How would you found out your close friend was sleeping with someone who was married?

[Pink2000]

I just found out that the guy my friend is currently sleeping with is a married man and she knows about it … she claims that he is separated from his wife but I told her he’s probably lying…. After doing my own digging I found his wife’s Facebook and Instagram and I have messaged her from a fake account. I know for a fact my friend is in the wrong and it’s making me look at her sideways and I’m honestly thinking about cutting off the friendship cause I can’t respect someone who knowingly sleeping with a married man.. eventhough she’s believing the fact that they are “separated”

[Labokachulaa]

I had a friend who did this too, she was a very sneaky person. I would imagine that she slept with one my ex's because she's that type of girl. There's no much you can do with someone like that because I feel like they're already too far gone. You just have to let karma come for those types of people. The girl who was my friend, her karma is, she's never had a good relationship. Something ALWAYS happens in every relationship that she gets in.

[DizzyDesii]

I tell them i dont respect it nor them if they continue to do so and i distance myself from them

[DizzyDesii]

And separated is not divorced so still a no

[Wish4UrB00ty]

I hade a friend in that position. The man claimed to have separated and said that they were getting a divorce. So she started sleeping with him and then found his wife on Facebook. She cut him off as soon as she realized that he had been lying to her about his divorce. Maybe your friend is in a similar spot where he claims that they are in the process of divorce and that he is “hers” when in fact he is being the duch.

[JDavid25]

Unfortunately, I am around people who look to cheat all the time.. Not friends per say, but co-workers.. But, yeah I don't know what I would do if I was in your situation.. I would probably distance myself because I really don't like cheating.. Or even Open relationships.. I don't know if I would cut the friendship off unless she was just into sleeping with married men further destroying relationships..

[Guccigabbana18]

I would not be their friend anymore. People like that don't /can't have my trust, and it shows what their morals are. Sometimes people do stupid things, but this kind of action just shows a lack of respect for others in general.

I would also be worried that if my friend can do something like that to another person, what could they do to me if they suddenly felt like it?

[melanieeeB]

Well she is probably being manipulated by him, I would try to help a little and get her to really realize that even if they were separated, she should wait until the divorce is settled and he is a single man or get her to realize that she is just his fun side thing but I wouldn't immediately cut the friendship... unless she viciously doesn't give a shit and is fully aware

[JDavid25]

"unless she viciously doesn't give a shit and is fully aware"

I think that's what she was getting at.. The friend is fully aware and doesn't give a shit.

[melanieeeB]

Ohh well if you say so, then it's that way haha What do we advice?
Distancing and pushing the friend to come out with the truth to the wife and well hopefully end her (the friend) bullshit and let the wife decide what she is going to do with the cheating asshole?

[Bricealan]

Your call, but I would stay out of it, even though you feel a certain amount of aggravation with your friend. A friend I was close to at work was fucking a girl we both worked with, even though he was living with a really good woman who was in school for an RN credential. I stayed out of it and remained friends with my male work associate.

[Clairebear799]

I would think it was shitty. It’s hard to be friends with people with low morals and most my friends would never do that.


I would be disappointed

[Biancam13]

I'd dump them. There's a difference between liking someone who's married, and acting on that "like." Women like this (or men like this) I have no respect for.

[Adaeva]

You are an obvious snitch and busy body that should mind your one business.

[Pink2000]

Girl you’re 14. I’m not taking advice from you. You know nothing about relationships.

[Adaeva]

I date teenage boys so I know about relationships. Granted, they are not old enough to drive but you can date without going somewhere in a car.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

If a close friend was sleeping with someone who is married good for them!

[TallAnon]

That sounds like a case of none of your business and messaging that person seems really fucking weird to me.

[Pink2000]

She has every right to know and she shouldn’t have told me if she didn’t want it to be my business. I think he’s lying and I know my friend is dumb enough to believe him

[TallAnon]

You should've told your friend to consider messaging her instead of going behind her back. If you were the friend I confided in and I found out you did this, you'd no longer be my friend.

[Pink2000]

That’s fine. But I’m looking out for her best interest. This friend also doesn’t disclose her std status to the guys she has sex with so I’m also gonna ask a question about that. It’s not my place to tell them she has an incurable std

[TallAnon]

Nothing in this situation was your place to talk about. Friends don't go behind eachother's back.

[Pink2000]

I’m gonna tell her

[ZenJen444]

@TallAnon it wasn't her friends place to open her legs to a married man. She's not an individual who can be trusted so I'd absolutely throw her under the bus too. If a man was cheating with your fiance or wife you'd want to know correct?

[TallAnon]

That's besides the point, her actions are hers, not hers friend's.
Of course there's a whole lot her friend is doing wrong here, she's even breaking the law by not disclosing her STD status.
That said, that's her friend's responsibilities. You can choose not to be her friend, but don't go behind a friend's back.

[ZenJen444]

@TallAnon beside what point? Would you want to know if your fiance was having an affair?

[TallAnon]

Again, that's not what we're discussing here. We're talking about a girl taking what her friend said to her with trust and her going behind her back about it.
Multiple things can be wrong, what she did was certainly one of them.

[ZenJen444]

@TallAnon again , same shit. Would you I want to know if your fiance was having an affair?

[Ms_Facesitter]

I wouldn't consider that a close friend anymore.

[ZenJen444]

I wouldn't be her friend anymore. She is not anyone to be trusted. If she's doing this to others she will do this to you. I'd keep away from her.

[KrakenAttackin]

Your friend knows the truth but she loves Chad's doggy staff.

[Twalli]

I fully intend to sleep with a married woman in a few years.

[eagle1951]

Personally, it's her business, not yours, stay out of it. We make are own mistakes in life

[Pink2000]

She shouldn’t have told me

[Jennz6]

Maybe they are separated?

[Pink2000]

That doesn’t make it right.. her profile still says married

[Jennz6]

I know Pink but it happens a lot

[Jennz6]

Pink, I agree that it’s not right

[prosmind]

Why are you doing so?

[Alex8736]

by looking at the imprint on the guy's finger

[Anonymous]

Lose a lot of respect for them.

[Guardian45]

Ask them

[jimmy2]

Run girl run away