Weird roommate wants to "save me." what should I do?

[Anonymous]

I live with my friend/roommate. She is a graduate in psychology and always tells me that "she knows everyone's secrets and problems" because she's good at "sussing them out."

She got drunk the other night and told me she went into my room "while she was looking for me", and "accidentally" went through my mental health medication and my private stuff. She said she "always thought I had problems since she met me" and now she knows what it is "she's going to help me get better" because she's a psychologist.

I told her thank you, but I don't want her help and I'm fine. But she insisted and kept pushing the narrative that I'm "not fine" and she's really worried something's going to happen to me.

She then said, that she "always thought I was perfect" but she knew there was something going on, and she's "going to save me." She told me she considers me her "best friend" and opened up to me, then asked me to open up to her. I felt really uncomfortable but she kept pushing so I did.

I've now found out that she's told her boyfriend that I'm "mentally unwell" and exaggerating the story massively saying something might happen to me, when this is not the truth.

Why is she acting like this? I find this to be really weird and I don't know what to do. I've talked to other friends about this, and they say she might just be trying to help me. But I don't get that impression.

[jorfan3]

It sounds like she has a savior complex: she thinks she can save everyone. It's part of the reason she went into psychology: she believes everyone is "fixable" without medicine.

Tell her you already see a professional: your psychiatrist, and that she couldn't be your psychologist if she is going to violate your privacy. That is NOT professional at all. A good psychologist simply does not do that.

Your friends probably want to see the best in her, but legally she CANNOT be your therapist because you two are friends and that means you two can't have a casual relationship until two years after she's seen you for therapy, inactive. This is to protect the THERAPIST. It is the law.

If she keeps pressing and you don't want to open up, I'd suggest talking to a REAL psychologist, and have THEM explain everything that is wrong with this situation. I can provide one if you don't know one.

[Asker]

Thanks girl. I nearly reported her to her department, actually. Can't have that behaviour from a psychology student.

[jorfan3]

Good for you! I'm glad you did that!

[Biancam13]

Stay away from her. Seriously. Grey-rock her. Sounds like she has issues. She doesn't have good intentions, if she did she would be more understanding and less pushy. She is not your friend.

[Fuentes]

Deff a schizophrenic narc for sure

[WildCard42]

The fact that she got drunk, went into your room, and started snooping through all of your medications and private things would suggest that your roommate is not well mentally either. I've met counsellors before who are very fucked up people, and very hypocritical. They won't take responsibility for their own problems, but yet they try to judge others.

That woman needs to respect your personal space.

[Shamalien]

anyone who goes into my room and snoops through my private shit is no friend of mine

[Brittanyroseee]

This is exactly why im not having roommates 😂their weird as fuck! Move out!

[Fuentes]

Self projection & she may suffer from schizophrenia or something lol

[GOOSEBOY78]

time for you to move. she has turned obsessive.