You know how knowing other men are interested in a woman tends to increase your interest. So does that mean it decreases your interest if you find out that men that frequently spend time with her just see her as an acquaintance?
Your premise applies mainly to younger, immature men in my view. I don't give a damn what anyone else's interest might be in a particular woman, one way or the other. That said, it might even be a good indication to look more closely at a particular woman!
I think you have that backwards. When I find out a woman has other guys interested in her that’s a negative. If she has close male platonic relationships it’s also fairly sus. Guys are competitive, but most don’t want to compete for a woman’s attention.
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Not at all , I would have to be the judge of that before I agree or disagree with anyone ,
If every guy is interested in her, and that’s the only thing that keeps him interest, then she is just a trophy to him. He is in love of the trophy.
If they are acquaintances meaning there are some types of boundaries, and a respectful relationship I guess.
However, depends on the relationship with the other guys that are “acquaintances” if interested in a serious relationship with her, he might wanna place some boundaries on how those guys speaks to her. Her and the guys friends might have the open communication bro code relationship (maybe friend-zoned)
As her new man he might feel disrespected that anyone can talk to his partner like that. Anyhow, all depends in the perspective he chose to see it.
He might just be the guy coming into her life to create drama, to express and impose his insecurities, because she has guys acquaintances. All these guys were before him, and none actually cross the boundaries he is afraid of. Maybe he needs to grow some confidence, and not isolate her and trust her with the level of confidence she had before he even come to the picture.
If I was her, I’ll keep all the guy acquaintance, also for a female to have guy friends give her some leverage on guys languages and shenanigans.
Interest In what? Sleeping with her? Dating her?
It's easier to consider the extremes, if every guy in the world is not attracted to her, would it affect my interest in sleeping with her? Well if every guy in the world wasn't attracted to her, then its nearly impossible I would be interested in the first place, let's assume I was on the fence and I come to learn that no one else is attracted to her, then yes its more than likely going to affect my view.
For dating, my attraction is based on more than just physical so it would have much less of am a direct impact on my position.
Going back to it just being one single guy we using as a reference point, then the impact on level of change in my view of her is irrelevant on dating and most so in the case of sleeping with her
If your level of interest for someone is dictated by how others feel about them I'm going to say that shows your feelings for them are not genuine that comes across as fake and superficial. If you really like someone you are focused on you and that person's relationship and interaction not looking around saying now how does this person feel about her and how do they think to me that's the stupid. Really that's like someone trying to boost their own ego like okay other people are interested in her so I'm going to outdo them like it's a competition or a game. That thought actually makes me sick and disgusted
From talking to my male friends, I know we have totally different tastes in women. So many times they have been crazy about some woman I was meh about. And vice versa.
So yeah, I think it's pretty subjective as a man, and the good thing about another guy not liking her is it means less competition.
No to me that wouldn't decrease my interest. In some cases it's rather an increase because that would mean less rivals.
We don't care if other men find a woman attractive as long as we do, unlike women. The real problem with this is that she's spending a lot of time with another dude, and it's almost certain he would smash if she gave him the chance. So her having a male best friend is a red flag and a deal-breaker for anything serious.
No. But I also question her close male friend isn’t attracted her. Not that there should be something going on between them, but there are other reasons to maintain non-romantic, friend relationships. It doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t like or aren’t attracted to someone. You can’t overcome biology.
I am my own person and another guys opinion about her would really have no bearing on whether I chose to show interest in her.
After all, one man's trinket is another man's treasure.
People who actually think that we aren’t even worth talking to.
If I’m into someone I’m just into them and other people aren’t going to change that.
u no... I am not an insecure douchebag like that
Nah actually it’s the opposite…if my friends are into a girl…I let them have her, no interest in competing with other men for anything, let alone women…if there is competition it has to be indirect like a dating app or a job application
This sounds like female thinking. I realise this is the way it works for women as they are him as status but as far as I know, women with male friends are rated lower. So, if they have no male friends, that's a plus.
The fact alone that she has a male friend would turn me off completely. At least it would if I still dated and had relationships. I hate women too much to have any sort of relationship with them
Nope. And I wouldn't run out and buy the latest Bruce Springsteen record, either just because her best male friend loved it.
No, but it's make me less uncomfortable about her hanging out with him
Needing the approval of other people to find someone attractive is a female trait. Men don't do this.
Not at all, people have different taste and if I go by what someone else likes then I am setting up composition for me too.
No. I don't don't think either of those things are true.
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