I'm going to sound like a complete jerk off right now. I feel terrible that my ex girlfriend (who is now fully transitioned to male) found his mother deceased. I know how close he was with his mother and I can't even imagine what he is going through.
But the thing is, I dated this guy in HS. I have seen him once in the past 11 years. We do not speak on a regular basis and we are not close at all. He has brothers and a bunch of friends to reach out to but instead he reached out to me. I already have so much on my plate that I'm dealing with (3 kids, 2 jobs, a fiance, pets, housework, depression, etc) and every single day since it happened (2 Mondays ago) he has been reaching out to me. I find myself dreading even going near my phone because I know for a fact he has messaged me. Keeps saying that I am the only one who understands, I'm the one who makes him feel not alone, I'm the one who makes him feel safe during this and that I'm the one who makes him feel at peace with it. But even those harmless comments make me uncomfortable because despite the fact that my fiance is fully aware of him reaching out to me and has NO problem with it whatsoever, I still feel like those comments alone are slightly inappropriate given the context of our acquaintanceship.
I truly don't know what to do here. I don't want to be that asshole who tells him that I'm not comfortable speaking to him every single day after he just lost his mother but I also don't want to waste all this time on my phone either when I could be hanging out with my kids (I already barely have time to with my 2 jobs) or cleaning my house, which desperately needs to be done. Any advice would be greatly appreciated here because I'm truly starting to feel uncomfortable and feel as though he is going to start getting the wrong idea, where he is already using me as a trauma crutch.
