How would you feel if all of your closest friends were "better" than you?

[MCheetah]

If you have three or more close friends, and all of them are taller than you, more attractive looking than you (regardless of gender), have healthier, more athletic bodies than you, earn more money than you and are more successful in life, and are generally nicer, better people than you, how would you feel?

I won't make it a poll, but would you feel jealous?
Would you be cool with it?
Would you feel appreciative/grateful to be so lucky?
Would you feel inspired to make your life match theirs?
Or something else?

My two friends back in the US, Leo and Taylor. They're married now.

This has happened twice in life so far. Once when I was a teenager with my three school sidekicks, and currently with two friends back in the US I've had since 2016.

To be honest, I do get very jealous, because most of their feats I can never match or surpass them in. Taylor is six feet tall and I knew her before I knew my best friend, Leo, who's 6'4". The two just got married in December. They're 31 and 33 respectively, so I'm older than them. They're also both naturally very good-looking and have celebrity doppelgangers in Henry Cavill and Emily DiDonato.

Leo is just a taller, richer, poorer, American Henry Cavill.

Taylor looks like model Emily DiDonato, but taller and bustier, with bigger cheekbones and not nearly as thin.

I just woke up from a dream where four of us went out to buy tickets for a concert, but three of them went to eat at a pasta restaurant first, while I stood in line for the tickets. After 20 minutes I find out they only had three tickets left. I bought them with my own money and went back, where they just finished eating. I told them there were only three tickets and they decided that I "should sit this one out" and did not even wait for me to grab a plate to eat. They also didn't reimburse me $60 for the tickets. So now I feel pissed off at them, even though it was just a dream, cause that's exactly how I'd expect tall, successful, good-looking people to act.

[HighValue]

I have had friends that had more opportunities than I have because their families had more money than mine (I grew up quite poor) and while they were less qualified they sometimes got hired for jobs easier because some of them had a kiss ass personality. And I had 1 friend that was taller than me (6' 5"), BUT I was always stronger than all of them and could beat any of them in a fight and was always more intelligent than all of them so I don't mind. I have always had an attractive face too.

The three main things that have held me back in life are being poor while growing up and for years as an adult too, and being honest (I won't be a kiss ass for anyone to get ahead/advantages). The third thing that made things more difficult in life was being a straight White Christian man living in very liberal California.

Everyone has some advantages and some disadvantages in life that they need to deal with. Surrounding yourself with others that are equal to or lesser than you should make you feel better though. Think of it this way, if you bought a new Chevy Taho and your neighbor only had a Toyota Corolla, you'd likely feel satisfied, but if you had that Tahoe and your neighbor had a new Youkon Dinali or Escalade, you'd feel disappointed. For many people, their surroundings can have a significant impact on their satisfaction or dissatisfaction in life. Maybe try changing your surroundings.

[MCheetah]

What if it's things you can't correct or fix, like being under six feet tall (as a man), or being unattractive looking, or one's ethnicity?

[HighValue]

Some things are beyond anyone's abilities to change them. Aren't you in South Korea? I would think there should mostly be people around your height or smaller and that shouldn't be as much of an issue there. Or maybe I remember wrong and you aren't from there. I don't know.
The only other things I can think of is to change hairstyle/facial hairstyle, or dress style. I'm not sure how you look exactly besides the cartoon/animated picture.

[MCheetah]

All of my male Korean coworkers were taller than me except the boss, who's like 5'7". One was 6'2" and the other guy was 6'1" (and the shorter one was a legit 39 year old Korean Chad; if he wasn't a gentleman and married, he could be a real p*ssy-slayer in the US.)

Korean men are only 5'8"/173 cm on average, which is only two inches less than American men (as they said; most men where I grew up were more 6'0" or 6'1"/184 cm; I was always the shortest guy.) And Korean women are the same size as American women, about 5'5" or 5'6"/166 cm, and Korean women officially have one of the lowest gender-gaps in height on the planet, Korean women are only three inches shorter than the average man; 5'8"/5'5" compared to 5'10"/5'5" in North America.

