents had to take time off work and get an attorney and go to court. I don't know how it all turned out but I bet the kid never bothered him again.

[Mynameisbobby]

The poor kid 😢 At least you knew she was safe.

[Mynameisbobby]

@exitseven I know what you mean about teachers and principals choosing not to see what is happening. I was bullied from 7th grade until my senior year. The principal didn't want to hear about it even going so far as to laugh at me and other kids.

[exitseven]

An older kid was picking on my son at the bus stop. My wife wanted me to call the kid's father. I decided that my son needed to take care of this himself. I told him if it happens again let the kid get on the bus first and when you walk by him jam your elbow into his ear really hard. It will hurt like hell but won't leave a mark. I was able to watch what was going on at the bus stop from my front porch. I watched while my son took this kids books away from him and throw them all over the street. Papers were flying everywhere. The kid neve bothered him again.

[Guy13]

I know a woman as a child who got involved in Judo. Somehow, she got money in university for it. She did say the best thing about was no guys treated me poorly from 14 years on. She very feminine and secure in her person🤷🏻‍♂️

[Dinklex3]

My mother told me to never lay my hands on anyone, but if they hit me first i have to "knock the poop out of them".
Thankfully, I've never been in a real fight, lol.
I definitely encourage defending oneself, but I also encourage people to not use excessive use of force.
If my daughter was a 5th grade, and some shrimpy ass 3rd grader half her size gets physical she can defend herself and show her what's what, but not wail on her.

[Ευδεμονια]

It seems quite the world is becoming like hell but you did the right thing as dad and adult, scolding the other dad and teaching your daughter a bit of self Defence. Unfortunately civilisation isn’t growing and humans are going towards the time of ancient caves and Stone Age.
Nowadays seems a woman (or a weakling) has to be submitted by bossy and bully people, it’s very sad thinking that in the second millennium we have to defend ourselves by other humans.

[Anonymous]

I don't think they should be a pushover - boy or girl - but you don't want them being a bully either. And you don't want your kids using someone else's poor behaviour as an excuse but if they're in a corner, there are times where they are going to have to step up and deal with it.
Ideally no-one is physically abusing anyone but this is the real world.

[TallAnon]

I will teach them what I was taught. If you can avoid violence, do so. If you can't, destroy them; Pick up a piece of wood, stab them in the eye with a screwdriver, whatever you need to do to win. Nothing is worth more than your own life, consequences come second to survival.

[jennifer_bloom]

I’m not an expert on bullies cause I was bullied verbally but never physically so I’m not sure what I would do, maybe hire body guards to protect him or spy on his bullies with photos I could send to the police, etc…

[Blackcosmo]

Of course I would teach them how to defend themselves. I don't want them to end up a sore loser like me who always lets people do whatever they want to me and still get away with it.

[RobT312]

Agree.
when I have kids I’d like to teach them not to be bullies but if they need to defend themselves... yes go right ahead!

[Paul_in_Indy]

Well, I would probably teach him to grapple, rather than just punch, but…
Who else will teach a child to employ violence properly?

[Spotifyplaylist]

100% but I am also gonna teach my kids that if you can't beat them up and they hit you give them a real good kick to the ankles and run.

[Anonymous]

It seems to me that that dad was craving a nice ass whooping. You probably should have granted him his wish.

[JustinTheGreat]

I was tempted to tell him “if you don’t stop your kid from putting his hands on her, I’m gonna have to put my hands on you” but I held back because I’ve already been arrested for assault before and not tryna go back to jail LMAOOO

[Opinion Owner]

I totally get it.

[MCheetah]

Absolutely. 100%. I'd even enroll them in martial arts at an early age. Male or female.

[TootToot]

If a child hits another child then the child that's being hit should knock the hell out of the child that hit him/her they should keep their hands to themselves.

[Backgroun]

Depends, normally to walk away is the best salutions, but if there's I other alternative then he or she just be willing to defend themselves. (Only when really necessary)

[Shamalien]

Yeah, in self defence use any force necessary to protect yourself

[Aiko_E_Lara]

That's basically teaching kids martial arts which is ok as long as you are doing it right.

[dustybiker]

We often take martial arts classes together. Yes.

[Alexisjj]

My dads Troughton me th@t and I’m fine

[anon1903]

Yeah. Because I needed to hear it from my own dad.