I met and got to know this person who is a leader at the group I have been going for about a month, and had meet ups and talk with that same person. I have been addressing how I felt unwelcome and unwanted at the group, because people don't want to get to know me. for an introvert like me, showing up to events like that was a big step for me. I was with the guys group for the same ministry that were merged with the girls group, where it is me, him and another guy (his close friend). Last time I went, when me and the guys left, I told them (jokingly-ish) that if I leave, then it will just be two guys (them close friends). He was silent while his close friend advised me not to leave and keep going to the group. They saId they wanted to see me at their Monday dinner night the following week. The next day after that group, me and that person met and I explained what I meant by what I said to them. That is when he told me, "I'd be sad if you leave; I'd be extra sad if you disappear".
I did show up to that Monday night and I dont see things have change much, so I decided to have a short talk with the two guys and told him that we are still friends, everything is fine, before we all go our ways for the night. Along with that and everything else I've been struggling as introverts who are more on the shy side, I was not able to make it to the group this week. I did text him and let him know what happened and told him that I am not leaving nor disappearing on him. He said that they missed me (which I doubt). From what he said, it sounded like he is a real friend (or at least tries his best to be one_), but I think words should also be turned into actions. If you say one thing and act differently, it is technically a lie to me.