So no. Only difference in South Korea would be that 6'1" men would be 6'3" men in the US, and they aren't rare either. I'm still a short-sh*t American at 180 cm here. And my avatar pic is exactly how I look and dress; only difference is I've stopped wearing ties in the Winter cause it's just too cold to deal with that necktie crap right now.

[ShadezMcgee]

I would probably be a little envious, but in all honesty there is a reason that they say to surround yourself with people that are better than you, because it gives you networking and it gives you the inspiration to match their level as well. That doesn't mean become them, but emulate your own greatness that can be reached by learning from them and getting better with each day.

[Fuentes]

Shit my homie would pull more bitches then me and did u find me complaining no cause one of the homegirls she brought was fucking & sucking dick. Tf would I be jealous for I never went after bro no hand me downs for me but for some odd reason bro always went AFTER me and would try to keep it secret hahaaha like bro these chick's hoes hahaha idgaf

[DizzyDesii]

i dont feel My friends of the past were that so it didn't bother me 😂 I mean the one girl who was more attractive is a lesbian so she's no threat since she likes cat and i prefer dog 🤣 Another girl has a better body but her face dont match so again, not really a threat. A lot of them are in debt or look rough because they were big on drugs, partying and alcohol. I was the nicest in our bunch (well except for this church girl who doesn't even believe in kissing before marriage). But yea if i was to follow your hypothetical scenario of someone who I felt was a threat, i’d be a bit bothered or just end the friendship. But i ended friendships regardless of those things because they didn't have much to offer me

[MCheetah]

I'm laughing at the "she likes cat and I prefer dog" and "(well except for this church girl who doesn't even believe in kissing before marriage)" parts.

[DizzyDesii]

I dont blame you

[Fuentes]

Honestly bro I see it like this it's extremely zesty and SuS to care about what the next man has, checking him out head to toe on his size and his athletic buildand deeming him attractive or whatever.

You should never want what the next man has, my mom told me that from day 1 and I never cared. "She said never want what your neighbor has"

If anyone disagrees with what I just said well...

https://www.youtube.com/embed/BSC9I9-8QZM

[MCheetah]

But you want money, though. What if all your friends were rich and you were broke?

[Fuentes]

Lol I don't want nothing anything man has I want money I ain't gonna sit like judas did jesus and be jealous haha jealousy is literally a female trait even Jay Z said "Men shouldn't be jealous it's a female trait" and that's real.

[MCheetah]

I don't want what they specifically have. I just want my own version of success, and I'll never be able to have that.

[Fuentes]

You got masters degree lol why you go to college if you felt that wouldn't do anything? Most people do not have that. You also have intl teaching experiance so you could back to the states with your degree and get a good paying teaching job or work in a school district with a good salary pay. Instead of starting out as a regular teacher with shitty wages lol

I never seen one teacher with intl experiance who was broke, bro could swindle his way into a Vice Principal position and then become a principal or start off in the district and work your way up.

That whole dream is unrealistic and is heading into the form of lala land you know so I would check yourself on what's reality and is not reality. Being tall does not make your rich and good looking lol even if you were tall you still could have been broke many dudes in the hood that are tall and nit doing nothing & many dudes in prison are tall and not doing anything. I got a few homies you woulda thought woulda made it pro cause how tall they're yet doing drugs and have abuncha kids lol

That mindset is ridiculous bro you need find something else to fixate about it's not good.

[letuswaltzforthedead]

motivated if it's something I can fix otherwise I don't really care that much. If someone is born with all the traits to be physically attractive and I wasn't, it's not really something I can fix (unless I do a million surgeries which what's the point? to go from a 3/10 to only a 5/10?). I definitely get envious if it's something thats changeable like income or something. It's nothing against them, everyone wants to be successful to different degrees.

[MCheetah]

This would be MHO worthy if it was earlier.

It's been nearly 18 years since I found out my health condition/status, and despite it all, I still haven't fully accepted reality yet. Maybe it's because I'm stubborn, but accepting that life has no meaning and that literally nothing matters for me, due to the health failure/shortness, is just extremely hard to accept, let alone stop trying to fix.

It's hard to describe, but it's basically like, if I stop trying to fix it, I might as well just stop breathing, too. Devoting my time an energy to help others, like my students and coworkers, gives me a tiny bit of motivation to get out of bed and at least help them out, if I can't fix myself.

[letuswaltzforthedead]

It's better you find other ways of success like you're doing now, not everyone can be a 10/10 physically unflawed person (or close to that perfection if you think perfection doesn't exist). There's no point in pretending like it doesn't take time to accept (or that it's not a pain in the 🍑 to know you've been screwed from birth one or more ways).

[Red-Blaze]

I do get a little jelly and always feel like I may fail them in any momment
I get to hang out with a few that are so much more creative then me and it always makes my own work just feel pointless in compere to there's, and I honestly dont get at all why they honestly ever take the timd to hangout with me
This is online

Offline I am a real dumy but beside that I am very much high on the food chain for the most part, but I do got some better then me in some stuff and it always inspire me

I guess for the most part it makes me inspierd but also some what feel kind of out of place and fake

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Well, I hope I don't sound arrogant in saying this, but I consider myself a fairly successful person and generally my closest friends are of the same ilk.

That said, I do consider that factually speaking, they are more successful than me, and that makes me want to strive and match their successes.

My closest female friends are twins, and they have everything - beauty, intelligence, talent for business. I gave them money from my own inheritance and I'm getting back the investment threefold.

My closest male friend is my brother-in-law, my sister's husband, is a great name in the industry of cured meats, and although he's short and bald, he's fairly attractive and has an energy and a wit that inspire me.

[exitseven]

My best friend is a lot better looking than I am. He always had lots of girlfriends. I never really had a girlfriend until I went to college. I did get jealous of him. However he is now on wife number 4 and I found somebody I want to spend the rest of my life with.

[Nomina]

You've already asked this question last year. I remember. Or a very similar one and I remember the picture of Cavill as an example.
I don't remember if it was a poll or not though.

[MCheetah]

I used Cavill as an example of "tall and small dick guy versus short and big dick guy" last week, but I don't remember asking this last year.

[Nomina]

It was about the same thing. About you in comparison to your friends.

[Berethor]

I am not jealous type, so I would be cool with it, after all they didn't own me anything.

[Ms_Facesitter]

That's not a problem, we all have our own background and set of skills, talents, strengths and weaknesses. It's normal for them to be better at something.

[MCheetah]

😕?
.

[Ms_Facesitter]

what do you mean? It's normal, we're all different people

[MCheetah]

I mean, some people are given almost everything, and some people have nothing at all (like I'm talked to you before about in private messages.) I guess, I don't get why that's neutral, okay, or acceptable for some people to be screwed from birth.

[MCheetah]

like *I've talked to you

[Ms_Facesitter]

It's just that we can't choose where we came from, our surroundings or family. It's just how things are. I don't feel happy or sad about. It's just something that.. is.

[MCheetah]

Yes, life is unfair. But I'm not sure how that's neutral.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I just focus on how I can be the best of me. I see no gain from looking at others in envy.

[jamesgoldman]

They are

It's good, I'd hate to know anyone worse than me honestly

[madgoat]

They are not you and therefore an inappropriate comparison. You have your own path, goals and success. Do not get distracted. If needed, find a new bunch to hang out with.

[Anonymous]

I have a good friend like this. I'm happy for her.

[Summeroflove]

As long as they’re good friends who accept me for me

[JesseJayNeak]

I’m already in that situation so it’s not really surprising

[JosyJosy]

The same as I do now.

[MCheetah]

YOU'RE the one who's better than all of your friends, though! LOL
You said your friend Yolanda was short, tomboyish, and unpretty.

[JosyJosy]

She's pretty, but yes she's short and a tomboy. How does that make her worse?

[jimmy2]

It's all good